Phakathi nobusuku ukuzivalela kanye namahora wokujabula we-Zoom avamile, akumangazi ukuthi kube khona a cishe ukwanda ngamaphesenti angama-250 ekuthengisweni kotshwala ngesikhathi sodlame lwe-coronavirus.
Kodwa nakuba isiphuzo esihlala kude (noma ezimbili) singabonakala singenabungozi kwabanye abantu, kwabanye, ikakhulukazi labo wazabalaza nokulutheka esikhathini esidlule, umkhuba ungashesha udlulele ekusebenziseni kabi izidakamizwa, kuchaza Tim Ryan , ummeli wokutakula rehab.com kanye nesihloko se Idokhumentari ye-A&E i-Dope Man.
Unabantu abacashile futhi, ngemva komsebenzi, bangase baphuze iziphuzo ezimbalwa ebusuku, uRyan, umlutha we-heroin oseluleme, utshele In The Know. Manje yihora lesithathu. Manje yihora lokuqala. Manje sebeqala ukuphuza ngo-10:00 ekuseni.
Ikhredithi: Tim Ryan
Kulabo asebevele beluleme ekusebenziseni kabi izidakamizwa ngesikhathi sodlame, ukuzihlukanisa kungaletha inselelo entsha, ngokusho kukaRyan. Ngokushoda kweshejuli yansuku zonke, isikhathi esiningi esikhululekile kanye nokwesekwa okuncane komuntu mathupha, imilutha yangaphambili isengozini enkulu yokuphindela emuva.
Empeleni,rehab.comibika ukwenyuka ngamaphesenti angama-382 kwethrafikhi yewebhusayithi phakathi nokuhlukaniswa, kuyilapho izingcingo ezithinta impilo yengqondo nokuhlukunyezwa e-US zibone ukukhuphuka okumangazayo okungamaphesenti angama-891.
Esikwenzayo manje wubhubhane phakathi nobhubhane, kuchaza uRyan. Nge-COVID-19, abantu baphila ngokwesaba. Kunokukhathazeka okuningi okwengeziwe. Kodwa lokho abantu abaningi abakwenzayo ukuqala ukufihla izimpawu ngokusebenzisa kabi utshwala nezidakamizwa.
Ngenxa yalezi zinkinga, uRyan wabelane nethi In The Know ngamathiphu akhe okuthi ungakugwema kanjani ukuphinda uvalelwe yedwa, ungabona kanjani othandekayo okungenzeka ukuthi uyahlukumeza kanye nezinsiza ezingcono kakhulu ze-inthanethi zokufuna usizo.
Ukusebenza Ngokuzithiba Ekuvalelweni
Uma kuziwa ekubuyiseleni ukusetshenziswa kabi kwezidakamizwa, isikhathi sokuphumula siyisitha.
Okudingwa abantu yinhloso nokuxhumana, kuchaza uRyan. Ngisho noma bengakalulami, (abantu) badinga injongo nokuxhumana.
Njengamanje, njengoba iningi lomhlaba livaliwe, abantu bangazizwa bebodwa futhi bengenanjongo kunangaphambili, okungadala imikhuba eyingozi ukuthi ibuyele emuva.
Thatha umuntu onezinyanga eziyisithupha edakiwe noma unyaka engadakiwe, kuphawula uRyan. Lokho kuyimpumelelo enkulu.
Nokho, uyanezela ukuthi lapho lowo muntu engakwazi ukuya emihlanganweni yabo yokwesekwa yamasonto onke noma ukuthola uhlamvu lwemali lwezinyanga eziyisithupha noma lonyaka owodwa ukuze aphawule ingqopha-mlando, isikali sempumelelo singase sinciphe kakhulu.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, imilutha elulamayo lapho ivalelwe yodwa ingase izithole ingenaso isimiso esiqinile kanye nensada yesikhathi sokuphumula - isicupho uRyan axwayisa ngokuthi kulula ukuwela kuso.
Njengoba konke kuvaliwe, kufanele ulungise ukweluleka kwakhe. Ungalali kuze kube ngu-10:00, 11:00 ngoba akukho okumele ukwenze - vuka ekuseni. Yidla ukudla kwasekuseni okunempilo. Thandaza futhi uzindle. Zivocavoce. Noma kungaphushwa izikhathi eziyi-10 kanye nezi-10 ngosuku. Udinga ukugcina ingqondo yakho isebenza.
Uphinde akhuthaze labo abasendleleni yokululama ukuthi bazame ukugcina isimo sengqondo esihle, njengoba kungase kubonakale kunzima.
Cisha okuningi okubi ngoba kungaba yileso sisusa esisodwa esithi, ‘Uyazi ukuthini, ngizophuza,’ bese uphuma uye emijahweni futhi, uyachaza. Lesi ukuphela kwesifo esizokutshela ukuthi welashiwe, bese kuvuleka ibhokisi likaPandora.
Uma usendaweni emnyama futhi ucabanga ukusebenzisa...udinga ukuzitshela, uyaqhubeka. Uthathe ifoni yakho, sebenzisa i-FaceTime, finyelela abantu ngoba, ekugcineni, ugula njengezimfihlo zakho kuphela.
‘Uma uyingane engumlutha, uzoyingcwaba.’
Kuyethusa ukucabanga ukuthi ungase ube nabathandekayo abazabalaza ukubhekana nokulutha ngaphandle kokwazi, kodwa, ngokudabukisayo, kungenzeka ngokuphelele.
U-Ryan ukhomba amafulegi ambalwa abomvu okufanele abhekwe lapho ungena cishe.
Uma u-FaceTiming nomngane futhi besho amazwi abo kancane futhi kusemini, kungenzeka ukuthi kunenkinga, uyadalula. Ukuqaphela kuwukuphila. Uma wazi ukuthi kukhona okwenzekayo, maningi amathuba okuthi kukhona okwenzekile.
Uma usuqalile ukusola ukuthi kungase kube nenkinga yokusebenzisa kabi izidakamizwa, uRyan uthi kubalulekile ukuthi ubhekane nothandiweyo wakho ngokuqondile, nakuba ngothando nomusa.
Esinye seziqubulo zami sithi, ‘Uma uyingane engumlutha, uzoyingcwaba,’ embula. Abantu basekhaya manje, basebenzisa okuningi, kodwa akekho ofuna ukukhuluma ngendlovu ekamelweni. Hhayi-ke, leyo ndlovu ekamelweni ayinasizathu sokushintsha. Banophahla phezu kwekhanda labo, izingubo ngemuva, ukudla phezu kwetafula. Akukho ukuziphendulela ngempela. Ngakho uma bengikuleso simo, ngizoqhubeka ngenza engikwenzayo kuze kube yilapho ngibhekana nakho.
‘Bheka izinsiza.’
Kodwa-ke, ukuqala leyo ngxoxo ngokuvamile kuyisinyathelo sokuqala ohambweni olude - isikhathi esiningi, uRyan uthi abantu badinga ukufuna ukungenelela ochwepheshe noma umeluleki noma umelaphi ukuze akusize ngempela ukukuqondisa futhi akuqondise kuleyo nqubo.
Uyatusa rehab.com , enabahlinzeki bokwelashwa abanelayisensi abangaphezu kuka-35,000 futhi evumela abasebenzisi ukuthi baseshe ngaphansi kwemibandela ethile ukuze bathole uhlelo lokubuyisela esimweni esikahle olulungele bona noma abathandekayo babo.
Ungagcwalisa uhlu lwemibuzo lwemizuzwana engama-30, noma ngabe awunawo umshwalense, i-Medicaid, i-Medicare, i-in-network, ngaphandle kwenethiwekhi, u-Ryan uyachaza. Izokunikeza okungenani izinsiza ezintathu phakathi nemizuzwana engama-30 futhi okumele ukwenze ukucela usizo. Senze ukungenelela cishe, ukwelashwa kwezidakamizwa cishe. Ikhona, iyatholakala. Abantu badinga nje ukubheka.
‘Yeka ukumba umgodi.’
Ngaphezu kwakho konke, uRyan uyaqinisekisa ukuthi ukuhlukaniswa kwabantu emhlabeni wonke kuzophela ngolunye usuku, iqiniso okungenzeka kube nzima kakhulu ukuliqonda kulabo abalwa nokulwa nokulutheka.
Uyazi lokhu kungokwesikhashana, usho kanje. Futhi, ngeshwa, lapho abantu bebanjwe uphuzo oludakayo noma ukulutheka, abacabangi ukuthi ikhona indlela yokuphuma.
Okufanele ukwenze ukuyeka ukumba, uyanezela. Yeka ukumba umgodi. Yehlisa ifosholo. Uma unenhliziyo eshayayo, unethemba. Okufanele ukwenze nje ukubeka isandla sakho phezulu ucele usizo futhi kunezinkulungwane zabantu abazoba khona ukuze bakuqondise futhi bakuqondise ukuze bakusize ukukuqondisa endleleni eya ekululameni.
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