Emhlabeni okahle, wonke umuntu angaba mnandi, ajabule futhi agodole njengomngane wakho omkhulu kusukela ebangeni lesihlanu. Eqinisweni, impilo yakho igcwele zonke izinhlobo zobuntu obunzima, kusukela kosebenza naye onobuthi oqhubeka edla ukudla kwakho kwasemini kuye kumamezala wakho onobuqili ocabanga ukuthi abazukulu bakhe bayimpahla yakhe siqu. Nazi izindlela ezingama-30 (ezinempilo) zokubhekana nawo wonke umuntu onzima empilweni yakho.
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Amashumi amabili namashumi amabili1. Fihla izexwayiso zabo efonini yakho.
Ngaphandle kwalapho umuntu onzima engumphathi wakho noma ilungu lomndeni eliseduze, akukho bungozi ngokuchofoza inkinobho yokuthula izexwayiso ukuze ugcine imibhalo ematasatasa nezingcingo eziphuthumayo ukuthi zingaphazamisi usuku lwakho. Uma ibha yesaladi iphelelwe iminqumo futhi udadewenu ehlaselwa ukwethuka, asikho isizathu sokuthi kufanele kuphazamise umhlangano wakho womsebenzi.
2. Adonse umoya kakhulu.
Uma uphakathi nendawo yempi, ungase uzithole uthola ukushuba futhi ufaka ngaphakathi isimo esicindezelayo. Ngisho namasekhondi ambalwa okuphefumula okujulile angasiza ukudambisa ukulwa kwakho noma impendulo yendiza. Isikole Sezokwelapha saseHarvard iphakamisa ukubalekela ekamelweni elithulile (hey, indlu yokugezela izosebenza kancane), bese uphefumula kancane ngamakhala akho, uvumele isifuba sakho nesingezansi sakho ukuba sikhuphuke. Bese, phefumula kancane emlonyeni wakho. Phinda umzuzu, bese ubuyela engxoxweni ngomoya ophansi.
3. Ungalindeli ukuthi bashintshe.
Impela, kungaba kuhle uma umngane wakho owaphihlizeka isitimela wasesikoleni samabanga aphezulu ebona ngokuzumayo ukuthi ubezenza izinto zobugovu nokungahloniphi kule minyaka eyishumi edlule. Kodwa kungenzeka ukuthi, ngaphandle uma bene-epiphany engathi sína noma bangene ekwelapheni okuthile okuqinile, izinto ziyohlala zifana ncamashi. Lindela ukuthi uzofika ngemva kwehora—futhi esikhundleni sokuthinta izinzwane zakho futhi ubheke iwashi lakho, thatha isikhathi sakho esimnandi ufike lapho futhi ulethe incwadi enhle ongalahleka kuyo.
4. Zama indlela yedwala elimpunga.
Lokhu kuhle ikakhulukazi kuma-narcissists nezinye izinhlobo ezinobuthi. Ngamafuphi, wenza konke okusemandleni akho ukuze wenze njengesicefe, ongathakaseli futhi ongahlanganyeli ngangokunokwenzeka (ngisho nokuhamba uze ugqoke izingubo ezidonsa kanzima). Ekugcineni, bazophelelwa yisithakazelo futhi baqhubeke.
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Amashumi amabili namashumi amabili5. Lalela.
Ukuthi ukhona noma cha empeleni ukulalela kukuwe. Kodwa imvamisa, abantu abanzima bafuna nje othile abazokhononda kuye, hhayi isixazululo sangempela.
6. Hlela ukuvakasha okufushane.
Ezinyangeni eziyisithupha, u-Anti wakho Omkhulu kuphela u-Mildred ngeke akhumbule uma uchithe usuku lonke naye, noma usanda kuba nesidlo sasemini esiyimizuzu engama-45 endlini yakhe. Hlala ukhona ngenkathi unaye, kodwa vikela sonke isikhathi sakho ngangokunokwenzeka.
Amashumi amabili namashumi amabili9. Ngena nawe.
Njalo (setha i-alamu uma kudingeka), thatha isikhashana ukuqhela endaweni enobuthi ungene. Uzizwa kanjani? Ingabe udinga ukudonsa umoya kakhulu? Ingabe kukhona okunye ongakwenza ukugcina ibanga elinempilo phakathi kwakho nomuntu onzima? Ngisho nemizuzwana embalwa ekhanda lakho ingasiza.
7. Ungahambisani nezinga labo lokuqina.
Uma umuntu olukhuni ephakamisa izwi lakhe, kungase kulingeke ukuthi uphinde umthethise...futhi ngaphambi kokuthi wazi, uphakathi nomdlalo omemezayo. Kunalokho, gcina ukuthula kwakho futhi wenze konke ongakwenza ukuze ungasabeli.
8. Thatha isinyathelo emuva.
Abantu abanzima bayathanda ukwenza izinkinga zabo zibe izinkinga zakho, futhi bakwenze uzame ukuzizwa unomthwalo wemfanelo. Chaza ngokucacile futhi uzikhumbuze ukuthi yini okukukhathazayo nokuthi empeleni yini into ekhathaza umuntu onobuthi, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi bathini kuwe, kusikisela isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo sasemtholampilo uDamon Ashworth.
10. Gcina ugxile ezisombululweni.
Amapayipi omkhwekazi wakho aba yiqhwa, uphahla lwakhe lumbozwe yiqhwa futhi udinga indlela yakhe yokungena yonke ifosholo. Uyakwazi ukuzenzela, kodwa angathanda ukuchitha usuku lonke ekhononda kuwe ngakho. Kunalokho, bambelela kokuphozithiyo (ngaphandle kokumxazululela ngempela izinkinga)—mnike inombolo yomkhandi wepayipi, mkhiphele ifosholo egaraji futhi umnike amandla okuzilungisela yena udaba.
11. Yiba nempendulo yesitoko ukuze uthole iseluleko ongasicelanga.
Umngane wakho onobuthi ucabanga ukuthi kufanele ukhulise ingane yakho i-vegan, futhi uyikhulisa ngokungaphezi njalo lapho nindawonye. Esikhundleni sokuvumela ingxoxo iqhubeke, yithi, kungenzeka ukuthi ulungile, futhi uyiyeke kanjalo. Isebenza njengentelezi.
25. Ungasho ukuthi uyaxolisa.
Noma okungenani bheka ukuthi usho izikhathi ezingaki. Abantu abanzima bangase bazame ukukusola ngezinto okungelona iphutha lakho (noma uma benjalo kukhona iphutha lakho, bangase bakuthethise uze uzizwe kabi kakhulu, ngisho noma bengeyona into enkulu kangako). Gwema ugibe lokulungisa lokhu ngokuthi ngiyaxolisa izikhathi eziningi, uBrown uyeluleka. Kaningi kunalokho, akukho ongaxolisa ngakho.
12. Zinike umvuzo ngokuzinakekela.
Uyazi ukuthi yini ekhulula ngokushesha ukucindezeleka kokuhlala nomuntu onobuthi usuku lonke? I-massage yehora elide. Ziphathe.
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Amashumi amabili namashumi amabili13. Dlulisela umuntu omethembayo.
Ngemva kokuchitha isikhathi eside usebenzelana nomuntu onzima, ngezinye izikhathi kungase kube nzima ukubuyela eqinisweni. Bekuyikho ngempela ukudelela nokungafanele usisi wakho ukuthi acele ukuboleka imoto yakho amasonto amabili, noma uvele uzwele ngokweqile? Thululela isifuba kumuntu ongakhethi (nothembekile) ukuze usize ekulungiseni izinto.
14. Namathela ngezihloko ezingathathi hlangothi kanye nenkulumo encane.
Kuyadabukisa ukuthi awukwazi ukutshela umzala wakho yonke into ngempelasonto oyichithe uthenga izingubo zomshado, kodwa uyazi ukuthi uzohleka uma uthi uqoke ingubo yokugqoka bese uchitha imizuzu engu-20 elandelayo uhlekisa ngayo. Ungasho noma yini ezobanikeza ithuba lokulahla imibono nezahlulelo zabo ezingezinhle kuwe, kweluleka uGill Hasson, umbhali wencwadi. Indlela Yokubhekana Nabantu Abanobunzima . Ngakho uma ekubuza ukuthi wenzeni kule mpelasonto, khuluma ngento oyibukele kumabonakude, noma ukuthi izulu belibanda kangakanani. Kuyadina, kepha kuyasebenza.
15. Ungavezi lutho oluqondene nawe kakhulu.
Ebudlelwaneni obunempilo, kungase kube into ejabulisayo ukuveza ukuthi isikhathi udakwe kakhulu ekolishi futhi wagcina udanse endaweni yokucima ukoma kubhodi wakho. Ebudlelwaneni obunobuthi, nokho, i-S.O yakho. ingase isebenzise lolu lwazi ngokumelene nawe, itshele ozakwenu emsebenzini, abazali nabangane ngomzamo wokukuphoxa. Gcina amakhadi akho eduze kwesifuba sakho (futhi uma uthandana nalesi sidididi, phuma ebuhlotsheni, izibalo).
16. Gxila entweni eniyijabulela nobabili.
Ngokuvamile, kuphephe kakhulu ukuchitha sonke isidlo sasemini ukhuluma ngokuthi nithanda kangakanani nobabili I-star wars . Namathela entweni owazi ukuthi ungakhuluma ngayo ngaphandle kokuxabana.
Amashumi amabili namashumi amabili17. Khawulela ukusebenzelana kwakho nge-imeyili nezinkundla zokuxhumana.
Uma umuntu wakho onzima ethanda ukukuthumelela ama-imeyili angu-25 ngo-3 ekuseni, ungazizwa ubophekile ukumphendula namuhla. Noma kuleli sonto. Hlukanisa iphethini yokugxuma lapho becela ukuthi ugxume. Uma belindele okuncane kuwena, kungcono.
18. Thola umnyombo wokuziphatha.
Indlela umfowenu aziphatha ngayo ebonisa ulaka kuwe ingase ingahlangani nendlela owenza ngayo ngaleso sikhathi, futhi yonke into ephathelene naleso sikhathi abazali bakho bakuvumela ukuthi uye ephathini yosuku lokuzalwa ngaphandle kwakhe lapho uneminyaka eyisithupha. Gcoba ujule futhi ungase ubone ukuthi imbangela ayihlanganise lutho nawe.
19. Ungabanaki.
Khumbula, awukho ohlelweni lwabo lwezikhathi, futhi uma umuntu olukhuni efuna okuthile kuwe, kuyodingeka alinde kuze kulunge wena . Uma lokhu kusho ukuziba ngokuqondile izingcingo zabo eziyisikhombisa ezingabanjwanga, imiyalezo eyi-18 nama-imeyili angu-25, makube njalo.
20. Gwema iziphepho ezingokomzwelo.
Elizabeth B. Brown, umbhali we Ukuphila Ngokuphumelelayo Nabantu Abahlukunyeziwe , waqamba igama elithi izivunguvungu ezingokomzwelo, okuyisingathekiso esihle kakhulu sendlela okuzizwa ngayo lapho izinkinga zijikijelwa kuwe kungazelelwe ngumuntu olukhuni. Ukuthambekela, kubantu abaningi, ukugoqa ezindabeni zomuntu onzima. Kunalokho, yenza okusemandleni akho ukulalela ngaphandle kokuphawula bese uqhubekela phambili.
Amashumi amabili namashumi amabili21. Khetha izimpi zakho.
KULUNGILE, wazi umalume wakho iminyaka engama-37. Uyazi ukuthi uzozama ukuthi nilwe naye ngepolitiki ngesikhathi sokubonga. Uhlome ngalolu lwazi, kulula ukukuyeka. Zijwayeze isiqubulo ongase ube ngaso ngenhla kuze kube yilapho uphaya wethanga usunikezwa futhi usubuyela ekhaya.
22. Ungavumelani nanoma yini.
Uyaziqhenya ngokuba nombono omuhle, oguquguqukayo futhi ovumelanayo, kodwa umuntu onobuthi uzosebenzisa ngokunenzuzo intando yakho enhle. Ngaphambi kokuthi usetshenziswe ukwenza izinto eziyishumi nambili kumuntu onzima ezingakuzuzisi nhlobo, zijwayeze ukuthi, kufanele ngicabange ngakho ngaphambi kokuba uvumelane nanoma yini. Lokhu kukunikeza isikhala nesikhathi sokunquma ukuthi uyakwenza yini ngempela ngifuna ukusiza umzala wakho ngebhizinisi lakhe lezimpahla zokugqoka, noma uma kunempilo ngawe ukuthi usuke.
23. Buka umhlaba ngeso labo (umzuzwana nje).
Uma uzithola ukhungatheka ukubhekana nomuntu onobuthi, thatha igxathu elibuyela emuva ucabange ukuthi impilo kumele ibe njani kuye. Uma uthola lo muntu enzima, maningi amathuba okuba nabanye abantu benze kanjalo. Yiba nozwelo ngokuthi umngane wakho akanalo lokhu kuzazi, futhi uzizwe ubonga ngokuthi awukho esikebheni esifanayo.
Amashumi amabili namashumi amabiliUma umuntu olukhuni ekubona ujabulile, angenza konke angakwenza ukuze akuphazamise. Uma udadewabo kadadewabo enomona ngendlu yakho entsha, angase abonise ngobuqili konke okungalungile ngayo emzamweni wokukwenza uzizwe kabi. Ngenhlanhla, ngokusho kukaBrown, injabulo ingumuntu siqu futhi ifanele ukuvikelwa. Uma injabulo yethu nengqondo yethu isekelwe kulokho okulindele kubo ukushintsha, sibanikeze izintambo ezimpilweni zethu. Uma ujabule, akukho lutho yena-noma omunye umuntu-okufanele akwazi ukukwenza ukuze akunyakazise.
26. Ungawenzi ukucindezeleka kwabo.
Bafo, lokhu kubalulekile. Lapho umngane wakho ekhononda ngokuthi akukho lutho olusebenzayo empilweni yakhe, futhi uyawuzonda umsebenzi wakhe futhi impilo yakhe ibuhlungu (njengoba enza. zonke isikhathi lapho umbona for i-brunch), ungazami ukumxazulula izinkinga zakhe, kuphakamisa u-Rick Kirschner no-Rick Brinkman, ababhali bencwadi. Ukubhekana Nabantu Ongakwazi Ukuma . Isixazululo esingcono? Yiba nozwelo ngabakwaWhiner abadabukisayo abampilo yabo ibonakala ingaphezu kwamandla abo. Ukuphela kwento onegunya phezu kwayo kulesi simo, ngemva kwakho konke.
Amashumi amabili namashumi amabili27. Qaphela ulimi lwakho lomzimba.
Uma uchitha isikhathi eside nomuntu onobuthi, ngena ngezikhathi ezithile futhi ubheke umzimba wakho. Ingabe izandla zakho zibambene ngezibhakela? Ingabe intamo yakho iqinile? Ingabe uphefumula kakhulu? Hlala endaweni engathathi hlangothi, donsa umoya ojulile ukuze ukhiphe ukucindezeleka emzimbeni wakho futhi uzame ukuhlala uzolile ngangokunokwenzeka kukho konke ukuxhumana.
28. Themba indlela ozizwa ngayo.
Uma umalumekazi wakho omangalisayo ekutshela ukuthi umzala wakho ukuchithile ukungayi emshadweni wakhe, kungenzeka ukuthi ukhuluma iqiniso. Nokho, kunjalo kungenzeka ukuthi u-anti wakho uvusa izinkinga, njengoba evame ukwenza, futhi ayikho imizwa enzima evela kumzala wakho. Esikhundleni sokungena ugxile endabeni ka-anti wakho, thatha isinyathelo emuva futhi ukhumbule irekhodi lakhe ngalezi zinhlobo zezingxabano.
29. Zibambe emhlane.
Phew . Ukwenzile. Udlule ekusebenzelaneni okukhohlisayo nomuntu onzima. Zinike udumo ngokudlula kukho, kusikisela isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo uBarbara Markway . ' Kudinga amandla amaningi ukuthi ungenzi njengesidlakela uma omunye umuntu eziphatha kabi,' usho kanje. 'Ungaseqi lesi sinyathelo!'
30. Uma konke kwehluleka, zikhiphe empilweni yakho.
Kwesinye isikhathi, umuntu onobuthi uthinta impilo yakho kakhulu, okuwukuphela kwento oyikhethayo ukuyisusa ngokuphelele empilweni yakho. Ekugcineni, kufanele uzinakekele wena kuqala, futhi uma umuntu onzima engakwazi ukungena kuleso sibalo, ubuhlobo obunempilo ngeke bube khona. Ngokushesha lapho ubavumela ukuba bahambe, ngokushesha ungagxila ekufundeni, ekukhuleni nasekutholeni ubudlelwano obunempilo—futhi ngethemba ukuthi umngane wakho onzima uzokwazi ukuqhubeka naye.
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