Umngani wakho omkhulu uyafona: Uthole umsebenzi omusha futhi ujabule kakhulu ngaye. Kodwa akasebenzi ehhovisi noma esitolo sokudayisa. Uthengisa amafutha abalulekile ku-inthanethi, futhi usanda kuthola inqwaba yamabhodlela engilazi amancane athunyelwe endlini yakhe. Emasontweni ambalwa kamuva, ama-akhawunti akhe e-Instagram kanye ne-Facebook agcwele izimemo zamaphathi e-diffuser kanye nezixhumanisi zamafutha e-lavender ongazithenga kuwebhusayithi yakhe. Bese eqala ukukhuluma nawe mayelana nendlela umsebenzi wakhe omusha omangalisa ngayo futhi uzama ukukukholisa ukuthi ujoyine ibhizinisi lakhe. Kuzwakala sengathi umngane wakho ujulile ku-MLM, noma isikimu sokumaketha samazinga amaningi. Ingabe lokhu kusemthethweni, noma kuhle kakhulu ukuba kube yiqiniso? Nansi indlela yokuthola, nokuthi yini okufanele uyenze uma ucabanga ukuthi umngane wakho uyakhohliswa.
Linda, yini i-MLM?
Cishe usuzwile ngokumaketha kwamazinga amaningi, noma ngabe ubungenaso isiqiniseko sethemu. I-MLM iyisu lebhizinisi elivumela izinkampani ukuthi zenze imali ngokusebenzisa amandla azo okuthengisa. Ibhizinisi liheha abasebenzi abangakhokhelwa ngokubanikeza imigudu emibili yemali engenayo. Ukuze banxeshezelwe, abaxhumanisi, njengoba bevame ukubizwa kanjalo, kumele bathenge futhi badayise kabusha imikhiqizo yenkampani, bese benxenxa abeluleki abaningi ebhizinisini. Lezi zinkampani, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi zithengisa amabhulukwe e-yoga noma izinsiza zokwehlisa isisindo, empeleni zenza imali ngokukholisa abaxhumanisi bazo ukuthi bathenge izinto ze-wholesale. Yebo, bangama-MLM.
Futhi yini embi kakhulu nge-MLM, ngempela?
Nakuba engekho emthethweni ngokobuchwepheshe, ama-MLM anesabelo sawo esifanelekile sabagxeki—okuhlanganisa ne-U.S. Federal Trade Commission. Ngokuvumelana ne ucwaningo olwenziwe yi-FTC , amaphesenti angama-99.3 abantu abajoyina ama-MLM alahlekelwa yimali. Nalabo basebenzi aba kukhona ukwenza imali, ngaphezu kwesigamu senza ngaphansi kuka-,000, the I-AARP Foundation uthi. (Eek, asizithandi lezo zingqinamba.) Akuzona zonke izinhlelo zokumaketha zamaleveli amaningi ezisemthethweni, i-FTC iyachaza. Ezinye ziyi-pyramid schemes. Kungcono ukuthi ungazibandakanyi ezinhlelweni lapho imali oyenzayo isekelwe ikakhulukazi enanini labasabalalisi obaqashayo kanye nokuthengisa kwakho kubo, kunokuba udayisele abantu abangaphandle kohlelo abahlose ukusebenzisa imikhiqizo.
Manje njengoba usuyazi ukuthi iyini i-MLM, ake sithole ukuthi ungasiza kanjani umngane wakho.
Uthi: Hey, ufuna ukuza ephathini yami ye-leggings?
Ewu, iphathi. Isimemo sakhe sizwakala simsulwa—ngisho nokuzijabulisa. Futhi nakuba umngane wakho ezokuqinisekisa ukuthi akukho ukuthenga okudingekayo ukuze uye khona, ngesikhathi usuzitholele ama-mimosa nama-croissants amahhala, kuzoba nzima ukuphuma efulethini lakhe ngaphandle kokuzizwa ubophekile ukugoduka nama-leggings. Amaphathi asekhaya ayisu elivamile le-MLM elisetshenziselwa ukuqhubekisela phambili ibhizinisi, futhi nakuba kungase kubonakale njengezaba ezinhle zokuhlangana nokuhlangana nabantu abasha, inhloso yabo eyinhloko ukukukholisa ukuthi usebenzise imali (futhi mhlawumbe ujoyine i-MLM ngokwakho) . Ungaphatheki kabi ngokusho kahle, ngimatasa, kodwa mhlawumbe ngesinye isikhathi.
Uma lona kungumngane omuhle ngempela, kungase kulingeke ukuthi uqalise ku-diatribe mayelana nokuthi ama-MLM ayizindaba ezimbi kanjani bese uzama ukumkholisa ukuthi ayeke. Kodwa lesi senzo asinakuba wusizo, u-Deprogramme wehlelo u-Rick Alan Ross (owaziwa kakhulu ngomsebenzi wakhe wokudalula i-MLM nehlelo elibi le-NXIVM) uyachaza encwadini yakhe. Amahlelo Ngaphakathi . Ngokuvamile, lawa mabhizinisi asevele enegama lakho: amasela amaphupho. Ngaphambi kokuthi ukhulume, umngane wakho kungenzeka ukuthi wayekholelwa ukuthi unomona futhi uzama ukuma endleleni yemigomo yakhe. Ngakho-ke uma uthola i-vibe umngane wakho angase avale uma ukhuluma buthuntu, yeka okwamanje.
Uthi: Ngenza kahle kakhulu ngokuthengisa lezi zinto, futhi ngiyazi ukuthi ungasebenzisa enye imali eyengeziwe. Ufuna ukuza emhlanganweni?
Umngani wakho usephumile ekuzameni ukukuncenga ukuthi umthengele izinto wazama ukuzama qoqa ungene ku-MLM. Kungani ephithizela kangaka? Ngenxa yokuthi uthola ukuncishiswa kokuthengisiwe kwanoma yiliphi ilungu aliqashayo, futhi abantu abaningi abaqashayo (okubizwa nangokuthi abasabalalisi bakhe abaphansi), uzokhuphuka enkampanini azokhuphuka. Uma kuzwakala njengokwenziwa kohlelo lwephiramidi, lokho kungenxa yokuthi kunjalo.
Kulula ukwenza izaba zokungayi (Uxolo, isikhathi sokubonana nodokotela wamazinyo!), kodwa lokho kuzoshiya umnyango uvuliwe ukuze umngane wakho aqhubeke nokukujova. Esikhundleni salokho, indlela eqinile kodwa enesizotha, cha ngiyabonga, anginayo intshisekelo, indlela engcono kakhulu lapha. Ngisho noma kungase kubonakale sengathi akukho ngozi ekuhambeleni umhlangano, uma ekugcineni ungafuni ukuzibandakanya emdlalweni we-MLM womngane wakho, kungcono ukuwugcina uhlukene ngangokunokwenzeka nobungane bakho. I-mantra kaRoss? Uma ungabaza, ungakwenzi.
Uthi: Ngicwile ezikweletini eziningi, angazi ukuthi ngenzeni. Ngicela uthenge amafutha abalulekile?
Yilapho izinto ziqala khona ukuba zimbi. Umngani wakho ujule kakhulu ku-MLM kangangoba akaqapheli ukuthi isiphi isimo sezimali esimfake kuso. Nakuba kungase kungabonakali njengento enkulu ukuthenga amabhodlela ambalwa amafutha abalulekile ukuze amsuse emhlane wakho, ukusekelwa ngokwezimali hhayi impendulo . Esikhundleni sokusola isakhiwo se-MLM ngesikweletu sakhe, umngane wakho cishe uzibeka icala ngokungabi umthengisi omuhle ngokwanele. Ngenxa yazo zonke izindaba zempumelelo ezisakazwa kabanzi okwabelwana ngazo enkampanini, angase azizwe njengesehluleki ngenxa yokungakwazi ukuthola indlela yokwenza ibhizinisi limsebenzele. Uma uthenga kuye izinto, kuzofaka i-Band-Aid kuphela enkingeni futhi kumnike ithemba lokuthi ungase umnikeze ukusekelwa okwengeziwe ngokwezimali esikhathini esizayo.
Enye into okungafanele uyenze? Fly off isibambo. U-Ross uncoma ukuthi uhlale uzolile ngangokunokwenzeka ukuze uqiniseke ukuthi umngane wakho akakunqamuli futhi angene ujule ku-MLM. Uma eyivulile, mnike ikhophi yencwadi Ithonya: IPsychology of Persuasion isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo uRobert Cialdini. Nakuba ingagcini ngokuphathelene nama-MLM, le ncwadi ichaza kahle ukuthi abantu abahlakaniphile bangawa kanjani ngamasu akhohlisayo asetshenziswa yilezi zinkampani. Uma lokho kungasebenzi, finyelela umndeni wakhe nabanye abangani. Uma nonke nivuma ukuthi umngane wakho ujule kakhulu, kungase kube isikhathi sokungenela nokungenelela ochwepheshe.
Kodwa nakuba le ndlela ingase ibonakale idlulele futhi iphikisana, uRoss, osebenzisa ingxenye ethile Amahlelo Ngaphakathi ekungeneleleni kwe-MLM, iphawula ukuthi ukungenelela okuhle kakhulu kuzwakala njengezingxoxo ezijulile ezibekela inselele ngobumnene izinkolelo zomngane wakho kuyilapho zimgcina enesithakazelo engxoxweni. Inhloso enkulu yanoma yikuphi ukungenelela iwukugqugquzela ukucabanga okuzimele ngokuzibandakanya nenqubo yemfundo ehlanganisa ukuhlaziya okubucayi, kusho uRoss. Umuntu okugxilwe kuye ekungeneleleni kumele azibandakanye yena mathupha futhi abe nentshisekelo, noma akukho ukushintshana okunengqondo okuzokwenzeka, futhi umzamo uzohluleka.
Izindaba ezinhle? Ukungenelela kuvame ukuphumelela—amaphesenti angu-75 esikhathi, ngokusho kukaRoss—futhi kungasiza umngane wakho abone, ekugcineni, ukuthi uthandwa kangakanani. Ngisho noma wawuzonda njalo lawo mafutha abalulekile ayisiphukuphuku.
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