Inothi Lomhleli: Lesi sihloko siqukethe okukhulunywa ngakho ngokuphazamiseka kwemikhuba yokudla nokudla okungenamsoco. Sicela uqaphele ngenkathi ufunda, futhi uqaphele izinsiza eziwusizo ekupheleni kwale ndaba.
Ezomphakathi imifanekiso yabantu abanezinkinga zokudla ngokuvamile bonisa imizimba emincane noma ezacile . Kwabaningi, lokho kuwukumelela okunembile kwemiphumela yalezo zimo ezimbi, kodwa lokho kuhlangana okuqinile kuye kwaba nakho wadala isigcwagcwa okungashiya abantu benemizimba emikhulu ngaphandle kokwelashwa abakudingayo.
Umbono oyiphutha wokuthi abantu abakhuluphele ababheki imithelela elimazayo yokuphazamiseka kwemikhuba yokudla, njengokungondleki kahle kanye nesithombe esibi somzimba, ungenza ukuxilonga, ukwelashwa kanye nokululama kube nzima. Eqinisweni, abantu abakhuluphele ngokweqile kungenzeka kakhulu ukuzibandakanya ekudleni nasekudleni okungahlelekile kunalabo abangekho.
Erin Harrop , usonhlalakahle onelayisensi kanye nomsizi kaprofesa eNyuvesi yaseDenver, unalo ucwaningo kanye nokubhala ngokubambisana izifundo eziningi mayelana nokuhlangana phakathi kokucwaswa kwesisindo kanye nokwelashwa kokuphazamiseka kokudla.
Batshele i-The Know ukuthi ngisho nodokotela ongcono kakhulu angase abheke umuntu othile futhi acabange ukuthi, ngokusekelwe kusayizi wakhe, hlobo luni lokuziphatha - olukhawulela njenge-anorexia, ukusetshenziswa ngokweqile njengokungadli kahle noma ukuhlanza njenge-bulimia - bayahlanganyela. Eqinisweni, leyo akuyona neze indlela esebenzayo yokuxilonga umuntu.
Imizimba ingalamba futhi ingondleki kunoma imuphi usayizi, bachaza. Ungaba umuntu okhuluphele, ungadli isikhathi esithile, futhi umzimba wakho awuguquki ngomlingo ube umuntu ozacile ngenxa nje yokuthi ubungadli.
Indlela imizimba yabantu esabela ngayo emikhubeni yokudla engahlelekile ingahluka. Ukuthi umzimba wakho uyayisekela indlala kusekelwe kufuzo, umlando we-epigenetic, ukuhlukumezeka nomlando womuntu siqu. Ayikho indlela yokubuka umuntu futhi wazi konke lokho, kusho uHarrop.
Ayikho indlela yencwadi yokuba nenkinga yokudla, noma. Nakuba lezi zigaba ezintathu ezishiwo ngenhla ziyilokho abantu abaningi abakuqondayo njengokuxilonga okuthathu, abaningi banesethulo esixubile, okuyindlela yemizimba yabo yokusebenzisa zonke izinhlobo zamaqhinga ukuze banciphise isisindo futhi bazisekele.
Ngenxa yenhlamba yesisindo, abantu abakhuluphele abanezinkinga zokudla bangase bangacabangi ukuthi badinga usizo, noma abanye abantu (okuhlanganisa nodokotela) bangase bakuphoqelele.
Uma unenkinga yokudla, sekuvele kunezwi elithi awuguli ngokwanele. Awufanele ukwelashwa, kusho uHarrop. Umphakathi uyakugcizelela lokho ... Kungase kube yizwi lakho lokungadli kahle, okubonakala kulungile. Uma abantu bethi ubukeka umuhle noma uyakhazimula ngenxa yokuthi uya ngomzimba omncane ngenxa yokungadli kahle, akulona uhlobo lwezwi elenza umuntu afune ukwelashwa.
Iqiniso liwukuthi akukho kulokhu kuziphatha okungahlelekile okwenza imizimba yethu isebenze kangcono, baqhubeka. Zonke ziphazamisa ikhwalithi yethu yokuphila kanye nalokho esikwazi ukukwenza ngemizimba yethu.
Ngenxa yokuthi ukululama ngokuvamile kusho ukukhuluphala, kunzima kakhulu kubantu babo bonke osayizi ukuba bamelane nalokho kucabanga okungahlelekile. Ukulwa nenhlamba ehambisana nokukhuluphala phezu kwalokho kungaba isihluku.
Ngicabanga ukuthi kunzima kakhulu ukuqhubeka nokululama njengomuntu okhuluphele, kusho u-Harrop, wengeza ngokuthi babekhuluma ngokuhlangenwe nakho komuntu siqu. Kubantu abakhuluphele, abantu bafana nokuthi, ‘nkulunkulu, kwenzekeni kuwe?’ Bangase bangazi nokuthi yini inkinga yokudla eyingxenye yako ... kukhona amaphoyisa amaningi emizimba enamafutha, futhi kukhona lokhu kucabanga ukuthi wenze iphutha lokululama.
Okubonakala kuyisiphakamiso esingenangozi, njengokunikeza iseluleko mayelana nokulawulwa kwengxenye noma ukudla imifino eminingi, okuvela kwabathandekayo noma ngisho nabezindaba kungaholela abantu ekululameni ukuba baqagele okwesibili indlela abaphatha ngayo imizimba yabo. Kufana nokuthi abantu bafuna ukuthi babe ngcono enkingeni yethu yokudla, kodwa hhayi kangcono kakhulu.
Kubi kakhulu ukuthi abantu banayo yonke le mibono mayelana nokuthi imizimba yabanye abantu ivunyelwe ukwenzani futhi ibe yikho, kuphetha uHarrop.
Isixazululo asilula, kodwa silula: bhekana ne-fatphobia yakho futhi unxuse labo abaseduze kwakho - odokotela, abangani, umndeni, abanye abelulama - ukuthi benze okufanayo. Qaphela ukuthi umhlaba uklanywe kanjani ngendlela ehlelekile ukuze ujezise imizimba emikhulu, bese ubuza ukuthi lokho kuyithinte kanjani imibono yakho ngabanye, kuhlanganise nawe.
Njenganoma yini ehilela impilo yakho, umgomo wokululama akufanele neze kube mncane .
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