Ubaba uphuma edilini lokubonisana ngemva kokufunda ubulili bosana lwakhe olungakazalwa

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Ubaba okhulelwe uthukuthelise izinkundla zokuxhumana ngemuva kokuphuma edilini lomntwana ongakazalwa ngesikhathi efunda ubulili bengane.

Umsolwa oneminyaka engu-33 ubudala, osevele enendodakazi eneminyaka emihlanu ubudala, wathatha I-Reddit's Am I The A ** umgodi inkundla yokufuna izeluleko ngemuva kokucasula unkosikazi wakhe oneminyaka engu-34 kanye nabasemzini wakhe ngokubhoka kwakhe, ngesikhathi okwakuhloswe ukuba kube umcimbi okhethekile.

Ubelokhu ekhala ngakho konke ukukhulelwa kwakhe ngakho udadewabo wathembisa ukumhlelela iphathi eveza ubulili, indoda waqala , ngaphezulu noma ngaphansi osekusonyaweni olungalungile.

Icebo laliwukuthi konke ukudla nemihlobiso kuyoba luhlaza okwesibhakabhaka noma ebomvana futhi ekugcineni sithole enye yalezo zinhlayiya ezikhethekile ezazizokhanya ngokuluhlaza okwesibhakabhaka noma okubomvana ukuze ziveze ubulili, waqhubeka. Saya kudokotela safika sabhala umphumela ephepheni eligoqiwe sadlulela kudadewabo singabhekanga.

Kuzwakala kusezingeni elihle lephathi eveza ubulili, akunjalo? Akulungile.

Naphezu kokwazi kahle ukuthi yini okufanele ayilindele ngosuku olukhulu, ubaba wezingane ezimbili walahlekelwa ingqondo yakhe ngemva kokufunda ubulili bomntwana wakhe wesibili.

Ngakho-ke khanyisa usuku lwephathi futhi umzuzu weqiniso uyeza futhi i-sparkler iba pink entombazaneni, yena. wabhala . Angazi ukuthi kwenzekani phezu kwami ​​kodwa engangikuzwa ngaleso sikhathi kwaba ukudumala okubuhlungu kakhulu. Uma ngikhuluma iqiniso, engangikuthembile nje ukuthi ingane # 2 izokwazi ukuphonsa ibhola eduze kwayo futhi ngiqeqeshe iligi encane. Noma mbuke ehamba ohambweni lokukhempa lwe-Boy Scouts.

Ngiyazi ukuthi indodakazi yami ineminyaka emihlanu kuphela, kodwa sengiqalile ukubhekana namadrama okuba ngubaba wentombazane futhi umcabango wokuthi kufanele uphindwe kabili manje ku-neuroticism wawubuhlungu, kuqhuba le ndoda. Umkami wangibamba ingalo ngesikhathi abantu beza kithi bezosihalalisela bathi kufanele ngibukeke ngijabule. Ngaleso sikhathi ngavele ngaquma. Nganikina ikhanda ngaphuma ngaya emotweni yami (safika ngokuhlukana) sahamba saya endlini kadadewethu (21F).

Hhayi-ke, lokhu akuzange kuhlale kahle nakunkosikazi wale ndoda noma Abasebenzisi be-Reddit, abambize ngesimo sakhe sengqondo ngamantombazane/abesifazane bebonke.

Akekho okuvimbela ukuthi ujikijele ibhola nendodakazi yakho, noma ukhempe nayo, noma uyikhuthaze ukuthi ibambe iqhaza kwezemidlalo, umsebenzisi oyedwa. wabhala . Uwena obavimba kulokhu.

I-misogyny efafazwe kulo lonke leli posi iyamangaza, kwenanela omunye.

Ubaba wayenamantombazane amane futhi ngake ngambuza ukuthi wayefisa yini ukuba namadodana, kwengezwe okwesithathu. Uthe ngeke neze akwazi ukudlala ezemidlalo futhi ahlanganyele izinto azithandayo namadodakazi akhe ngendlela angenza ngayo namadodana nokuthi ngeke ashintshe lutho. Futhi kwakuyiqiniso, futhi ngibonga kakhulu ubaba wasikhulisa ngaleyo ndlela.

Bekuyithuba le-50/50, ilethiwe omunye. Indlela osabela ngayo manje isesidlangalaleni futhi ingane yakho izozwa ngakho ngesikhathi esithile futhi izozizwa njengenganekwane. Ubufuna umfana, kulungile .. kodwa uma ungakwazi ukubhekana nokuba nentombazane, bekungafanele ube nesimemezelo sobulili somphakathi. Noma enye ingane, mhlawumbe.

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