Lo nyaka ubunzima ezinganeni. Futhi ngenkathi wena ingase yazi ukuthi ingane yakho izizwa luhlaza okwesibhakabhaka ngoba ayikwazanga ukwanga ugogo noma ukubona uthisha wayo mathupha izinyanga, ingane yakho ayinalo ulwazimagama lokukutshela ukuthi izizwa kanjani-okwenza ukubhekana nemizwa. kanzima nakakhulu. Faka: amashadi emizwa. Sithepha isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo uDkt. Annette Nunez ukuze uthole ukuthi la mashadi ahlakaniphile angakusiza kanjani zingane ukuhlonza futhi ulawule imizwa yazo (ngisho naleyo esabisa ngempela).
Liyini ishadi lemizwa?
Ishadi lemizwa limane liyishadi noma isondo elilebula imizwa noma imizwa eyahlukene. Kunokuhlukahluka okuningi okuhlukile kwaleli shadi, kuye ngokuthi obani izethameli ezihlosiwe. Isibonelo, Isondo Lemizwa elakhiwe ngu UDkt. Gloria Willcox , inemizwelo embalwa eyisisekelo (enjengokujabula nokusangana) ebese inwebekela kwezinye izinhlobo zomzwelo (ithi, ujabulile noma ukhungathekile) nokunye, ikunikeza imizwa ehlukene engaphezu kuka-40 ongakhetha kuyo (bheka inguqulo yethu yaleli sondo ephrintekayo. ngezansi). Kungenjalo, ungaba neshadi lemizwa elilula eliqondiswe ezinganeni ezincane elimane lilebula imizwa embalwa eyisisekelo (ungathola nesibonelo esiphrintekayo salokhu ngezansi).
Wonke amaqembu obudala angazuza eshadini lemizwa, kusho uDkt. Nunez, enezela ukuthi angasiza izingane zasenkulisa kuze kufike ezikoleni zamabanga aphezulu. Ngeke ufune ukusebenzisa ishadi lemizwa elinemizwelo engu-40 enganeni encane ngoba ngokuthuthuka, ngeke bakuqonde lokho, uyanezela.
Kaitlyn Collins
Ishadi lemizwa lingazisiza kanjani ikakhulukazi izingane?
Amashadi emizwa ayamangalisa ngoba njengabantu abadala siyawazi umehluko phakathi kwemizwa eyinkimbinkimbi, kuchaza uDkt. Nunez. (Ngamanye amazwi, uyazi ukuthi uma ubambe nomhlinzeki wakho womshwalense imizuzu engu-45 uzizwa ukhungathekile futhi ucasukile). Izingane, ngakolunye uhlangothi, azikwazi ukuqonda leyo mizwelo eyinkimbinkimbi. Futhi ukukwazi ukukhomba imizwa ibaluleke kakhulu—njengekhono lempilo elikhulu, elibalulekile. Lokhu kungenxa yokuthi izingane ezifunda ukuhlonza nokuveza imizwa yazo ngendlela efanele kungenzeka zibe nozwela kwabanye, zibe nezinkinga ezimbalwa zokuziphatha futhi zibe nombono omuhle ngokwazo kanye nempilo enhle engokwengqondo. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ukukhungatheka okuza nokungakwazi ukuxhumana nemizwa kungaholela ekuqhumeni kanye nokuncibilika.
Leli khono lokubona imizwa yakho libaluleke ngokukhethekile manje, kusho uDkt. Nunez. Ziningi izinguquko ezenzekayo—izingane eziningi zizizwa izinhlobo eziningi zemizwelo, ngakho-ke kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi izingane ziveze ukuthi zizizwa kanjani, ikakhulukazi uma ukuba sekhaya noma ukuba sezingcingo ze-Zoom kubenza bazizwe bekhathele noma bethukuthele. noma ekhungathekile noma enesizungu. Futhi nasi esinye isizathu esenza ukuthi ishadi lemizwa libe usizo ikakhulukazi, uma kubhekwa isimo samanje: Ukufunda ukuhlonza imizwa nakho kungasiza ukukhathazeka . Ngo-2010, abacwaningi benza a buyekeza lwezifundo zocwaningo ezihlukene eziyi-19 nabantwana ababambiqhaza abasukela eminyakeni emi-2 kuye kweyi-18 ubudala. Abakuthola ukuthi izingane ezingcono zazikwazi ukuhlonza nokubhala imizwa ehlukene, kwase kuba nezimpawu zokukhathazeka ezimbalwa ezizibonisile.
Iphuzu elibalulekile: Ukufunda indlela yokubona nokuveza imizwa ngendlela eyakhayo kusiza izingane ukuba zithuthukise amakhono eziwadingayo ukuze ziwalawule ngokuphumelelayo.
Kaitlyn CollinsFuthi amashadi emizwa angabasiza kanjani abazali?
Ezikhathini eziningi abantu abadala bazowubiza kabi umuzwa wengane, kusho uDkt. Nunez. Ungase uthi, ‘Oh ingane yami izizwa ikhathazeke ngempela,’ ngokwesibonelo. Kodwa-ke lapho ubuza ingane, ‘Kusho ukuthini ukukhathazeka?’ uzothola ukuthi ayinawo umkhondo! Ishadi lomzwelo noma imizwa liwumfanekiso olula osiza ingane ukuthi iqonde ukuthi ukukhungatheka kuwuhlobo lwentukuthelo. Ngakho-ke lapho wethula ishadi lemizwelo enganeni, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuhlonza [umzwelo oyinhloko] bese ungadlulela emizweni eyinkimbinkimbi njengokukhathazeka, ukukhungatheka, ukuziqhenya, ukujabula, njll.