Lapho ingane encane yomngane inikezwa izibuko, umcabango wami wokuqala wawuthi, Ingane egqoke izibuko? Uhhhh, yini enhle kakhulu? Kodwa umngane wami wayekhathazekile. Indodakazi yakhe, uBernie, ayizange ikwazi ukubekezelela isigqoko ekhanda layo—ingakwazi kanjani ukumela into ehlaselayo izibuko usuku lonke, nsuku zonke? Futhi lokho kukhathazeka kwakuzwakala. Lapho nje uBernie esefake izibuko (futhi yebo, wayebukeka emuhle kakhulu), wazidonsa ngokushesha, wathi, nezwi nezwi, Cha, cha, cha, washaya phansi ngonyawo wakhala. Yebo, bekuzoba inselele.
Kodwa manje, ezinyangeni ezimbalwa kamuva, uBernie ugqoka amafreyimu akhe aphinki njalo—ekilasini lesiginci, epaki, yonke indawo. (Futhi yebo, usabukeka emuhle kakhulu.) Kodwa u-Bernie akakwazi ukuba yedwa izibuko ezincane ezinikezwayo—futhi umngane wami akakwazi ukuba yedwa umzali okhathazekile ngale ndaba. Ngakho-ke, ngathinta umngane wami kanye nodokotela wamehlo kanye nenxusa lomkhiqizo weTransitions, uDkt. Amanda Rights, O.D., ukuze ngifunde kabanzi mayelana nobudlelwano obukhohlisayo bezibuko zezingane.
Okokuqala, ingabe izingane ezisacathula ziyazidinga ngempela izibuko? Bancane kakhulu.
Ngokungafani naleyo minyaka ngangigqoka izibuko zomgunyathi ezivela kuClaire ngoba ngangicabanga ukuthi kwakupholile (kwakungenjalo), uDkt. Amalungelo usazise ukuthi izinselelo zombono ezinganeni ezisacathula zingokoqobo futhi zingaba nomthelela ekukhuleni kwazo, Kusukela ezinyangeni eziyi-12 kuye kwezingama-36, umbono ungomunye. zezinzwa ezibalulekile izingane ezizisebenzisayo ukuze zifunde imiqondo emisha futhi zithole umhlaba ozizungezile. Kunezizathu eziningi zencwadi kadokotela, okuhlanganisa ukuvikeleka uma bengaboni kahle esweni elilodwa, ukusiza ngokuma kwamehlo aphambene noma angahambi kahle kanye/noma ukuqinisa ukubona esweni elibuthaka noma elivilaphayo (i-amblyopic).
Yiziphi izimpawu eziyisixwayiso abazali abangazibona?
Bheka ukuklolodela, ukunyakazisa amakhanda abo, ukuhlala eduze kakhulu nomabonakude noma izisetshenziswa ezifana nethebhulethi noma ukucikica amehlo ngokweqile, kusho uDkt. Rights, Uma kukhona okuphakamisa ukukhathazeka, yenza isikhathi sokubonana nochwepheshe wokunakekelwa kwamehlo—kungaba udokotela wamehlo noma udokotela wamehlo ongakwazi ukuhlola amehlo ezingane kanye nokuhlolwa kokubona ukuze aqinisekise ukuthi ingane yakho encane inombono noma izinkinga zempilo yamehlo ezidinga ukwelashwa. (Psst, ukuhlolwa kombono ngudokotela wezingane noma omunye udokotela oyinhloko akubhekwa njengengxenye yokuhlolwa okuphelele kwamehlo nombono okwenziwa udokotela wamehlo.) Futhi uma ingane yakho idinga izibuko? Amalungelo athi ukubheka isitolo samehlo esiphatha izingubo zamehlo zezingane ezinodokotela wamehlo esizeni ngoba ukulingana kubalulekile.
Futhi uma usunezibuko, uyenza kanjani ngempela ingane yakho ukuthi izigqoke?
Nakuba uDkt. Rights esitshele ukuthi ukubona kangcono kungaba yisikhuthazo esanele sokugcina izibuko zivuliwe, siyazazi izingane ezithile ( ukukhwehlela , Bernie) abangase bacabange ngenye indlela. Wenzani-ke? UDkt. Amalungelo uphakamisa ukuvumela ingane yakho ibe nesandla ekukhetheni amafreyimu ukuze ayenze izizwe ibalulekile, ifakiwe futhi kanjalo nangaphezulu. Ngokuqondene nomngane wami, zonke izeluleko azitholile zaholela ephuzwini elifanayo: ukufumbathisa—kungaba isikhathi sesikrini, ukudla okulula okukhethekile, amathoyizi nezincwadi. Uphinde waqinisekisa ukuthi indodakazi yakhe iyabona ukuthi wonke umuntu oseduze kwakhe ugqoke izibuko—ubaba, umama, ngisho nabalingiswa kwezinye zezincwadi azikhonzile, Omunye wabangane bakamama wami wanginika incwadi enhle ebizwa ngokuthi. U-Arlo Udinga Izibuko ngenja edinga izibuko. Inja + incwadi = izibuko-egqoke igolide.
Kodwa kuthiwani uma ingane yami isabakhipha? (Kunzima lapha!)
Ukuphefumula okujulile. Awuwedwa. Umngane wami wabhekana nokucindezeleka okukhulu, kodwa yena nomyeni wakhe baqaphela izikhathi eziqondile uBernie ayekhungatheka ngazo futhi aziklebhule izibuko—ekupheleni kosuku lapho ekhathele, emotweni, njll. Asizange senze kanjalo. cindezela ngalezi zikhathi kwazise wayesevele esemkhawulweni wakhe. Lapho uBernie esephapheme ngokuphelele, esekhaya futhi enethezekile, bafumbathisa okunethonya elikhulu: Into [uBernie] ayintandokazi iwukuba i-Facetime nabazala bakhe. Ngakho, saqala ukumtshela ukuthi kufanele agqoke izibuko zakhe uma efuna ukukhuluma nabo. Ngemva kokumelana kwakhe kokuqala, waqala ukudlala ngezibuko, ezibeka ekhanda lakhe. Simvumela ukuthi ahlole futhi azinike isikhathi kanye nabo. Kancane kancane waqala ukujwayela futhi wazigcina isikhathi eside. Waze waqala ukusho igama elithi ‘ingilazi.
