Kubantu abaningi, ukuzihlanganisa nabantu abangabazi kuyithemba elidabukisayo. KuRob Lawless, nokho, kuyiphupho - nomsebenzi wesikhathi esigcwele.
Ongenamthetho yindoda engemuva Robs10kAbangane . Nsuku zonke, uhlala phansi nabantu abangaba abane ihora elilodwa umuntu emunye, enomgomo wokuthi ekugcineni achithe amahora angu-10 000 nabantu abahlukene abangu-10 000.
Lo mfundi oneminyaka engu-29 ubudala othweswe iziqu ePenn State ubengahlali nabantu angabazi ukuze aziphilise. Kodwa-ke, ngemva kokuchitha iminyaka embalwa kwezezimali nokuthengisa, waqaphela ukuthi uthando lwakhe lwangempela lwalulele ekuxhumaneni kwabantu nokwakha ubudlelwano obusha, obunenjongo.
Ngizibekele umgomo wokuhlangana nabantu engingabazi abangu-10,000 ngoba ngakubona njengethuba lokungena othandweni lwami lokuhlangana nabantu ngenkathi ngenza okuthile kwezamabhizinisi, ngaso sonke isikhathi ngivumela ukuba ngibeke isibonelo esihle sokuthi ukuxhumana kwabantu kufanele kubukeke kanjani, kusho u-Lawless etshela In The. Yazi. Njengoba ngakhe iphrojekthi yami, ngiye ngalwela ukukhuthaza abanye ukuthi baphathe ukuxhumana kwabantu njengokuhlangenwe nakho kunokuthengiselana.
U-Lawless waqala i-Robs10kFriends emuva ngo-November 2015 ngesikhathi esasebenza isikhathi esigcwele njengomphathi wezentengiso esiqalisweni sokuhlaziya idatha i-RJMetrics. Ngaleso sikhathi, wathi uzothumela i-imeyili futhi athumele i-DM abantu abangahleliwe - abaningi babo abathole ngabo UBilly Penn Uhlu Olulandelayo lukabani - futhi nginethemba lokuthi bazophendula.
Ngenxa yokuthi ngangingenayo i-ajenda ngaphandle kokuba nesithakazelo kulabo engangixhumana nabo, abantu basabela kahle ngempela futhi iphrojekthi yakhula ikakhulukazi ngokukhuluma ngomlomo, kuchaza u-Lawless. Abantu abaningi engahlangana nabo ekuqaleni (namanje) babethi phakathi nehora lethu, ‘Ngazi abantu abambalwa abangathakazelisa ngempela ngawe ukukhuluma nabo!’
Namuhla, cishe abantu abangaba ngu-4,000 kamuva, u-Lawless uxhumana nabantu abaxhumana naye nge-imeyili noma ezinkundleni zokuxhumana. Nabalandeli abangaphezu kuka-37,000 ku-Instagram kanye nabalandeli abacishe babe ngu-8,000 ku-TikTok , unenqwaba yezifundo ezithakazelisayo angakhetha kuzo.
Ukulandela kukaLawless kwezokuxhumana okukhulayo yindlela akwazi ngayo ukushintsha i-Robs10kFriends ibe iphrojekthi yesikhathi esigcwele. Lo somabhizinisi uthe njengoba i-akhawunti yakhe isizuze ukunakwa kwabezindaba, ubambisene nawo wonke umuntu kusukela ekhemisi elincanyana likamama no-pop ukuze ahlanganyele i-behemoth yendawo yokusebenza i-WeWork. Ubuye abe ne Patreon lapho abalandeli benganikela khona ngenani lanyanga zonke abalikhethile futhi bahlanganyele nomphakathi ngendlela esondelene kakhulu.
Vele, iminikelo ye-Patreon kanye noxhaso lwezinkampani alukwazi ukuhambisana neholo lommeleli wezentengiso, ngakho-ke u-Lawless kuye kwadingeka ehlise ithani lezindleko (kufakwe nerenti). Kuye, nokho, lokho kuyinani elincane ongalikhokha ukuze ubone iRobs10kFriends ukuze iqedele futhi uthole izindaba eziphusile lapho.
Pho u-Lawless ufundeni kule minyaka emihlanu selokhu aqala iRobs10kFriends? U-extrovert uthe, mhlawumbe okubaluleke kakhulu, ufunde ukubona ukuxhumana kwabantu ngendlela ehlukile, nokwazisa okwengeziwe.
Ngifunde ukuthi ukuphatha ukuxhumana kwabantu njengesipiliyoni esikhundleni sokuthengiselana kuyindlela emangalisayo yokuphila, kusho umthengisi wangaphambili. Ikuvumela ukuthi uthokozele ukuhluka nokufana kwabantu ngenkathi udala umuzwa wokuba sengozini ngenxa yesimo esihlanganyelwe sokuba sengozini.
U-Lawless uphinde wathi ngephrojekthi yakhe - nangokuhlangana nezinkulungwane zabantu abavela kuzo zonke izizinda ezahlukahlukene zempilo - usezakhele ukwazisa okusha ngakho konke abusiswe ngakho - ikakhulukazi ngemuva kokukhuluma nezihloko ezinjengalezi. Bojana Corilic , isisulu sokudutshulwa kwabantu abaningi eSerbia, futhi Chris Gellenbeck , owaba sengozini enyantisayo yomkhumbi futhi walulama ngokuyisimangaliso.
Ngokuxhumana kwami, ngithole umuzwa omkhulu wokubonga ngezipho enginazo empilweni yami (umndeni onothando, abangani abahle, umsebenzi ongigcwalisayo), echaza. Ngiye ngahlangana nabantu abaningi, ngokwesibonelo, abalahlekelwe abathandekayo noma abangenalo uhlelo oluqinile lokusekela njengami.
Ekugcineni, u-Lawless uyazi ukuthi i-Robs10kFriends izophela. (Eqinisweni, inedethi yokuphela elinganiselwe kakhulu!) Nokho, akahleli ukushiya umsebenzi kanye namaphupho akhe ngokuphelele lapho esehlale phansi nesihambi sakhe sokugcina; kunalokho, uthemba ukuthi uzoqhubeka ekhuthaza abantu ngezinkulumo ezisondelene nezimo kanye nezifundo zasekolishi.
Ngokomsebenzi, ngihlela ukuchitha isikhathi sami ngifundisa izifundo zasenyuvesi lapho abafundi behlala khona phansi u-1:1 futhi bafunde ezizindeni zomunye nomunye ngokuphambene nencwadi yokufunda noma amaslayidi e-powerpoint, u-Lawless wathi ngezinhlelo zakhe zekusasa. Ngihlela nokuzondla ngokukhuluma ngephrojekthi yami emanyuvesi nasezinkampanini.
U-Lawless usenenqwaba yabantu angabazi angahlangana nabo ngaphambi kokuthi ajoyine umhlaba wezemfundo, nokho. Uma ungathanda ukuba yingxenye yephrojekthi yakhe ye-Robs10kFriends, ungaxhumana naye noma ngewebhusayithi yakhe noma ku-Instagram .
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