Ukwesaba kwethu kukhuphuka ngaphezu kokujwayelekile kulezi zinsuku, kodwa omama, ikakhulukazi, abanakho ukusweleka kokukhathazeka epuleti labo lomzwelo—ubhubhane noma cha. Umbhali othengisa kakhulu kanye nomqeqeshi wezempilo (nomama osacathula) uGabrielle Bernstein unomkhuba wokuzinakekela ngalokho. Esiqeshini sakamuva se-podcast yomndeni eshisa izikhotha Umama Brain , ephethwe u-Daphne Oz kanye no-Hilaria Baldwin, u-Bernstein wabelane ngamaqhinga akhe okumisa isikhashana, ukukhombisa, nokuphefumula ngesikhathi sokuvalelwa.
1. Icushwe yi-COVID-19? Zama 'Ukubamba Inhliziyo' noma 'Ukubamba Ekhanda'
U-Hilaria Baldwin: Bengingeke ngisho lokhu ukube bekungakabikho, kodwa umyeni wami uneminyaka engama-35 ubudala. Futhi kuyinto eyingxenye enkulu yempilo yethu. Ubelokhu ekhuluma nami kakhulu ngokuthi unzima kangakanani [ubhubhane] kubantu abasebenza kanzima ekuhluzekeni futhi abazabalaza ngoba kuyethusa ngempela manje. Abantu babodwa. Impilo ihluke kakhulu. Abantu balahlekelwe yimisebenzi. Yimaphi amathiphu namasu namathuluzi ongahlomisa ngawo abantu abahluphekayo?
UGabrielle Bernstein: Kumayelana nokuzilawula. Uma sizizwa singalawuleki, sibuyela emaphethini okulutha. Angiphakamisi nganoma iyiphi indlela ukuthi umuntu osekhulile oneminyaka engama-35 uyothatha isiphuzo. Akayena. Kodwa kungenzeka ukuthi ulingisa ngokudla noma ulingisa nge-TV noma ngokunye. Kodwa akuyena kuphela, wonke umuntu. Ngisho nabantu abangazazisi imilutha. Lapho sizizwa singalawuleki, sisebenzisa ezinye izinto—ukudla, ucansi, izithombe zobulili ezingcolile, noma yini—ukuze sibulale lokho kukhathazeka kanye nalowo muzwa wokungaphephile. Yilapho amathuluzi azilawulayo okuphepha engena khona.
Elula iwukubambisa. Kukhona ukubamba inhliziyo nokubamba ikhanda. Ukuze ubambe inhliziyo, ubeka isandla sakho sobunxele phezu kwenhliziyo yakho nesandla sakho sokudla esiswini sakho futhi ungakwazi ukuvala amehlo akho isikhashana. Khona-ke, vele uphefumule ngokujulile futhi ekuhogeleni, wandise i-diaphragm yakho futhi ku-exhale uyivumele ukuthi ifinyeze. Adonse umoya. Edonse umoya. Njengoba uqhubeka nalowo mjikelezo wokuphefumula, yisho izinto ezithambile nezinothando nezinozwelo kuwena. Ngiphephile. Konke kuhamba kahle. Ukuphefumula ngaphakathi nangaphandle. Nginomoya wami. Nginokholo lwami. Ngiphephile. Ngiphephile. Ngiphephile. Vele udonse umoya okokugcina uvule amehlo akho, bese uwudedela lowomoya.
Ungakwazi nokubamba ikhanda lapho isandla sakho sobunxele sisenhliziyweni yakho futhi isandla sakho sokudla sisekhanda lakho. Lokhu kuyibamba elihle kakhulu lokuphepha futhi. Yenza okufanayo. Vele uphefumule isikhathi eside futhi ujule noma usho Ngiphephile noma lalela ingoma epholile kuwe noma ulalele ukuzindla. Kungasiza ngempela.
Futhi ngingumlandeli omkhulu we-Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT). Ngokuyisisekelo i-acupuncture ihlangabezana nokwelashwa. Indlela elula yokuzama ngokwakho ngokuthepha phakathi kwe-pinky yakho nomunwe wendandatho. Kukhona leli phuzu lapho futhi la maphuzu ashukumisa ubuchopho bakho kanye nalawa ma-meridians wamandla ukukhulula ukwesaba okungazi lutho okujulile, ingcindezi, ukukhathazeka-kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kungaba yini. Ngakho-ke, lapho uqaphela ukuthi unokwethuka noma uyatatazela futhi uzizwa ungalawuleki, khomba leli phuzu phakathi komunwe wakho we-pinky nomunwe wakho wendandatho futhi futhi, sebenzisa leyo mantra efanayo. Ngiphephile, ngiphephile, ngiphephile.
2. Uma Lokho Kungasebenzi, Zama Isu Elithi 'Ukufutheka Ekhasini'
Bernstein: Lokhu kusekelwe ngempela ezimfundisweni ze UDkt. John Sarno owabhala okuningi mayelana nokuthi izimo zethu zomzimba ziyi-psychosomatic. Umkhuba 'wokufutheka ekhasini' ulula. Uma ngikwenza, ngidlala umculo wezinhlangothi zombili, oshukumisa izinhlangothi zombili zobuchopho bakho. Ungaya ku-YouTube noma ku-iTunes noma ku-Spotify ukuze uyithole. Bese ngithukuthela imizuzu engu-20. Kusho ukuthini lokho? Ngiyazinika isikhathi, ngivale ukukhala kwefoni yami, ngivale zonke izaziso futhi ngithukuthele ngokoqobo ekhasini. Ngiyayikhipha. Ngibhala konke okusemqondweni wami: Ngimangele ngalesi simo. Ngiyazifela. Angikholwa ukuthi ngikusho lokho ocingweni. Ngikhungathekile ukuthi ngidle leyo nto. Ngiyacasuka ngazo zonke izindaba ezenzekayo. Ngivele ngihlanye. Ukufutheka ekhasini . Uma sekuphele imizuzu engu-20, ngivala amehlo ami—ngisalalele umculo wamazwe amabili—futhi ngizivumela ukuba ngikhululeke. Ngemuva kwalokho, ngizokwenza ukuzindla imizuzu engama-20.
Omama abaningi bayakuzwa lokhu futhi bacabange, bafise lokho, anginayo imizuzu engama-40! Kwenze isikhathi eside kangakanani ongakwenza. Ingxenye ebaluleke kakhulu ukufutheka engxenyeni yekhasi. Ngisho noma ungenza imizuzu emihlanu yokuzindla ngemva kwalokho, kuhle lokho. Umgomo uwukuchitha isikhathi ulahla ukwesaba kwakho okungaphansi kokwazi. Ngoba lapho singaphandle kokulawula futhi sifuna ukubuyela emaphethini okulutha, asikakacubunguli izinto eziqulekile eziza kithi. Futhi sonke siyathuthumela manje. Zonke izilonda zethu zobuntwana ziyaqalwa. Konke ukwesaba kwethu kokuzizwa singaphephile kuyaqala.
U-Daphne Oz: Ingabe uncoma 'ukufutheka ekhasini' into yokuqala ekuseni? Noma ngaphambi kokulala?
Bernstein: Nakanjani hhayi ngaphambi kokulala ngoba awufuni ukuzivuselela. Ngaphambi kokulala kumayelana nokugeza noma a i-yoga nidra , okuwukuzindla kokulala. Ngithanda ukucasuka ekhasini ngo-1 emini. ngoba ngenkathi ingane yami ilala. Ngakho-ke, ngithatha leyo mizuzu engama-40 ngaleso sikhathi. Kodwa ungakwenza ekuseni lapho uvuka, futhi, ngoba kuhloswe ukuba kube ukuhlanza. Thola konke lokho kucasuka okuncane nokwesaba nokukhathazeka kanye nokucasuka, bese uqala usuku lwakho.
Le nhlolokhono ihleliwe futhi yafinyezwa ukuze icace. Ukuze uthole okwengeziwe okuvela ku-Gabrielle Bernstein, lalela ukuvela kwakhe kwakamuva ku-podcast yethu , ‘Mom Brain,’ no-Hilaria Baldwin no-Daphne Oz bese ubhalisa manje.
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