Izibalo zisitshela ukuthi amaphesenti angama-42 omama yibo abondli oyedwa noma oyinhloko emikhayeni yabo, kanye namakhosikazi acishe abe ngamaphesenti angu-40 bahloniphe abayeni babo . Futhi izifundo (like eyodwa abaphuma eHarvard Business School) bakhombisa ukuthi lokhu kunomthelela omkhulu ebudlelwaneni. Kodwa uthole lelo hhovisi le-MBA/lephromoshini/ekhoneni, dammit; umshado wakho kuzomele ufinyelele umholo wakho. Udokotela wengqondo futhi othengisa kakhulu umbhali UDkt. Gail Saltz wabelana ngezikhubekiso ezivame kakhulu kubabhangqwana abanama-akhawunti asebhange angalingani, namasu okunamathelana.
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Amashumi amabili namashumi amabiliUkuguqulwa kwendima yobulili kubulala impilo yakho yocansi
Izinombolo zabesifazane endimeni yokuqala yokondla, noma abavele benze okungaphezu kwabashade nabo kusho ukuthi imibono engokwengqondo yobulili ayichazwanga noma idlulele njengoba yayinjalo, kusho uSaltz. Yinto enhle leyo. Kodwa lapho lokhu kuvame ukuholela khona kusekamelweni. Yilapho abantu beba nemicabango yobulili engase igxile [emicabangweni evamile]—hhayi indlela abafuna izinto zenzeke ngayo. empeleni kube phakathi nosuku, kodwa lokho kudlala ingxenye ebalulekile yempilo yabo yamaphupho ocansi. Futhi uma indlela ababukana ngayo iphikisana kakhulu nalokho, kungathinta ukusondelana nokuvusa inkanuko. Ngakho-ke akukhona ukuthi kufanele ushintshe eyakho okwamanje izindima, kodwa kufanele uphakamise isigqoko sakho kulezo zinto. Umbuzo uwukuthi, Ningakwazi kanjani, ekamelweni, ukwenza izinto ezisiza omunye nomunye azizwe ejabule kakhulu ngezindima zenu ngisho noma kuyiphupho nje kunento engokoqobo.
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Amashumi amabili namashumi amabiliUyaxoshwa
Amanye amadoda anomuzwa wokuthi [ukuthola imali encane] kuyawanciphisa, noma kuyawathunaza, noma ukuthi ngokuncintisana, ‘alahlekelwa’ abashade nawo, kusho uSaltz, enezela ukuthi lokhu akukhona ukusabela okutholakala emhlabeni wonke. Mhlawumbe bona ungenzi bafuna ukwamukela indima yokwenza okwengeziwe ekhaya; akubenzi bazizwe bengcono, kubenza bazizwe kabi. Lokho kungaba nzima kibo. Lapho kunokungqubuzana noma ukungezwani ngalokhu, impendulo ayinakuba ukuthi, ‘O, yeka ukuzizwa udabukile ngenxa yobuhle.’ Kumelwe kube nezinga elithile lokuqonda nozwela, njengoba ubungabonisa nganoma yiluphi olunye uhlobo udaba noma inkinga. Cabangani ngokuthi ningasizana kanjani ukuze nizizwe ninethezekile kulezi zindima. Mhlawumbe kunemisebenzi angayenza ukuze azizwe ‘eyisidoda.’ Ukusebenzelana nendlu, ukulungisa imoto, noma ngabe kuyini.
Amashumi amabili namashumi amabiliAwunangqondo-futhi awuyena owakho
Kwabesifazane, [ukuthola okwengeziwe] nakho kungaba nzima. Owesifazane ofanayo ongase funa ukuba ngumondli omkhulu futhi kwangathi funa umsebenzi ophakeme ungase futhi uzizwe ungqubuzana ngokuthi umthwalo uphezu kwakhe [ukuba umhlinzeki], kusho uSaltz. Angase azizwe engqubuzana ngokuba nesikhathi esincane sokuba umnakekeli oyinhloko wezingane zakhe. Futhi angase abe nemizwa eguquguqukayo mayelana nokuthi [umyeni wakhe] akekho ukuze ancike [ngokwezimali], noma ukungavikelwa ngaleyo ndlela. Akukho kulokhu, kuxwayisa u-Saltz, kulula. Ngomthwalo ongabonakali womsebenzi, uthi: Abesifazane bangase babe nalowo mthwalo futhi bawucasuke, kodwa futhi bangase, ngezinga elithile, funa yona. Bona funa ukuba kube nguye oyisa izingane kudokotela wezingane, ukuze azibone zikalwa futhi zikalwe, futhi zizwa umuzwa wokulahlekelwa uma zingafinyeleli. Kwabesifazane abaningi, kukhona ukungaboni ngaso linye okunzima ukungena kukho kokubili abafunayo futhi ukucasuka. Kungase kusize ukukhomba futhi uthathe ubunikazi bezinto ezimbalwa ezibaluleke kakhulu (ukuqashwa kodokotela bezingane zakho, amashejuli azo angaphandle kwesikole)—bese udlulisela okunye.
Amashumi amabili namashumi amabiliUlahlekelwe umqondo wakhe wenhloso
Abangane bomshado bahlale becabanga ukuthi, ‘Awu, angiqhudelani nomngane wami womshado.’ Kodwa abashadile nakanjani yenza ukuncintisana, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi bayazi noma cha, kusho uSaltz. Lapho umfazi ehola kakhulu futhi/noma umsebenzi womyeni wakhe umile, lokho kungase kubangele ukungazethembi nemibuzo enjengokuthi ‘Pho-ke, siyini isizinda sami?’ Ukungazethembi kuvame ukubangela intukuthelo nokucasuka. Kubantu abaningi kubalulekile ukuba nomuzwa wenhloso ngaphandle komndeni. Akuvamile ukuba indoda izizwe injalo ngempela akunjalo dinga lokho. Kodwa inhloso ayilingani nenkokhelo enkulu. Kungase kube yibhizinisi aphuma ekhaya. Kungase kube ukuthi, ‘Ngingumcwaningi noma umbhali.’ Kodwa ‘ngiyinto ethile’ ngokuvamile ibalulekile. Futhi ukuze bobabili abashadile basekele ikhono lakhe lokwenza lokho—lokho kuzokwenza umehluko. Abantu abaningi bacabanga, ‘Umuntu engishade naye kufanele angenze ngijabule, futhi uma bengangijabulisi, ngisuke ngidivosa.’ Kodwa iqiniso liwukuthi umuntu ngamunye kumelwe enze ngokwabo ngijabule. Umlingani wakho akakwazi ukukujabulisa ngempela. Kodwa umlingani wakho angakweseka wena kukujabulisa. Uma ungenakho lokho, okungenani ngezinga elithile, futhi ucindezelekile ngempela, lokho akusho ukuthi ubuhlobo buhlala isikhathi eside.
Amashumi amabili namashumi amabiliUyagada
Ukunakekela izingane, indlu, bonke abaphathi bomndeni kanye nezibopho, Kukhona amadoda athi, 'Ungakwenzi nje! Ngizokwenza, noma ngabe kuyini…’ kusho uSaltz. Kodwa ngeke kwenziwe ngendlela efanayo wena ngizokwenza. Abantu ababili abahlukene, owesilisa nowesifazane, bangase babe nomuzwa ohluke kakhulu wokuthi lezi zinto zizokwenziwa kanjani. Angase aphile uma bedla ikhekhe lesidlo sasekuseni. ‘Ngeke bafe, bazophila, futhi kulungile.’ Futhi angase ezwe lokho bese ethi, ‘Hhawu, manje sekuphezu kwami.’ Cacisa ukuthi yini ongayiyeka. Into eyodwa ehlukanisa ngempela umshado uma othile ethi, ‘Akukaze kube kuhle ngoba bekungenjalo. indlela yami .’ Ngakho-ke akayena kuphela hhayi umondli oyinhloko, kodwa uthatha lo omunye umsebenzi wokuba ngumnakekeli oyinhloko kanye nomninikhaya oyinhloko, kodwa utshelwa ukuthi uyehluleka ngaso sonke isikhathi. Kufanele wazise noma yini oyilethayo ngamunye etafuleni futhi ukhulume lokho. Ngamanye amazwi: Yeka ukulawula okuthile. Futhi uthi ngiyabonga.
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