Vuma: Wena nomlingani wakho nishintshana ngozakwethu inhlebo esikhundleni sokukhuluma ngomcamelo, anikagqoki noyedwa wama-lacy teddy iminyaka futhi uyeke ukusebenzisa igama lakho lekhodi eminyakeni edlule. (Ngokwerekhodi, bekuyipomegranati.) Siyayithola, futhi asibeki icala. Kwesinye isikhathi uthando luyaxaka. Kungakho sithinte uchwepheshe wezocansi u-Cassandra Corrado, uthisha ozimele oqeqeshelwe ucansi eSikhungo Sokujabulisa Ucansi Nezempilo futhi manje oseyiNgcweti Yezokujabulisa esiteji esisekelwe ku-sex e-San Francisco. O.Isikole , ukuthola izindlela zokukhuluma nomlingani wakho mayelana nokuvuselela impilo yakho yothando. Nawa amathiphu akhe amathathu okuvula i-S.O yakho. mayelana nokuphakamisa umdlalo wakho wocansi.
Hinterhaus Productions/Getty Images1. Letha Ingxoxo Ngaphandle Kwegumbi Lokulala
Ithiphu yokuqala kaCorrado: Ungalethi ukunganeliseki kwakho ekamelweni. Ukukhuluma ngokufuna izinto ezintsha ngokocansi kungaba ingxoxo ethokozisayo, kodwa futhi kungaba ingxoxo esengozini, u-Corrado uyabelana. Ukuba nayo ngenkathi usuyikhumulile akunikezi abantu isikhathi noma indawo yokuthola ukuthi bazizwa kanjani ngezinto. Yebo, noma kulinga kangakanani ukuletha ingxoxo yocansi endaweni lapho okungenzeka ukuthi uye ocansini, kungucha omkhulu. Kunalokho, u-Corrado uncoma ukuthi kutholwe indawo engathathi hlangothi lapho izinhlangothi zombili zizizwa zikhululekile (ingasaphathwa eyembethe ngokugcwele). Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi nizohambahamba ndawonye endaweni noma nizingele ekhoneni elithulile lesitolo sakho sekhofi esiyintandokazi, qiniseka ukuthi awukho ngaphansi kwamakhava lapho uzwakalisa ukukhungatheka kwakho ngesimo samanje sezindaba.
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I-PlusOne2. Nciphisa Phansi Lokhu Okufunayo
Futhi kulelo nothi, zilungiselele ukuxoxa ngokuthi iyini imigomo yakho nokuthi yini oyifunayo ngempela engxoxweni kanye nempilo yakho yothando. Ingabe kukhona ukuzizwisa okusha noma izikhundla onentshisekelo kuzo? Noma amagajethi amasha ongathanda ukuwaletha ekamelweni—njengokuzama a plusOne mini massager futhi okokugcoba ndawonye? U-Corrado uncoma nobabili wena nophathina wakho ngokwehlukana ukuthi nithathe imibuzo yocansi eku-inthanethi ukuze nizicije ngalokho eningathanda ukukufeza ngengxoxo. Bakuvumela ukuthi ucabange ngohlu olukhulu lwezinto ezahlukahlukene ongase ube nentshisekelo kuzo, bese uzothola kuphela ngezinto wena nozakwenu enimatanise kahle kuzo, kubhala uCorrado. Ngaleyo ndlela, wena kanye ne-S.O yakho. ziqala endaweni enolwazi, esikhundleni sokungena engxoxweni ungazi ukuthi omunye umuntu ufisani. (I-FYI: Uveze, nokho, ukuthi imibuzo eminingi ivamise ukwenza imibono mayelana nezitho zangasese zozakwethu ngakho-ke ayihlanganisi izinto eziningi.)
UPaul Bradbury / Getty Izithombe3. Zama Ukubuza Kokubili Ngokuqondile Nokungaqondile
Ekugcineni, u-Corrado wembula ukuthi kunezindlela ezimbili zokuveza isihloko: ngokuqondile (njengokungathi hey, ungathanda yini ukuhlola ubugqila ngesikhathi socansi? Ngingathanda ukuzama ukusebenzisa ezinye izivimbelo zehlakala.') ngokuphambene ngokungaqondile (ukuthumela isihloko? mayelana nesimo se-sexy ongathanda ukusizama bese ubuza ukuthi umlingani wakho ucabangani ngakho). Ungase futhi uzame ukusikisela ekufakeni izinongo ngesikhathi sesigcawu sefilimu esishisayo. Nakuba kungekho ndlela engalungile, u-Corrado unomuzwa wokuthi ukubuza ngokungaqondile kungase kube indlela enhle yokuqala: Kukuvumela ukuba uvule ingxoxo futhi uthole ukuthi umlingani wakho angase azizwe kanjani ngaphambi kokuba uzikhulule kuye ngokuphelele, uyabhala. Futhi uma lokho kungasebenzi, inketho yakho yokwehluleka isondela esihlokweni ngqo. Ngizwa sengathi kufanele senze ucansi olushisayo, olukhulisa izinwele, oh-god-good, kanti akunjalo. Ngicabanga ukuthi kufanele sikuguqule lokho, ngakho-ke ake sikhulume ngakho, indawo enhle yokuqala.
