Umtshela kanjani umzala wakho othanda ulwandle okhishwe kabili ukuthi angawagqoki ama-flip-flop esidlweni sokuqala sangoLwesihlanu ebusuku? Ingabe kufanele unikeze ohlala naye ekolishi i-plus-one? Futhi ingabe kuwubudenge ukufaka incwadi yokubhalisa umshado wakho esimemweni?
Usuku lwakho olukhulu seluseduze futhi ngenkathi lwakho gqoka , i ikhekhe ngisho nombulali uhlu lokudlalayo sekumi ngomumo, unemibuzo engaphezu kwemibhangqwana mayelana nokuthi yiluphi ulwazi ongalunikeza izivakashi zakho nokuthi nini. Ungesabi: Sikhulume naye Myka Meier , umbhali we Indlela Yokuziphatha Yesimanje Yenziwe Yalula: Indlela Yezinyathelo Ezi-5 Yokuba Ngobuciko Bendlela Yokuziphatha , futhi uthole ulwazi oluningi mayelana nemikhuba yesimemo somshado (okuhlanganisa nephutha elivame kakhulu elenziwa izithandani), ukuze uqiniseke ukuthi ufake amachashazi o-i futhi weqe u-t ngaphambi kokungena eposini.
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negoworks/Getty ImagesYini ongayenza ngokulondoloza amadethi?
NgokukaMeier, ukulondoloza izinsuku akudingekile ukucacisa indawo yomcimbi—ukuze ukwazi ukuphefumula ngokukhululeka ngokuba nesikhathi esengeziwe sokukhetha. indawo yakho -futhi akufanele babe nendawo ye-RSVP. Nokho, idethi yokulondoloza kufanele isho usuku lomshado (duh) futhi kufanele ithunyelwe kusenesikhathi ngaphambi kwesimemo esisemthethweni. Kusho ukuthini lokho? Londoloza izinsuku ngokuvamile zithunyelwa cishe ezinyangeni eziyisishiyagalombili ngaphambi komshado, kusho uMeier, ngisho nezinyanga ezimbalwa ngaphambili uma unomshado walapho uya khona. Iphutha elijwayelekile: Ukunganikeli izihambeli izihloko ngendlela yokonga idethi.
Okufanele ukwenze esikhundleni salokho: Thumela ukulondoloza kwakho usuku cishe ezinyangeni eziyisishiyagalombili ngaphambi komshado kanye nezinyanga eziyisithupha ngaphambi kwesimemo.
Yini okufanele uyifake esimemweni sakho somshado?
Isimemo somshado esijwayelekile sihlanganisa lonke ulwazi ongalulindela kunoma yisiphi isimemo—isimemezelo esifushane somcimbi (okungukuthi, UJack kanye noJill bakumeme ukuthi uze emcimbini wabo womshado ), kanye nosuku, isikhathi kanye nekheli lendawo. Isimemo kufanele futhi sicacise indawo yokwamukela uma unaso.
Iphutha elijwayelekile: Ishiya ulwazi olubalulekile kusimemo.
Okufanele ukwenze esikhundleni salokho: Qiniseka ukuthi ufaka idethi, isikhathi kanye nekheli lomcimbi womshado, kanye nanoma yiluphi ulwazi mayelana nedili uma likhona.
Kufanele uzithumele nini izimemo zakho zomshado?
Impendulo yalo mbuzo incike ekutheni hlobo luni lomshado onalo. Ngokuvamile, uMeier uthi izimemo zomshado kufanele ziphume cishe amasonto ayisithupha kuya kwayisishiyagalombili ngaphambi komshado. Imishado yendawo ihlukile kakhulu kulowo mthetho; kulokhu, izimemo kufanele zithunyelwe okungenani izinyanga ezine ngaphambi komcimbi.
Iphutha elijwayelekile: Ilinde kuze kube umzuzu wokugcina ukuze umeme izivakashi zakho.
Okufanele ukwenze esikhundleni salokho: Nikeza abangani bakho nomndeni wakho isaziso samasonto ayisithupha kuya kwayisishiyagalombili ukuze babe nesikhathi sokuphendula futhi bahlele ngokufanele.
Poh Kim Yeoh/EyeEm/Getty IzithombeKufanele wenze nini umnqamulajuqu wama-RSVP?
NgoMeyier, umnqamulajuqu we-RSVP kufanele wehlele endaweni ethile phakathi kwamasonto amathathu namane ngaphambi kosuku lomshado. Iphutha elijwayelekile: Ukunikeza izivakashi isikhathi esincane kakhulu...noma ukumosha ukuhlela kwakho ngokuzinika kakhulu.
Okufanele ukwenze esikhundleni salokho: Nquma ama-RSVP cishe inyanga eyodwa ngaphambi komshado futhi wonke umuntu uyawina.
Kufanele ufake kuphi ulwazi mayelana newebhusayithi yakho yomshado?
Uhlu lolwazi okufanele ulufake ekulondolozeni kwakho izinsuku lufushane kakhulu: amagama, idethi, isikhathi, indawo...kanye (ukuqagelile) iwebhusayithi yakho yomshado. Iwebhusayithi yakho yomshado iyinkundla ewusizo yokugcina izivakashi zazi nganoma yiluphi ulwazi olubalulekile oluhlobene nomcimbi, ngakho uzofuna ukuthi wonke umuntu akwazi ukufinyelela ngokushesha ngemva kokuba ebhale usuku olukhulu ekhalendeni lakhe.
Iphutha elijwayelekile: Ukungabi nayo iwebhusayithi yomshado.
Okufanele ukwenze esikhundleni salokho: Dala iwebhusayithi yomshado njengesisetshenziswa sezivakashi futhi unikeze ulwazi ngokulondoloza amadethi.
Ingabe kufanele ufake imininingwane yokubhalisa ezimemweni zomshado noma ugcine izinsuku?
Isazi sokuziphatha sithi cha kule bangane. Esikhundleni salokho, u-Meier uncoma ukuthembela ku-word-of-mouth (cabanga: iphathi yomakoti nomndeni), iwebhusayithi yakho yomshado (lapho ungathumela khona isixhumanisi ngokugqamile), noma inhlanganisela yakho kokubili ukuze uthole ulwazi lokubhalisa kubavakashi bakho. Ukubukeka okungcono nje.
Iphutha elijwayelekile: Kufaka phakathi isixhumanisi esiya kurejista ngokulondoloza usuku noma isimemo esisemthethweni.
Okufanele ukwenze esikhundleni salokho: Engeza ulwazi lwesipho kuwebhusayithi yakho yomshado esikhundleni salokho.
Ricardo Moura/UnsplashUzazisa kanjani izivakashi ikhodi yakho yokugqoka
Akuzona zonke izinsuku ozithola usesimweni sokutshela omunye umuntu ukuthi ugqokeni, ngakho-ke kuyaqondakala ukuthi lo angase azizwe ekhululekile. Nokho, ungakhathazeki—uMeier usitshela ukuthi akukho lutho olungalungile ngokubhala ikhodi yokugqoka ekhadini elihlukile lokwamukela izivakashi emvilophini efanayo nesimemo, noma ngokubhala kahle, okubhalwe ngomakhekeke ngezansi kwesimemo ngokwaso. (Qaphela: Lokhu kufanele kube umugqa olula hhayi indaba.)Usacabanga ukuthi umusho owodwa esimemeni ushiya indawo encane kakhulu yokutolikwa (kodwa awufuni ukuthi isimemo sifundeke njengencwadi yemithetho)? Ayikho inkinga. NgoMeyier, iwebhusayithi yakho yomshado inomhlane wakho: [iyindawo] enhle yokunikeza izincomo zekhabethe lomshado, kanye nokufakwa kuhlu noma imaphi amanye amakhodi okugqoka emicimbi eyengeziwe oyihlelayo ngempelasonto.
Iphutha elijwayelekile: Ukunikeza ikhodi yokugqoka enemininingwane eminingi kusimemo.
Okufanele ukwenze esikhundleni salokho: Ncika kuwebhusayithi yakho yomshado ngalokho.
Ingabe kufanele unikeze sonke isivakashi usuku noma i-plus-one?
Imishado iyabiza futhi uzama ukugcina uhlu lwezivakashi luphansi ukuze lungabhidliki. (Siyakuthola.) Ngakho, ingabe kufanele unikeze sonke isivakashi inketho yokuletha i-plus-one? U-Meier usitshela ukuthi ama-plus-one mahle kodwa awadingeki kuzo zonke izimo. Sesikushilo lokho, uncoma ukunikeza okungeziwe kunoma yisiphi isivakashi esinomunye obalulekile (umuntu ohlala naye, isibonelo), nazo zonke izihambeli uma unomshado wendawo—uyazi, ngakho obathandayo hamba mngani. Esinye isexwayiso: Uma ungandisi ukuhlanganisa okukodwa nganoma yisiphi isizathu, qiniseka ukuthi kunenani elihle labanye abantu abamenywe emshadweni ngaphandle kokuhlanganisa okukodwa ukuze kungabikho oyedwa noma abambalwa abantu abanesizungu abangenaye umuntu ozohlangana nabo. , hlala noma udanse. Ngamanye amazwi, uma iningi lezivakashi lizohlanganiswa, yenza abangani bakho abangabodwa abaqine futhi ubanikeze okungeziwe.
Iphutha elijwayelekile: Uhlu lwezihambeli olushiya kuphela inani elincane labantu abandiza bebodwa ngendlela exakile.
Okufanele ukwenze esikhundleni salokho: Zama ukunikeza ama-plus-one uma ukwazi ukwenza isiqiniseko sokuthi zonke izihambeli zakho zingaba nesikhathi esimnandi.
Ulibeka kuphi ikheli lembuyiselo ezimemweni zomshado?
Lena iqonde ngqo: Uma ufuna ukugcina ingaphambili lemvilophu yesimemo sakho somshado libukeka lihlanzekile futhi lilihle (kodwa usafuna ukuthi libuyiselwe kumthumeli uma kwenzeka ukulethwa kwehlulekile), okumele ukwenze ukubhala noma ukunamathisela isitikha nge buyisela ikheli kumphepho ongemuva wemvilophu. Easy-peasy.
Iphutha elijwayelekile: Ukukrola ikheli lokubuyisela ekhoneni eliphezulu kwesokunxele njengoba ubungenza ibhili oyikhokhayo.
Okufanele ukwenze esikhundleni salokho: Shaya isitikha esinekheli lokubuyisela eliphrintiwe ngemuva kwemvilophu ukuze uthole ukubukeka okuhle kakhulu.
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