Ubaba wengane esanda kuthola iziqu esikoleni samabanga aphezulu uvusa impikiswano esabalele yokukhulisa umzali ngemva kokwabelana ngokungajabuli kwakhe nezifiso zendodakazi yakhe ngemva kokuphothula iziqu.
Ubaba, ngubani wabelane ngendaba yakhe use I-Reddit's Iforamu ye-AITA ( Am I The A****** ), ichaze ukuthi kungani ezwa ukuthi indodakazi yakhe inobugovu ngokufuna ukuya esikoleni se-Ivy League.
Kuyaqondakala ukuthi uphezu kwenyanga, kusho ubaba ngengane yakhe eneminyaka engu-18 ubudala, eyamukelwa I-Harvard .
Encwadini yakhe, ubaba waqhubeka echaza ukuthi, naphezu kokuziqhenya kwakhe ngempumelelo yengane, wayekholelwa ukuthi kufanele ahlale eduze nabazali bakhe futhi afunde enyuvesi eshibhile kakhulu - kodwa enhle kakhulu - esendaweni yasekhaya lomndeni.
Ukucabanga kwakhe, nokho, kubonakala kuhlukanisa abazali kanye nabaphawula abasekolishi.
‘Ubecasulwe ukuthi asikwazanga ukumjabulela’
U-Redditor uqhube wachaza ukuthi yena nomkakhe bebephusha indodakazi yabo ukuthi ifunde esikoleni esingaphansi kwesifundazwe, njengoba izobe iseduze nohlelo lwayo lokumeseka. Ukwengeza, uzokonga imali eningi ekufundiseni nasezinkokhelweni.
Lesi sikole [sesifundazwe] sishibhe kakhulu futhi unomfundaze ongamkhokhela zonke izifundo zakhe, ngaphandle kwezimali ezikhokhwayo nezincwadi zokufunda, kubhala ubaba.
Khonamanjalo, indodakazi yakhe yabona ukuthi ingxabano yayingenamsebenzi, njengoba abazali bayo babengahlelile ukuyikhokhela imali yokufunda.
Indodakazi yami yayicasulwe ukuthi asikwazanga ukuyijabulela, futhi ithi njengoba kungebona esiyikhokhelayo asinalo izwi, kusho ubaba. Ngiyawuqonda lowo mqondo ... uma egula noma elimala noma edinga ukubuya ekhaya, sizokukhokhela ngokwezimali nangokomzwelo.
Ubaba uphinde waphawula ukuthi indodakazi yakhe encane, eneminyaka engu-12, izophucwa isiqondiso kudadewabo omdala uma ithuthela kwesinye isifunda.
Ngicabanga ukuthi kuyisinqumo sobugovu futhi ngatshela omdala wami kanjalo, kodwa lokho kuvele kwamthukuthelisa nakakhulu, wengeza.
‘Zama ukumjabulisa’
Ebhala ukuthi amanye amalungu omndeni amaningana abehalalisela indodakazi yakhe ngaphandle kokucabanga ngemiphumela, ubaba wabuza abasebenzisi beReddit ngemibono yabo. Abaningi babegxeka kakhulu, bethi ngubaba, hhayi indodakazi yakhe, eyayiziphethe ngobugovu.
Bengicabanga ukuthi uphatheke kabi ngemali - kodwa yizizathu zakho ezikwenza ube [******], kubhala oyedwa ophawulayo . Akanacala ngokulahla amaphupho akhe ukuze asize ukukhulisa udadewabo. Udadewabo akuwona umthwalo wakhe - ingane yakho, umsebenzi wakho.
Akunacala kodwa kuzwakala sengathi nina nizicabangela nina futhi kufanele nimvumele azikhethele yena, omunye wanezela . Futhi ukuya esikoleni se-ivy League asesebenze kanzima kuzomholela nasekutholeni imisebenzi. Myeke nje ajabule futhi uzame ukumjabulisa.
Abanye, ngakolunye uhlangothi, babenozwelo kakhulu, bebhala ukuthi bayaqonda ukuthi ubaba wayevelaphi ngenkathi besamkhuthaza ukuthi asekele ukukhetha kwendodakazi yakhe.
Uma leli kuyiphupho lakhe futhi kungenzeka, mvumele akwenze. AWUKWAZI ukuhlala ugxile kokuthi 'kungaba njani' futhi ucabange ukuthi angalimala/agule futhi adinge ukuza ekhaya, umsebenzisi oyedwa wabhala .
Ungene kwesinye sezikole ezihamba phambili emhlabeni. Lokho kuwugqozi kudadewabo omncane futhi ongamncishi lutho, omunye wathi .
Uma uyithandile le ndaba, bheka Esihlokweni esithi Ulwazi ngomfundi owa wacela iseluleko ngemuva kokubizwa ngenhlamba yobuhlanga phakathi nekilasi lakhe le-inthanethi.
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