Owesifazane ususa ingxabano ngemuva kokumemezela isinqumo sempilo yomyeni wakhe okuthiwa siyashaqisa.
Oneminyaka engu-24 ubudala, ebhala ngaphansi kwegama lomsebenzisi elithi throwra_l8tr wacela usizo ku-Reddit r/relationship_advice inkundla. Eposini lakhe, wabelane kakhulu eyingqayizivele isizathu sokuba alwe nomlingani wakhe.
Inkinga? Yena umyeni , oneminyaka engu-25 ubudala, ngokusobala usekhe yonke indawo yokudlela yase-Taco Bell ehhovisi lakubo. Abasebenzisi abaningi be-Reddit bathole le nkinga iwubala, kodwa ku- throwra_l8tr, kuyinkinga enkulu.
Ngisamangele nje impela futhi ngithukile lokho noma ubani , ingasaphathwa eyokuthi umyeni wami, angacabanga ukuthi kuwumbono omuhle, wabhala.
‘Ngamtshela imizwa yami eqotho’
Owesifazane wachaza ukuthi umyeni wakhe ubelokhu ethanda i-Taco Bell, indawo yokudlela angayithandi kakhulu. Muva nje, ube nethuba lokuveza ukukhathazeka kwakhe ekhaya - ngemuva kokuthi i-franchise eseduze iguqule umhlobiso wayo.
Ngifika ekhaya futhi kunenqwaba yezikhumbuzo ze-Taco Bell zama-90s egaraji. Ngokusobala enye yezindawo zokudlela zasendaweni yayithola ukulungiswa kabusha futhi ngicabanga ukuthi wafumbathisa umphathi ukuze amvumele athathe idokodo nezinye izinto, kubhala owesifazane.
I-Redditor ithe ayizange iphatheke kabi ngesinqumo sezimali, njengoba umyeni wakhe esebenzisa imali yakhe. Nokho, wazizwa ecasukile ukuthi akazange ambuze kusengaphambili.
Ngaphezu kwakho konke, wayebonakala engayithandi imihlobiso, eguqule igumbi lendlu yabo laba yindawo yokudla okusheshayo.
Ngamtshela imizwa yami eqotho. Bengicabanga ukuthi kubi futhi kuqinile futhi kukhazimulise uchungechunge lokudla okungenamsoco, wabhala. Ingasaphathwa ukuthi iphikisana nayo yonke i-motif yazo zonke izindawo zethu zokuhlala.
‘Usabela ngokweqile’
Inkosikazi yabhala ukuthi umyeni wayo yamphatha kabi kakhulu impendulo yakhe, kodwa yazibamba. Manje, useqagela sonke isimo.
Ngibona sengathi nginephuzu ngoba yindlu yethu futhi ngihlala lapha, kodwa uthi yimali yakhe futhi angenza akuthandayo ngayo, wabhala. Ingabe ngiyahlanya noma nginelungelo lokucasuka lapho umuzi wethu usuphenduka i-fast-food franchise?
Abasebenzisi beReddit bebenokuningi abangakusho ngale ndaba. Abaningi bagxeke lona wesifazane ngokungameseki nokuphazamisa injabulo yomyeni wakhe.
Mhlawumbe udinga ukucabangela ukuthi usabela ngokweqile, umsebenzisi oyedwa wabhala . Kuyacaca ukuthi uchithe isikhathi esiningi ucabanga ukuthi lokhu kukwenza uzizwe kanjani, kodwa mhlawumbe kufanele uzinike isikhathi sokucabanga ukuthi ukusabela kwakho kwenza umyeni wakho azizwe kanjani.
Ngokujulile, ngiphatheka kabi ngomuntu one-SO engazisekeli izinto azithandayo noma ngisho nezinto ezincane ezibajabulisayo, omunye wanezela .
‘Yinto engenacala’
Abanye bavele bathi njengoba ihhovisi lomyeni liyindawo yakhe, kufanele akhululeke ukuze alihlobise.
Ukube bekusezikhaleni zakho ezabiwe, uma kuvuza endlini yonke, bengingavumelana nawe 100%, kubhala oyedwa ophawulayo . Kodwa lona umhume wakhe, umhume wakhe womuntu. Makathathe lokhu. Kuyinto engenacala kanjalo. Lokhu akuyona neze impi yokukhetha.
U-Tt useHHOVISI LAKHE, akunjalo? Ingabe le ngempela yimpi ofuna ukuyilwa? Cabanga ngakho, mngane. Umshado ngowempilo yonke futhi unempilo eningi (nezimpi) eziphambi kwakho. Kufanele umyeke ahambe, omunye wanezela .
Uma uyithandile le ndaba, bheka kukholomu yezeluleko ye-The Know, Ingxoxo Yeqembu .
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