Izinto ezingama-25 Akukaze Kwephuze Kakhulu Ukuzenza

Amagama Amahle Kakhulu Ezingane

UKourtney Kardashian unenkinga ekhona mayelana nokuba neminyaka engama-40. Candace Bushnell ngiyazisola ngomgwaqo ongathathwanga. Noma ubani onosuku olukhulu lokuzalwa oluzayo—mhlawumbe uhlobo olugcina ngoziro—mhlawumbe angalandisa. Kodwa kusenesikhathi sokufeza okuningi! Nalu uhlu lwezinguquko ezingu-25 ezinhle ongayenza, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi mangaki amakhandlela ekhekheni lakho. Kubheke njengohlu lwamagoli angu-# lweminyaka.



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1. Yeka igqubu

Izimbongi nezazi zefilosofi zithi ukuxolela kuyisipho ozipha sona, futhi lokho kuthethelela kungokwaphezulu. Kusho odokotela kuholela ekukhathazekeni okuncane, ukucindezeleka kanye nokuzivikela okungcono. U-Oscar Wilde uthe: Thethelela izitha zakho. Ayikho into ebacasula kangaka. Ngakho-ke, eqinisweni, asikho isidingo.

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2. Lungisani

Njengoba uJustin Bieber omkhulu ebuza, Ingabe sekwephuzile manje ukuthi ngiyaxolisa? Justin, akunjalo. Ngikholelwa kakhulu ekulungiseni wena kanye nokukhula kwakho siqu, kubhala Rachel Simmons , umbhali we Intombazane Eyinqaba Iphumile . Weluleka ukuba ucace ngesizathu esiyinhloko sokuthi uxolisa: ingabe ukwenza kakhulu ukulungisa ubudlelwano obuphukile, noma ngoba uzizwa unesibopho somuntu siqu, sokuziphatha sokuba ngumnikazi wephutha lakho? Zilungiselele ukuthi kungenzeka ukuthi ukuthethelelwa kungase kunganikezwa. Bese uxolisa noma kanjani uzixolele. (Bheka #1.)

3. Thuthukisa ukulala kwakho

Womp womp qwashisa. Sithatha imikhuba yethu yokulala ebuntwaneni futhi lapho sesikhulile, ingaba nzima ngempela ukuyishintsha. Sivame nokuba nokuningi inkathazo ukuwa nokuhlala silele njengoba sikhula. Kodwa kukhona amathani amaqhinga alula ongazama ukuziqeqesha kabusha—kusukela namhlanje kusihlwa: 1. Bhala phansi okukukhathazayo kujenali yokukhathazeka, ngaleyo ndlela ukususe engqondweni yakho ukuyise ekhasini. 2. Dokha ifoni yakho kwelinye igumbi. Ngisho nokukhanya okuluhlaza okwesibhakabhaka okuvela kudivayisi yokushaja kungase kukhuthaze. 3. Vula umnyango, yehlisa izinga lokushisa libe ngu-67, bese uletha isitshalo sokuhlanza umoya . 4. Hlela isimiso esingaguquguquki, esipholile sokulala (ukufunda, ukuzindla, inqwaba yokuzinakekela). 5. Namathela esimisweni sokulala, okusho ukuthi ulala futhi uvuke ngesikhathi esifanayo nsuku zonke (ukuncipha kokusnuza kwangoMgqibelo = isikhathi esengeziwe sakho konke lokho kufunda nokuzindla). 6. Uma konke kwehluleka, lala uphapheme embhedeni futhi uzame kanzima hhayi ukulala. Kubizwa inhloso eyindida futhi okuwukuphela kwento emangalisa kakhulu kunomqondo ngokwawo ukuthi usebenza kahle kangakanani.

4. Funda insimbi yomculo

Kungenzeka ukuthi uke wabona umdlali wopiyano wakudala Chloe Flower ukuba nesiteji no-Cardi B kuma-Grammys, kodwa umsebenzi wakhe nomnyango we-neurology e-Massachusetts General Hospital ekhuthaza ubuciko bomculo impilo yonke uyamangalisa ngokufanayo. Ukufunda insimbi njengomuntu omdala, kusho yena , Akukephuzi kakhulu ukuqala, noma ukuqala futhi. Ihora elilodwa ngeviki likulungele ngempela. Ukufunda ukudlala-ngisho nokuzama nokudlala kabi-kuvivinya ubuchopho bakho, kuthuthukisa inkumbulo futhi kungase ukusiza ukuvimbela ukuwohloka komqondo . Isho nami manje: KUYA ll C awu KANYE kwe G rass...



5. Funda ulimi olusha

Abafundi abadala kungase kudingeke basebenze kanzima ukuze bakhulume kahle, kodwa bafunda isilulumagama kalula kunentsha. Ubulimimbili bungakwazi ngisho ukubambezela ukuwohloka komqondo ngeminyaka engu-4.5. Kuhle ngokwedlulele!

6. Jabulela ukuba wedwa

Ukufunda, ukubhala, ukucwebeza, ukugeza amabhamuza, ukubukela ngokuzitikayo, ukwenza ama-max futhi ukuphumula-uhlu luqhubeka izinto ezinhle zenziwe yedwa . Ucwaningo lubonisa lokho abantu abangashadile baphila isikhathi eside , ukuphila okujabulisayo, okunempilo, okujabulisayo kunabantu abashadile. Ukungashadile, introversion, isikhathi uwedwa—akusacwaswa; kuyagujwa. Futhi noma ngabe sisebuhlotsheni obuzibophezele futhi ukudla amasoseji eshaweni ukubalekela izingane zethu, sonke singakwazi ukwamukela ama-upsides okuba sodwa.

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7. Phinda uthandane noshade naye

Siyalithanda leli parele lokuhlakanipha elivela kuhabhu yocwaningo lomshado I-Gottman Institute: Kukhona idrama ejulile ezikhathini ezincane zothando…Uthando luhlakulelwa ngesikhathi sokuphila kwansuku zonke. Izikhathi ezincane ezibonakala zingasho lutho—ukwangana ngaphandle kwesizathu, indlebe ezwelayo mayelana nedrama ethile yomsebenzi, ukupakisha ukudla kwasemini kwezingane ngaphandle kokucelwa—lezo ezinenjongo kunazo zonke…Ukusiza ngomsebenzi wasekhaya cishe kuzokwenza kude. okuningi ngobuhlobo bakho kuneholide lamasonto amabili eTahiti.

8. Yiba umzali onozwela, okhona manje

Lesi seluleko esivela ku-Toddler whisperer kanye nomqondisi we I-Center for Toddler Development e-Barnard College , i-Tovah Klein, iyashintsha imidlalo—futhi isebenza ekukhuliseni izingane zabo bonke ubudala. Uma ukona njengomzali futhi ulimaza ubuhlobo bakho nengane yakho (ngokumemeza, ngokusho okuthile okuzisolayo, noma ngokumane ulahlekelwe u-sh—) ukwenza izinto ngaphezu kwephutha : Kungase kuzwakale kungavamile, kodwa ukungahambi kahle akuyona inkinga, inqobo nje uma kukhona ukuxhuma kabusha okuhle, ukulungiswa, kusho u-Klein. Isihluthulelo ngezikhathi ezinjengalezi—lapho izidingo zabo zingqubuzana nezethu—ukuthi uphinda uhlangane kanjani nengane yakho. Ukubuyelana futhi, ngaphandle kokusola, kubazisa ukuthi ulapha ngenxa yabo, njalo, ngisho nalapho izikhathi ezimbi zenzeka.



9. Shintsha imisebenzi

Owayengumdlali we-skater nomhleli wephephabhuku u-Vera Wang unqume ukuba umklami womshado eneminyaka engu-40. Leyo yiminyaka efanayo nothisha wesiNgisi wesikole samabanga aphezulu uJoy Behar lapho ezama amahlaya asezingeni eliphezulu. Umqondisi u-Ava DuVernay wayekade engumsakazi. Futhi ngaphambi kokuba abe neminyaka engama-32, u-Julia Child wayengakaze apheke isidlo: Kuze kube yileso sikhathi, ngangisanda kudla. Udinga inspo eyengeziwe? Nalu uhlu lwazo abesifazane abaphumelele imisebenzi yabo eyaqala ngemva baba nezingane .

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10. Yenza ukuphila kwakho kube lula

Uthi bewazi sigqoka amaphesenti angu-20 kuphela yalokho okusekhabetheni lethu, kodwa abantu besifazane abathinteka kakhulu kukho i-compulsive buying disorder ? Leyo misebenzi eminingi yangemva kwesikole empeleni ingalimaza ukuthuthukiswa kanye nenhlalakahle yezingane? Futhi ukuthi ngo-2019, i-World Health Organization yabona ngokusemthethweni ukutubeka (enye inselele yezempilo yengqondo ehlasela abesifazane kakhulu) njengesifo esisemthethweni esibangelwa ingcindezi yomsebenzi? Kusemthethweni: I-JOMO iyi-FOMO entsha.

11. Cabanga ngendlela eyakhayo

Amagama amabili: iphephabhuku lokubonga. Bhala phansi izinto obonga ngazo. Yilokho kuphela. Futhi uma udinga usizo oluthile, zama a Panda Planner !

12. Shintsha ubudlelwano bakho notshwala…noma ushukela…noma i-caffeine

Ku iposi mayelana (ikakhulukazi) ukuyeka utshwala, injabulo uchwepheshe uGretchen Rubin uyabhala: Kungenye yezimfihlo ezibaluleke kakhulu zokukhula: Ngenxa yokuthi okuthile kumnandi komunye umuntu, akusho ukuthi kumnandi kimi—futhi ngokuphambene nalokho. Dlala ngalokho okukusebenzelayo ngokuqeda.

13. Yenza abangani abasha

Oh my God kukhona iBumble yabangane, futhi ibizwa ngeBFF. Ngokusho kwenxusa likasaziwayo uJameela Jamil, cishe isigamu sabo bonke abantu baseMelika bayavuma ukuthi bazizwa beshiyiwe kaningi. Yebo. Abacwaningi bathi ukwenza abangane kufana nomsipha; kuyikhono elingakwazi ukudumazeka, kodwa futhi lingaqiniswa. Uma ungomunye wabangane be-analogi, a Umfundi wendebe kaJo inikeza lesi sikhuthazo sokubuza umuntu omjwayele ukuze aphuze ikhofi: Yini ethopha ngaphezu kokuba othile athi ucabanga ukuthi umuhle futhi angathanda ukuhlangana futhi? Ubungane buqala ngobungane, hhayi ukuphola.

14. Iya edolobheni elisha

Abantu bashintsha amadolobha qopha izinombolo . Futhi izinkulungwane zeminyaka zinjalo kabili ngangokunokwenzeka ukuthuthela esifundeni esisha njengomuntu waseMelika ojwayelekile. Ngakho ngeke kube nguwe wedwa okwenzayo. Kodwa ungakhathazeki, nawe ngeke ube mdala kunabo bonke. Ngike ngabona ukukhuphuka okukhulu kubantu abaneminyaka engama-50 abenze isinqumo sokuthuthela eNew York, umphathi wezokuthengisa izindlu uJoan Kagan utshela I-New York Post .

eziyishumi nanhlanu. Phusha isitayela sakho

Ngolunye usuku akulona usuku lokuzama ingwe, amateki anengubo noma i-neon green hair-tie. Yilolo suku namuhla .

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16. Yidla izitshalo eziningi

Asisho ukuthi kufanele wenze uBeyoncé ngokugcwele. Kodwa uzama ukufaka omunye wethu Imifino engu-15 enomsoco kakhulu ekudleni kwakho okulandelayo kuyindlela ephelele yokuqala.

17. Hlukana nefoni yakho

UKevin Roose wabhala ngaye ukuncika kwesikrini kwe New York Times futhi sazizwa sibona: Ngazithola ngingakwazi ukufunda izincwadi, ukubuka amamuvi agcwele noma ukuba nezingxoxo ezinde ezingaphazanyiswa. Wathola amakhambi afana nesabatha ledijithali, lapho ungafoni ucingo usuku olulodwa ngesonto, futhi washintsha isikrini sakhe sokukhiya ukuze ambuze imibuzo emithathu njalo lapho eya ukuze afinyelele ocingweni lwakhe: Kwenzenjani? Kungani manje? Yini enye? Cishe sonke singazuza ngokuzibuza okufanayo.

18. Hlukana nomngane onobuthi

Abacwaningi bathi sivame ukunamathela ebunganini esichithe isikhathi esiningi kubo, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi bayaqhubeka yini nokusizuzisa. Sithi impilo ifushane kakhulu. Ngakho uma ubona izimpawu zobudlelwano obunobuthi , cishe sekuyisikhathi sokusika intambo.

19. Hamba blonde

Noma umlotha , i-marshmallow ebhemayo noma i-lilac kashokoledi. Uthingo luyi-oyster yakho.

20. Buyela esikoleni

Isilinganiso seminyaka yomfundi waseMelika oneziqu singama-33. Amaphesenti angu-40 abafundi besifazane grad bangaphezu 35. Ngamafuphi: Thola it.

21. Hlela kahle izimali zakho

Uchwepheshe wezezimali uDkt. Brad Klontz ufunga ukuthi isinyathelo sokuqala ukufunda incwadi—noma iyiphi incwadi—emayelana nezimali zomuntu siqu.

22. Yakha umkhuba wokuzindla

Kungithathe iminyaka engu-20 noma engu-30 yokuzama, kodwa ekugcineni nginomkhuba wokuzindla ngenxa yezinhlelo zokusebenza zokuzindla, umbhali u-Elizabeth Gilbert. kusho muva nje . Nkulunkulu, ukube bebehlale benezinhlelo zokusebenza bengizokwazi ukuzindla eminyakeni edlule.

23. Yeka ukubulala zonke izitshalo ozithintayo

Futhi uma uqhubeka nokubabulala bonke, vele uye esitshalweni esihle esingumgunyathi. Cha shame.

24. Qala ukuzivocavoca

Lo wesifazane uqeqeshelwe i-marathon yakhe yokuqala eneminyaka engu-60.

25. Njengawe

Nangu uGwyneth Paltrow efingqa ukuguga, ukuya esikhathini kanye nokulahlekelwa umqondo wokuthi—ngokwezindinganiso zomphakathi—usengumuntu wocansi. 'Ngenhlanhla, okwenzekayo ngesikhathi esifanayo uqala ukuzithanda wena. Ngicabanga ukuthi ufika endaweni lapho kucishe kube sengathi uhlobo lwakho lwe-pulchritude luncipha ngendlela futhi nobuhle bakho bangaphakathi, sengathi, buphuma ngempela. Nakhu kuma-bloomers aphuzile.

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