Ayikho indlela elula yokusho lokhu. Noma kunjalo, uma uzizwa udabukile SONKE isikhathi ngawe ngenxa yokuthile owashiwo noma akwenzile omunye wakho obalulekile, noma uye wabhekana nezenzakalo ezingezinhle kaningi ngenxa yazo, khona-ke nakanjani usebudlelwaneni obunobuthi. Okubi nakakhulu, ubudlelwano obunobuthi bukwenza uzizwe sengathi konke okungemnandi okwenzekayo kuyiphutha lakho.
Ngokwemvelo yakhona, ubudlelwano kufanele busicebise, busisize sikhule futhi sizizwe singcono. Ozakwethu banjengezibuko ezisisiza ukuthi sizibuke ngendlela ecacile, basitshele ukuthi sibahle nini futhi kuphi futhi basisize sibukeke kangcono uma singebona. Hhayi ngenye indlela.
Isithombe: Shutterstock Uma uthola ukuthi izimpawu azisaklabalasi kuwe odongeni kodwa zisuka ngaphakathi kwekhanda lakho futhi wenza konke ongakwazi ukukulalela, ukubukeka nokwazi, lapho-ke uyazi ukuthi yisikhathi sokuphuma.
Ukuphuma ebudlelwaneni obunobuthi kungaba omunye wemisebenzi enzima kakhulu, ikakhulukazi uma ukholelwa ukuthi uwedwa. Awuwedwa neze. Udinga ukuthola umuntu ofanele ongamethemba noma indawo efanele yokubheka okufanele ukwenze. Ukwesekwa kuhlale kuyindlela yokuxhumana.
Nakhu okungakusiza ukuthi uhlele inqubo yakho yokuphuma kalula.
Isinyathelo 1: Thembeka ngokwedlulele kuwena.
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Zibuze ukuthi kungani ukhethe ukuhlala esimweni, esikushiya uzizwe ubi kakhulu kunangesikhathi ungekho kuso. Kungcono ukuba wedwa kunokuzizwa unecala, ukwesaba, ukuhlazeka kanye nokuhlukaniswa yilo kanye lowo muntu obubheke ukwakha ubuhlobo naye. Nomaphi lapho uzizwa untula kakhulu, noma ngabe uyakwazi noma cha, yindawo eyodwa okade uzizwa kabi kakhulu ngayo. Ubuqinile ngaphambili nangaphandle kobudlelwano kunamanje. Kuvume lokho.
Isinyathelo sesi-2: Thola i-Achilles Heel.
Ubudlelwano obunobuthi obuningi bunoxhaka kumuntu, ngokusekelwe lapho lowo muntu ezwa ukuthi udinga ukuhlala ebudlelwaneni. Abesifazane bazokholelwa ukuthi ukuncika kwabo ngokwezimali endodeni, noma ezinganeni, noma ukucwaswa okubi kakhulu emphakathini. Ayikho ingane efuna ukukhula ibona izici ezinobuthi zomunye umzali ziqeda amandla okuphila komunye. Alikho inani lemali elizoba inani elanele ukuzethemba kwakho. Uma ungakuvumi lokho, manje yisikhathi sokuyeka ukufunda lesi sihloko. Ukucwaswa komphakathi kuyindlela yomphakathi yokukulawula. Hlehlisa lokho ngokuqaphela kakhulu ihlazo labo, futhi uma kudingeka, lilethe ngobuqili ekunakekeleni kwalabo abafuna ukukukhohlisa ngokukusabisa ukuthi uhambise lokho abanquma ukuthi kuhle noma akulungile.
Isinyathelo sesi-3: Xhuma kabusha nezingxenye zakho ezindala, ezinempilo.
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Ngaphambi kokuba sibe sebudlelwaneni obunobuthi, kwakunezingxenye zempilo yethu ezazingahlobene, ezazisinika injabulo enkulu. Kukho konke okungenzeka, uziyekile lezo. Kukho konke okungenzeka, kwakungenxa yokuthi uzakwethu onobuthi uveze ukuthi kufanele wenze kanjalo, ngokuqondile noma ngokungaqondile. Ngokushesha qala okuthile kuleyo migqa, ngisho noma kungenacala njengokulima, noma isifundo se-inthanethi sokufunda ulimi olusha, noma ukufundisa izingane, noma ukusiza umuntu omdala ngezinto eziyisisekelo. Thola indlela yokuthola amanye (noma amaningi ngaphezulu) amaphuzu agxilile angathathi hlangothi futhi anika injabulo. Zithokozise ngalokhu.
Isinyathelo 4. Kancane kancane, buthule isisekelo ngaphandle kobudlelwano.
Ongathembela kukho kuso sonke isahluko esisha, esinempilo empilweni yakho. Alikho ihlazo lokuba wedwa. Kungaba isisekelo somzwelo, esezezimali, noma isisekelo esingokomzimba sezinhlelo zokuhlala. Kubalulekile ukwenza lokhu kancane kancane, futhi ungavumeli umlingani onobuthi ukuthi azi. Qala ukuhlela buthule futhi kusenesikhathi, ngosuku ozohamba ngalo. Okwamanje, ungenzi lutho ukuze uvumele omunye umuntu ezwe ukuthi uhlela lokhu. Eqinisweni, bavumele baqhubeke nokukholelwa ukuthi basenokubusa okuphelele phezu kwakho.
Isinyathelo sesi-5: Hamba. Kalula, buthule futhi kungazelelwe.
Isithombe: Shutterstock Ungabuyeli emuva. Ungalokothi ubavumele baphinde baxhumane nawe futhi bakutshele ukuthi bazisola kangakanani, ukuthi bazokwenza noma yini ukuze bakubuyisele emuva, nokuthi bazoshintsha. Ngeke. Bayoncenga, bancenge, basongele, mhlawumbe babe ngamazwi, babe nobudlova obungokomzwelo. Yazi nje, ukuthi udlame lwabo kanye nesifiso sabo sokukushaya, lokho kuyizinga labo lokwesaba nokushaqeka ngokulahlekelwa nguwe. Bebehlale bethembele kuwena ukuthi ungaba yisikhwama sokuchezuka kanye nesibhakela ngenxa yehlazo nesihluku sabo, okuzomele babhekane nabo bodwa. Kuqaphele lokhu, futhi ubhekane nakho ngokwethukela.
Uma ungakwenza lokhu, asikho isizathu sokuthi kungani ungenayo indlela eya kancane kancane yokuphulukisa yonke ingxenye yenhliziyo yakho ekufanele.
