Umphathi womngane wakho uyamsebenza kule mpelasonto ukuze alungise yonke into ngesethulo esikhulu sekhasimende ngoMsombuluko. Impela, lokho kuyacasula impela. Futhi lapho oshade naye ekhononda mayelana nomphathi wakhe ofaka icala lakhe ngokufika sekwephuzile ngolunye usuku ekuseni, uthola ukukhungatheka kwakhe ngokuphelele. Lawa ama-niggles ajwayelekile ajwayelekile asemsebenzini. Kodwa wenzani uma usebenza nomuntu osebenza naye ongacasuki kancane, ungumlandi wangempela?
Ngokusho kwesazi sokusebenza kwengqondo nombhali U-Mateusz Grzesiak, Ph.D. (owaziwa nangokuthi uDkt. Matt), kuvame kakhulu kunalokho ongacabanga. Izinhlangano zivamise ukuqasha osomaqhinga njengabaphathi ngoba zifuna ukuba nomuntu onothando nogcwele imizwa yakhe ngoba ezogxila emiphumeleni, uyasitshela. (Qaphela: UDkt. Matt usitshela ukuthi amaphesenti angama-80 ama-narcisists amadoda, kanti t yena Imanuwali yokuxilonga nezibalo yezifo zengqondo ibeka inombolo kumaphesenti angama-50 kuye kwangama-75.)
Eqinisweni, lapho uya phezulu, maningi amathuba okuba uhlangane nabantu abanezici ze-narcissistic. Lapho othile ekhuphuka ileli, limnika amandla okulawula, kusho uDkt. Matt. Futhi ngenxa yesimo abanaso, bangaba nabalandeli abaningi. Ngendlela efanayo umlutha wezidakamizwa umlutha wezidakamizwa, i-narcissist ijwayele ukunconywa.
Nazi izimpawu ezinhlanu zokuthi kungenzeka ukuthi usebenzelana nodokotela wezilwane emsebenzini.
Ingabe okunye kwalokhu okuzwakala kujwayelekile ngendlela esabekayo? Nawa amathiphu amane okuthi ungabhekana kanjani nesimo lapho usebenza ne-narcissist.
1. Shiya inkampani. Cha, ngempela. Ukuze uthole impilo yakho engokwengqondo, shiya inhlangano yakho uye endaweni ehlukile, kweluleka uDkt Matt, nakuba ephinde eveza ukuthi i-narcissism iyanda (sola ukwanda komphakathi okuziqakathekisayo esikhundleni seqoqo lonke). Ngamanye amazwi, ungashiya umsebenzi wakho wamanje futhi ugcine ususebenzela omunye umnakekeli. Ngakho enye inketho ukufunda ukuphatha lo muntu. Okusiletha ephuzwini lethu elilandelayo...
2. Beka imingcele. Uma wazi ukuthi othile uyi-narcissist, udinga ukuziqhelelanisa ngokubeka imingcele ukuze bangakuxhaphazi noma bakugxeke, kusho uDkt. Nasi isibonelo: Umphathi wakho uyathanda ukuza edeskini lakho azokhuluma isikhathi eside mayelana nokuthi umangalisa kangakanani (noma ukuthi wonke umuntu unekhono elingakanani). Ukulungisa? Umtshela ukuthi uyasazisa isikhathi sakhe ngakho uhlele umhlangano wanyanga zonke wokungena naye okufanele ukunikeze amathuba amaningi okudlula umsebenzi wakho. (Kodwa uma umphathi wakho enza into ehlanyisayo ngempela, njengokukuthuka, ungangabazi ukubandakanya umphathi wakho wakwa-HR.)
3. Zama isemishi yempendulo. Ake sithi umphathi wakho uthathe isikweletu ngomsebenzi wakho onzima emhlanganweni nama-honchos amakhanda phezulu. Mthathele eceleni bese umnika isemishi lempendulo. (Khumbula, ukuzethemba komuntu osebenzisa i-narcissist kubangelwa ukunconywa ngabanye, ngakho-ke awufuni ukwenza lokhu phambi kwabanye abantu.) Nakhu ukuthi lokho kungase kubukeke kanjani: Ngiyakuthanda kakhulu ukukusebenzela ngoba ungumuntu onjalo. mphathi omkhulu. Kodwa uma ungenankinga, ngokuzayo lapho ukhuluma ngami phambi koMphathi Omkhulu, ngicela usho okuthile ngawo wonke amahora engeziwe ebengiwenza kulo msebenzi? Kuhamba kahle kakhulu, futhi ngizizwa sengathi mina nawe besiyihola phambili yonke le nto.
4. Mcabange eseneminyaka emi-5. UDkt. Matt usitshele ngokuqonda okuhlakaniphile: Ngaphakathi kwawo wonke ama-narcissist kukhona ingane encane ezizwa yesaba futhi ilahlwa abazali bayo. Bakha imaski egcwele bona lapho benamandla onke, belawula futhi bazi yonke into ngokuphelele. Kodwa yimaski kuphela. Kulula ukuwela ogibeni lokucabanga ukuthi banokuthile ngawe, kodwa iqiniso liwukuthi banokuthile ngokumelene nabo. Ngakho-ke ngesikhathi esilandelayo lapho umphathi wakho othanda i-narcissistic ephikelela ekwengameleni yonke imininingwane encane yomsebenzi wakho, zama ukumcabanga njengengane eneminyaka emihlanu ubudala. Kungase kukunikeze uzwelo oluthile. (Noma okungenani, kukuvimbele ukuthi ungajikijeli ikhibhodi yakho odongeni.)
OKUhlobene: Kunezinhlobo Ezintathu Zabaphathi Abanobuthi. (Nansi Indlela Yokubhekana Nabo)
