Izelamani ezilwa kakhulu ziyamangala izinzuzo , kusukela esikhunjeni esiqinile ukuya kumakhono okuxoxisana abukhali. Futhi, abazali be-Savvy bayazi ukuthi ubudlelwano obungenazingxabano phakathi kwezelamani abufani nobudlelwano obusondelene, uyabhala Chicago Tribune umlobi wephephandaba labazali uHeidi Stevens. Umgomo uwukuba nezingane ezithanda kanzima njengoba zilwa. Lapha, amathiphu amane okukhulisa abangani abakhulu bempilo yonke ababelana ngayo yonke into—okuhlanganisa nawe.
kupicoo/Getty ImagesYilwa ngobuhlakani phambi kwabo
Lapho abazali besingatha ukungqubuzana nentukuthelo ngomunye nomunye ngendlela enempilo nenenhlonipho, babonisa indlela izingane zabo okufanele zibhekane ngayo. Uma ubhaklaza iminyango, ujikijela inhlamba noma, um, izinto zasendlini zangempela, ukubheja okuphephile bazokulingisa ngokuzayo lapho othile ecindezela izinkinobho zakhe. Kwengezwe ugqozi lokushaya ngaphezu kwebhande (lomzwelo)? Izingane azikwazi ukugcina izimfihlo. Buza noma ubani oshonele ngaphakathi kancane ngesikhathi ingane yakhe itshela udokotela wamazinyo ukuthi uMama wajikijela kanjani uBaba isemishi leqanda lakhe.
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Amashumi amabili namashumi amabiliUma ungabaza, bavumele bakulungise
Ngaphandle kwalapho ukulwa kwezingane zakho sekuzongena endaweni yokuchithwa kwegazi noma ubuxhwanguxhwangu, noma zisabambelele ephethinini lapho ingane endala ibonakala ibusa encane njalo, zinike umzuzu ngaphambi kokuba uhileleke. Ngochwepheshe, ukulwa kwezelamani kungamathuba abalulekile okukhula. Ukungenelela kokucupha izinwele kuthuthukisa kuphela ukuthembela kwabo kuwe njengonompempe. Futhi, ukungenela kungase kusho ukuthatha uhlangothi—indlela eqinisekile yokuvusa umbango wezelamani. Kungase kube nzima kakhulu ukuhlehla futhi ubheke izimo ezingokomzwelo kunokuzama ukuxazulula izinkinga zezingane zakho ngaso leso sikhathi, kubhala uchwepheshe wabazali uMichelle Woo, ecaphuna ucwaningo lwendlela izingane zaseJalimane naseJapane ezikwazi ngayo ukuzimela ngokuxazulula izinkinga phakathi kwazo. . [Izingane] ezikudingayo isiqondiso esingashintshi, indawo yokuhlola imizwa yazo, isibonelo somusa. Okungenzeka ukuthi abakudingi wukuqapha onompempe umdlalo ngamunye. NjengoJeffrey Kluger, umbhali we Umphumela Wezelamani: Lokho Okuvezwa Izibopho Phakathi Kwabafowethu Nodadewethu Ngathi , utshele i-NPR : Omunye wemiphumela ejule kakhulu izingane zakini ezinayo kuwena kuleyo ndawo yamakhono okuxazulula izingxabano, leyo ngxenye yokwakhiwa kobudlelwane nokunakekela.
Amashumi amabili namashumi amabiliNoma ungakwenzi! Kunalokho zama lokhu
Inani elikhulayo lezazi zokusebenza kwengqondo nothisha lifunga ngendlela yokuxazulula izingxabano ebizwa ngokuthi Imibuthano Yokubuyisela . Ungena ekuqaleni kwempi futhi ucele izingane zakho ukuthi ziphefumule kakhulu futhi zihlale phansi nawe ngokuzolile embuthanweni. (Ngokusobala, ngenxa yokuklabalasa kwezimpi zama-banshee, ukuhlukana nokududuza kuza kuqala.) Imizuzu embalwa nje, ingane ngayinye ithola ithuba lokukhuluma isikhalo sayo (Uyabuza: Yini ofuna umfowenu azi?), kanye nenye ingane( ren) kucelwa ukuthi atolike abasanda kukuzwa (Umuzwe ethini udadewenu?). Bese ubuyela enganeni yokuqala (Ingabe yilokho obukuqondile?) kuze kube yilapho kufinyelelwa ukuqondana/zonke izingane zizwakale. Bese wonke umuntu exoxa ngemibono ukuze athole isisombululo esivumelanayo.
Amashumi amabili namashumi amabiliUmndeni odlala ndawonye, uhlala ndawonye
Ngisho—ikakhulukazi—uma izingane zakho zifana namafutha namanzi, noma zihlukene ngeminyaka embalwa, kungase kulinge ukuzivumela ziphile ukuphila okuhlukene. Zama ukungakwenzi. Khetha amathoyizi akhanga wonke amaqembu eminyaka (Marry us, I-Bristle Blocks !), Imisebenzi yeqembu ngezimpelaviki noma ngamaholide omndeni, futhi idinga ukuthi babonise imidlalo yomunye nomunye noma ama-recitations. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi balwa kangakanani, ucwaningo lubonisa isizathu sokuba nethemba. Cishe amaphesenti angu-10, 15 obudlelwane bezelamani buyingozi kangangokuthi abulungiseki, kusho u-Kluger. Kepha amaphesenti angama-85 asuka kokulungiseka kuya kokusabeka. Phela, uyaphawula: Abazali bethu basishiya ngokushesha, abangane bomshado kanye nezingane zethu bafika sekwephuzile…Izelamani ubuhlobo obude kunabo bonke esiyoke sibe nabo ekuphileni kwethu.
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