Ngemuva kobusuku obuningi obunzima kanye nasekuseni okuphekwe ikhofi, ekugcineni unqume ukunikeza ukuqeqeshwa ukulala ukuhamba. Lapha, enye yezindlela ezidume kakhulu—nezimpikiswano—ichazwe.
Ferber, ubani manje? Udokotela wezingane nowayengumqondisi weCenter for Pediatric Sleep Disorders at Children's Hospital eBoston, uDkt. Richard Ferber ushicilele incwadi yakhe. Xazulula Izinkinga Zokulala Zengane Yakho ngo-1985 futhi yashintsha kakhulu indlela izingane (kanye nabazali bazo) abebesnuza ngayo kusukela ngaleso sikhathi.
Pho kuyini? Ngamafuphi, kuyindlela yokuqeqesha ukulala lapho izingane zifunda khona ukuzithulisa ukuze zilale (ngokuvamile ngokuzikhalela) lapho sezilungile, ngokuvamile eziba nezinyanga ezinhlanu ubudala.
Isebenza kanjani? Okokuqala, landela isimiso esinakekelayo sokulala (njengokugeza nokufunda incwadi) ngaphambi kokulalisa ingane yakho lapho isozela kodwa isaphapheme. Khona-ke (futhi nansi ingxenye enzima) uphuma ekamelweni—ngisho noma ingane yakho ikhala. Uma ingane yakho iphikisana, ungangena ukuze uyiduduze (ngokumbambatha futhi unikeze amazwi apholileyo, hhayi ngokuyiphakamisa) kodwa, futhi, uqiniseke ukuthi uhamba lapho isavukile. Njalo ebusuku, unyusa inani lesikhathi phakathi kwalokhu kungena, uFerber akubiza ngokuthi 'ukulinda okuqhubekayo.' Ngobusuku bokuqala, ungase uhambe uyoduduza ingane yakho njalo ngemva kwemizuzu emithathu, emihlanu neyishumi (imizuzu eyishumi ibe isikhathi esiphezulu sokuphumula, nakuba uzoqala kabusha ngemizuzu emithathu uma ivuka kamuva). Ezinsukwini ezimbalwa kamuva, kungenzeka ukuthi usebenze ukungena emizuzwini engama-20, engama-25 kanye nengama-30.
Kungani lokhu kusebenza? Inkolelo-mbono iwukuthi ngemva kwezinsuku ezimbalwa zokwandisa kancane kancane izikhathi zokulinda, izingane eziningi zizoqonda ukuthi ukukhala kubenza basheshe bangene kuwe futhi bafunde ukulala ngokwabo. Le ndlela iphinde isuse ukuzihlanganisa okungenalusizo ngesikhathi sokulala (njengokugona nomama) ukuze ingane yakho (emcabangweni) ingabe isakudinga noma ikulindele lapho ivuka phakathi nobusuku.
Ingabe lokhu kuyafana nendlela ye-cry-it-out? Kunjalo, kunjalo. Indlela ye-Ferber ine-rep embi futhi abazali abaningi bakhathazekile ngokushiya ingane yabo yodwa ukuze ikhale embhedeni wabo ubusuku bonke. Kodwa uFerber uyashesha ukuveza ukuthi indlela yakhe empeleni igxile ekuqothulweni kancane kancane, okungukuthi, ukubambezela isikhathi phakathi kokuvuka nokududuza ngezikhathi ezithile. Isiteketiso esingcono singase sibe indlela yokuhlola nekhonsoli. Ngiyitholile? Ubusuku obuhle kanye nenhlanhla.
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