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Intsha idume kabi futhi icubungula izehlakalo zezinyanga eziyi-15 ezedlule, ingabe ngempela ungayisola? Kodwa ikakhulukazi ngenxa yezehlakalo zakamuva (ukufunda okungokoqobo, ama-prom akhanseliwe, ukuxhumana okulinganiselwe nabangane, uhlu luqhubeka njalo) lapho abazali kufanele bahlole nentsha ukuthi izizwa kanjani. Kunenkinga eyodwa—njalo uma ubuza ingane yakho ukuthi belunjani usuku lwayo, iyakhala. Yingakho sifinyelele kochwepheshe ukuze sithole izeluleko zabo.

Kodwa ngaphambi kokuthi singene kulokho esizokusho (futhi singakusho) enganeni yakho, lungisa isilungiselelo. Ngoba uma ufuna ingane yakho ukwabelana ngokuthile (noma yini!) mayelana nosuku lwayo, uzodinga ukususa ukucindezela.

Ngemva kokusebenza nentsha iminyaka eminingi, eminingi, ngingasho ukuthi indlela engcono kakhulu yokuba abazali benze izingane zabo zikhululeke akukhona ukusho noma yini eqondile, kodwa kunalokho ngokuhlanganyela nazo, umelaphi. U-Amanda Stemen uyasitshela. Lokhu kuvumela ingxoxo ukuthi ihambe ngokwemvelo.

Izindlela ezi-3 ezigunyazwe obelaphi zokususa ingcindezi

Emotweni.Bavumele bakhethe umculo/i-podcast uma bengena emotweni, kusho umelaphi UJacqueline ujabule . Lapho unikeza ingane yakho ithuba lokukhetha umculo, wenza izinto ezimbalwa. 1. Ubenza bakhululeke. 2. Ukhipha noma yikuphi ukwedelela okungenzeka ku-equation ngoba benza ukukhetha futhi 3. Ubazisa ukuthi ukukhetha kwabo/ukunambitheka kwabo emculweni/embonweni kubalulekile. Usengabeka umngcele, njengokuthi 'akunasiqalekiso' noma 'akukho zinhlamvu zamagama ezinobudlova' (ikakhulukazi uma kukhona izingane zakini ezincane eduze) kodwa ngokuvumela ingane yakho ukuba ikhethe umculo, uyinikeza isikhashana ukuze ikwazi ukuphumula futhi izokwamukela kangcono ukukuvulela isifuba. Ngenkathi ubuka umabonakude.Ngomelaphi womndeni ngamunye Saba Harouni Lurie , enye yezindlela ezinhle kakhulu zokuxhumana nengane yakho ukujabulela ifilimu nayo. Ukubuka ifilimu abazikhethele yona bese bekhuluma ngayo phezu kwesitsha sika-ayisikhilimu kungase kube ntofontofo kakhulu kunokuchayeka mayelana nobudlelwano babo noma indlela abazizwa ngayo ngekusasa labo, esho. Ngenkathi ezohamba ngezinyawo.Kunokuba nibe nengxoxo ngokushesha ngemva kokuphuma kwesikole, yenzeni nihambe nihambe noma njengoba sebelungiselela ukulala, kusikisela isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo yezingane. Tamara Glen Soles, PhD. Ukuhamba eceleni noma ukuhlala eduze kwengane yakho embhedeni wayo kusho ukuthi anibukani ngqo emehlweni. Lokhu kuvame ukwenza kube lula ukuthi intsha ivuleke futhi ibe sengozini. Ngesikhathi somsebenzi abawukhethile.Qiniseka ukuthi ukhetha imisebenzi ingane yakho esevele inentshisekelo kuyo. Kungcono nakakhulu uma nobabili niyijabulela, kodwa qinisekani ukuthi iyayenza, kusho uStemen.

Futhi ngithini?

Ubuza ingane yakho ukuthi belunjani usuku lwayo ngoba ufuna ukwazi ngokweqiniso. Ngaphandle kwempendulo oke wayithola ithi KULUNGILE (noma uma unenhlanhla, kulungile). Futhi yilokho-okwakuhloselwe ukuba ngumqali wengxoxo evulekile ngokushesha kuba isiphetho esifile. Okubi nakakhulu, uma ubuza lo mbuzo njalo lapho ingane yakho ingase icabange ukuthi lokhu kuwumkhuba nje wokungena, kunokuba umzamo wokuthola ukuthi kwenzakalani ngempela ngaphakathi kwekhanda layo. Isixazululo? Khetha isikhathi nendawo efanele (bona amanothi ngenhla) bese ucacisa.

Esikhundleni sokuthi ‘belunjani usuku lwakho’, buza imibuzo eqondile njengokuthi ‘yini into obungayilindele noma ekumangazile namuhla?’ noma ‘yini into ekubekele inselele namuhla?’ kusho uSoles. Uma umbuzo ucacile, maningi amathuba okuthi uthole impendulo, uyanezela. Nanku omunye umbuzo awuthandayo: ‘Iyiphi into ekwenze wazizwa unjani Ngikutholile lokhu ?'

URavelo uyavuma ukuthi ukucacisa kubalulekile. Ngokubuza imibuzo ecebe ngempela, yekhwalithi ephezulu, njengokuthi ‘iyiphi ingxenye obuyithanda kakhulu namuhla?’ noma ‘iyiphi into enzima kakhulu eyenzeke esikoleni?’ uvula inkhulumomphendvulwano eyedlula impendulo yezwi elilodwa futhi ikunikeza ithuba lokuhlola okwengeziwe nengane yakho, kuchaza umelaphi. Ungaqhubeka nengxoxo ngokubuza imibuzo yokulandelela efana nokuthi, 'Bekunjani lokho kuwe?' noma 'yini ongayithandanga ngalokho' ukuze ugcine ingxoxo iqhubeka futhi unikeze ingane yakho ithuba lokwabelana ngokwemvelo ngalokho ekuzwayo. .

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