Cishe usuyazi kakade ukuthi ukuchitha isikhathi nomndeni kunethonya elihle elihlala njalo ekukhuleni kwemizwelo nenhlalo yezingane. Kodwa lokho ongeke ukwazi yikho kanye Kanjani ukuhlwa okuchithwe kudidekile nezingane kuyazizuzisa noma singakanani isikhathi somndeni osidingayo ukuze ungene ukuze ubone imiphumela.
Okokuqala, ezinye izindaba ezinhle: Uma kuziwa emvuzweni izingane ezineminyaka engu-3 kuya kwengu-11 ezivuna ngesikhathi somndeni, ucwaningo oluvela eNyuvesi yaseToronto ibonisa ukuthi inani eliyigugu lihlobene kancane nalo. Kunalokho, i-QT endala enhle iyinkosi. Ngingakubonisa ngokoqobo amashadi angu-20, futhi angu-19 kuwo angabonisi ubuhlobo phakathi kwenani lesikhathi sabazali nemiphumela yezingane. . . . Nada. UZippo, isazi sezokuhlalisana kwabantu kanye nombhali wesifundo uMelissa Milkie utshele iWashington Post . (Ngokuthakazelisayo, uMilkie wathola ukuthi lolu shintsho luyashintsha ebusheni, lapho ukuchitha isikhathi esiningi nomama kuxhunywe emazingeni aphansi okuziphatha okuxekethile.) Ngamanye amazwi, ungawuyeka lowo mhelo wecala owuthola njalo lapho ulahla amabhulokhi athile. ezinyaweni zengane yakho eneminyaka engu-5 ubudala, hleka kancane bese ushesha uye kwelinye igumbi ukuze uqedele ucingo lwenkomfa noma ilondolo. Ngakho, hlobo luni lwesikhathi somkhaya ngempela esenza umehluko ekuphileni kwengane yakho? Qhubeka ufunde ukuze uthole ukuthi kungani izinga isikhathi sibaluleke ngempela, kanye nokusikisela okuwusizo kokuthi ungasifaka kanjani ohlelweni lwakho.
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Izinzuzo Eziyisi-6 Zokuchitha Isikhathi Sekhwalithi Nomndeni
1. Ikhuthaza ukukhulumisana ngokukhululekile
Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kwenziwani, isikhathi esimisiwe esichithwa ndawonye njengomndeni—ngaphandle kokuphazamiseka emsebenzini, amafoni noma imisebenzi yasekhaya—sidala isikhala sengxoxo evulekile. Mhlawumbe izingane zakho bezihlose ukukhuluma nawe ngokuthile kodwa zezwa ukuthi ubambeke kakhulu kweminye imisebenzi ukuthi ungalalela (hey, kuyenzeka). Uma wonke umuntu enokuningi emqondweni wakhe, kulula ukukhohlwa ukuhlola nomndeni mayelana nokuthi usuku lwabo luhambe kanjani. Isikhathi somndeni esiphindelelayo sixazulula inkinga ngokunikeza iyunithi yakho ithuba elingaguquki lokuxhumana nokuzwakala—okuhlangenwe nakho okuthuthukisa ukuxhumana ngokomzwelo. Eziyigugu.
2. Kwakha ukuzethemba
Ngaphandle kokuqinisa izibopho ezingokomzwelo, ukukhulumisana (njengoba kuchazwe ngenhla) nakho kusiza ekwakheni ukuzethemba entsheni okungenzeka ukuthi ayinaso ukuzethemba sokufaka isandla engxoxweni. Ngamanye amazwi, ukunikeza izingane ithuba lokwabelana ngemininingwane emayelana nempilo yazo futhi zivumelane nemibono ngezenzakalo zamanje endaweni ekhululekile yomndeni kuzozenza zizizwe zibalulekile futhi zithuthukise umuzwa wazo wokuzethemba ngaphakathi nangaphandle kweyunithi yenuzi.
3. Ikhombisa ukuguquguquka okuhle komndeni kanye nobudlelwano
Izingane zifunda ngokukopisha abazali bazo, kusho abacwaningi baseMichigan State University (kodwa ubuvele ukwazi lokho, akunjalo?). Lokhu kusho ukuthi noma nini lapho wonke umndeni uhlangana ndawonye, kuba nesikhathi sokufundisa (nokufunda) ngesibonelo. Bobabili abazali bazozuza kancane ngokubona ukuthi omunye uxhumana kanjani nezingane, kuyilapho amalungu amancane azozuza ngokubona ubudlelwano obunempilo obulingiswa abantu abadala. (Ngakho-ke, yebo, mhlawumbe ungakhethi isikhathi somndeni sokuxabana nomuntu wakho obalulekile mayelana nokuthi ubani ogeza izitsha eziningi.)
4. Iqinisa imithetho yomndeni
Imithetho yomkhaya idlala indima enkulu ekuqinisekiseni ukuthi umkhaya ugijima njengomshini ofakwe amafutha amaningi—futhi yiliphi ithuba elingcono lokuthola wonke umuntu ekhasini elilodwa kunalapho iqembu lezigelekeqe lisendaweni eyodwa, ngesikhathi esifanayo. Ukuthi ufuna ukudlulisa ukubaluleka kokulalela abanye ngaphandle kokuphazamiseka noma ugcizelele ukuthi wonke umuntu udinga ukungena ngesikhathi sokuhlanza, isikhathi esimisiwe sindawonye sizosiza ekudluliseleni umlayezo.
5. Kuyasiza ukuhlangabezana nezidingo ezingokomzwelo
Ungase uchithe ithani lesikhathi ukanye nomndeni wakho, kodwa uma leso sikhathi siqondana nezinye izimfuno ezincintisanayo (njengomsebenzi, ukuhlanza, ukwenza izinto ezithile, njll.), akusizi ohlotsheni lokunaka okungahlukaniseki nothando olunenhloso olusiza ubudlelwano. phumelela. Ngokubekela eceleni isikhathi sokuchitha nomkhaya ngaphandle kwezinye izinto, ungakwazi ngempela ukugxila ezidingweni ezingokomzwelo zamalungu omkhaya wakho, kuyilapho unezakho ngokunjalo.
6. Ithuthukisa impilo yengqondo
Ngokusho kokutholwe ngu-a ucwaningo locwaningo ishicilelwe ku Ijenali ye-Epidemiology kanye Nezempilo Yomphakathi , amasiko omndeni nesikhathi sekhwalithi nabazali kuhlobana nempilo yengqondo ethuthukisiwe kanye nokuziphatha okuxekethile okumbalwa phakathi kwentsha, ikakhulukazi. Iphuzu elibalulekile: Iminyaka yobusha ayikona ukuhamba kwekhekhe, kodwa ingase ilawuleke kakhulu kokubili wena nengane yakho uma niveza isikhathi ndawonye.
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