Ngizwa sengathi lona bekuwunyaka engangingahlangana ngawo nomuntu, uMorgan oneminyaka engu-31 ubudala wangithululela isifuba ngesikhathi sokuhlangana kwe-Zoom nabangane abasakazeke ezweni lonke. Manje has ubhubhane lwakho ukuphola isipiliyoni empeleni bekunje? kubuza omunye umngani. Okwangimangazayo, impilo kaMorgan yokuthandana, nakuba iphazanyiswa yi-COVID-19, ayizange ilahleke ngokuphelele. Eqinisweni, akuchazayo—izikhathi ezinde zokuthumelelana imiyalezo, ukulengiswa okubonakalayo kanye nokuhlangana kwekhofi nomuntu ongaphandle ngezikhathi ezithile (okungavamile kakhulu)—kuzwakala kuhle, ngingasho ngithi, kunempilo emelene nemihlangano yokuqala ye-IRL yangaphambi kwe-coronavirus efakwe ikhefu elibi. (inhlekelele), izipoki kanye/noma izinqumo zomlilo osheshayo ezisekelwe olwazini oluncane kakhulu. Futhi kukhona igama lalokhu: Umbiko wokuqomisana ka-Bumble wango-2021 ibiza kancane ukujola. Ngakho-ke, ngenkathi izinkulungwane zeminyaka eyodwa njengomngane wami zingakhathazeka ngamathuba othando alahlekile ngenxa yalolu bhubhane, ochwepheshe babona umugqa wesiliva wehla. Nasi isizathu.
Kuyini ‘ukuthandana kancane’?
Ngokwe-Bumble, ukuphola okunensayo kuwumkhuba wokuthi abantu bazinike isikhathi sokwazana nokwakha ukuxhumana ngaphambi kokunquma ukuthi bafuna ukuphishekela ubuhlobo noma ukuhlangana mathupha. Futhi akumangalisi ukuthi, lesi simo savela ekuqapheleni ukuphepha ngenxa ye-COVID-19, okuye kwaholela ekwandiseni okujulile kokwazana, kanye nemingcele yomunye nomunye, ukuze kuqinisekiswe ukuthi umdlalo ufanelekile impilo engaba khona. ingozi yokuhlangana.
Umphumela? Amaphesenti angu-55 abantu ku-Bumble athatha isikhathi eside ukuhambisa umdlalo ungaxhunyiwe ku-inthanethi. UJemma Ahmed, inhloko yemininingwane kwaBumble, ukholelwa ukuthi lokhu kuhlobene nokuba nesikhathi nezimo—ubhubhane luzoshintsha umbono wakho—ukuze ucabange ngokujulile ngalokho abakufunayo ebudlelwaneni. Abantu sebeqala ukuzazi kakhulu, kusho u-Ahmed. Futhi ngenxa yalokho, bathatha isikhathi sokuthola ukuthi ubani futhi ongalungile kubo.
Pho kungani lokhu kungaba yinto enhle?
Ngaphezu kokuthatha isikhathi sokuhlola izinto eziza kuqala kuwe, Jordan Green , umelaphi womtholampilo onelayisensi osebenza nabo bobabili abantu kanye nezithandani (landela @the.love.therapist ukuze uthole inspo kanye namathiphu ezemfundo), ubonile ukuthi kwabanye, ukuphola cishe kubavumele isikhathi sokwazi omunye umuntu ngaphambi kokugxumela phakathi kakhulu. Abantu bachitha isikhathi esiningi bejwayelana futhi bachitha isikhathi esiningi esigabeni ‘senkantolo’ ngaphambi kokuya ocansini. Kungani lokhu kuyinto enhle ngempela? Nokho, ngokusho Green, abantu abaningi abaningi bakuthola kulula ukuvula mayelana izintandokazi, izinto eziza kuqala, ukwesaba, amathemba nemizwa kuyilapho ukuphola cishe ngokungafani in-umuntu. Lokhu kwenza kube lula ukukhipha abantu abangenawo amanani nemigomo efanayo. Futhi kwenza kube lula ukwazi othile ngokushesha, uGreen uyachaza.
USusan Trombetti, umenzi womdlalo kanye ne-CEO ye Ukufanisa Okukhethekile futhi ubone okuhle ekushintsheni kokuqomisana kobhubhane. Abantu bavame ukuswayipha kakhulu ezinhlelweni zokusebenza zokuphola, bezama ukuthola ‘uhlobo lwabo oluphelele,’ olungekho, usho kanje. Ngejubane elikhululeke kakhudlwana, elinonembeza, iphuli yokuqomisana eyayizigcwalisela ingekho manje inwetshiwe. Futhi imininingwane ayiqambi amanga: amaphesenti angama-38 abantu abaku-Bumble bathi ukuvala isivalo kubenze bafune okuthile okubucayi kakhulu. Ekuhlangenwe nakho komdlalo kaTrombetti, abangashadile abalahlekelwanga lutho. Kunalokho, [Baye] bathola iqoqo elikhulu labantu abathatha ubudlelwano njengento ebaluleke kakhulu, futhi lokho kube ukuhwebelana okuhle kunoma imaphi amathuba ozwa sengathi ulahlekile. Uma uxhumana nomuntu, akabheki phezulu mayelana nokuqomisana futhi namathuba akho okwakha ubuhlobo bangempela ande kakhulu.
Ingabe lokho kusho ukuthi kufanele utshele bonke abangani bakho abangabodwa abakhungathekile ukuthi behlise umoya (noma enye yalezi ezinye ezivamile faux pas )? Cha. Wonke umuntu uzophinde ahlangabezane nalolu shintsho lokuthandana (kanye nawo wonke u-2020 ngaleyo ndaba) ngendlela ehlukile. Kubantu abangenayo intshisekelo kubudlelwano kodwa abafisa ukuhlangana okungajwayelekile, lesi sikhathi singaba nesizungu ngendlela emangalisayo. Akukho okulingana nosayizi owodwa. Kodwa uma wena, njengomngane wami uMorgan, ulwa nombono wesikhathi esilahlekile, zama ukuthatha isinyathelo emuva futhi ubone ukuthi yiziphi izinguquko eziye zavela ekuphileni kwakho kokuphola ezifanele ukuletha esikhathini esizayo kuwe. Ungase, kancane, kodwa ngokuqinisekile, ubone ukuthi lokhu kuzokuyisa kuphi.
OKUHLOSIWEYO: Izinto Ezi-2 Odinga Ukuzisungula Ngaphambi Kosuku Lokuqala Ngo-2021
