Umbuzo: Yizikhathi zangemva kobhubhane futhi nginesizungu ngemuva kokuqhelelana nomphakathi njengowesifazane ongashadile unyaka. Ezikhathini Zangaphambili, ngangingamelene nokubuyisela umuntu ekhaya uma ngifuna ukuhlangana naye, ngisho noma ngangisanda kuhlangana naye. Manje, nokho, ngizizwa ngingakhululekile futhi nginokuzinyeza (kokubili mayelana nendlela engibheka ngayo ngemva kokugqoka ama-sweatpants unyaka, futhi nje, njengokuthi, ezingeni lokuphepha). Usizo! Ngizwa sengathi i-mojo yami yocansi neyokuhlalisana iphukile.
U-Rachel L., eNew Jersey
A: Rachel, ungowesifazane wonyaka. Hhayi nje eyethu-eyesizwe. Ngoba wonke abelaphi, uchwepheshe kwezocansi nowesifazane ongashadile esikhulume naye wezwa izinto eziningi ezifanayo ozichazayo Kodwa ngenhlanhla, laba bacebisi banamacebiso namasu okuphatha isigameko esisha sokuphola ngemva kokuhlukaniswa, kanye nokukhathazeka kwakho.
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Iqiniso #1: Awuwedwa-Abantu abaningi Bakhathazekile Ngokuqomisana Nocansi Manje
Ngokusho kukamelaphi wocansi UTammy Nelson , amaklayenti azwakalisa ukukhathazeka okukhulu mayelana nokungena kabusha hhayi kuphela emsebenzini nokuzijabulisa kodwa nasemikhubeni yawo emidala yobulili. Ukulahlekelwa amakhono okuxhumana nabantu, ukugunda izinwele okungekuhle kwasekhaya, ukwanda kobhubhane, kubhala uNelson. Njengoba iqiniso lifika, abantu abaningi bayamangala.Isinyathelo sokuqala, ochwepheshe bayavuma, siwukuvuma ukungakhululeki kwakho. Ngokuvumelana ne Vienna uFaro , Umelaphi womshado nomndeni ozinze eNew York City, Ukulawula ukukhathazeka kudinga ukuthi sikuvume ngobumnene kuqala futhi sichithe isikhathi nakho. Kungcono ukuthi sazi kunokuphika futhi sikufihle. (Wasungula uhlelo lokusebenza lwezempilo yengqondo oluku-inthanethi olubizwa ngokuthi Eyami ukusiza amaklayenti enze lokho kanye.) Isikhumbuzo esihle ukukhumbula ukuthi sisonke kulokhu. Ukungazethembi, ukwesaba kanye nokungabaza okungenzeka ube nakho kubonakala ngandlela thize nakubo [abangaba ozakwethu], esho.
Iqiniso #2: Ukuzijwayeza Kwenza Kuphelele
Ngakho-ke uma usubonile ukukhathazeka kwakho, udlula kanjani kukho? Izinyathelo zezingane, kusho u-Emily Morse, umculi wezocansi kanye noDkt. Ruth wesizukulwane esisha ngokusho kwe New York Times . Ngemuva konyaka wokuhlukaniswa nomphakathi, iningi lethu selikhohliwe ukuthi kudlalwa kanjani ngothando nokujola ne-IRL. Izindaba ezinhle ukuthi ngokuzijwayeza uzoba namandla futhi ucansi kakhulu kunangaphambili. Esiqeshini sakamuva se-podcast yakhe Ucansi no-Emily , ukhumbuza abalaleli ukuba bahlangane nomuntu abamthandayo, basondele kuye ngaphambili ukuze bangabashaqisi futhi babhekane nabo (kodwa hhayi ngendlela esabekayo yaseHollywood) ngenkathi bekhuluma ukuze bazi ukuthi ungubani. onentshisekelo.
Ngaphandle kwalokho, ochwepheshe bayacaca ukuthi akufanele uzishaye uma ungasuki usuka emakhandleleni - noma ube nenhlanhla ngamathani ozakwethu - njengoba wenzile ngaphambi kwalolu bhubhane. Austin, uTammy Shaklee ozinze eTexas, umlingani we-LGBTQ kanye nommeli kanye nomnikazi we H4M isevisi yokwenza umentshisi, uthi mina mathupha ngicabanga ukuthi isiko le-hook up elidlule liye lalulazeka kancane, okungenani okwamanje. Ngizwa abangashadile beqaphela kakhulu. Okusho ukuthi, uma lokhu kungase kube ingozi, ingabe yilo muntu engingazifaka engozini ngenxa yakhe? Ukuthi uwuthathele phezulu umgomo akusho ukuthi umuntu ongashadile naye wenze okufanayo. Uma beveza izizathu zabo zokungawuthathi umgomo, ingabe lo muntu ufanele ukuxhunyaniswa?
Iqiniso #3: Cacisa Wena kanye Nosuku Lwakho
Esikhundleni semibuzo evuleke kakhulu, ngizwa abantu bebuza ukuthi UNE-COVID NINI? Umgomo wakho wesibili wokugoma uthathwe ngaluphi usuku? Kusho uShaklee. Abantu abaningi [ba]thatha isibopho somuntu siqu sokuqinisekisa ukuthi sekuphele amasonto amabili kusukela ekudutshulweni kwesibili. Sifuna izimpawu zokuzibophezela, ukuzithiba kanye nokukhuthala okufanele empilweni yomuntu siqu neyomphakathi.
Umelaphi womshado nomndeni u-Pharaon uyavuma: Noma ngabe ufuna okuthile okungathí sina, ukugijima kwehlobo okujabulisayo noma ukuhlangana, kubaluleke kakhulu ukucacisa ukuthi yini oyidingayo ukuze uzizwe ukhululekile futhi uphephile. Zinike isikhathi sokucabangela lokho okubalulekile kuwe: Ingabe unendaba uma othile egonyiwe? Ingabe unesithakazelo kuphela kubantu abathandana nomuntu oyedwa ngesikhathi? Ingabe uyafuna ukwazi okwengeziwe ngendlela yabo yokuphila ukuze ukwazi ukunquma ukuthi ingabe kuzwakala kukhululekile kuwe? Uphinde uncome ukuthi nakuba ukuqomisana okuku-inthanethi noma kwe-IRL kungadingeki kushintshe kakhulu ngenxa yokukhathazeka nge-COVID, Kuhle ukuthi uqale kancane kancane njengoba isistimu yakho ijwayela futhi uzihlole wena nokuthi uzizwa kanjani ngemva kokuswayipha, ukuthumela imiyalezo nokuthandana. . Ngaleyo ndlela, ukubuyela ezinsukwini zomuntu akuyona nje indlela yokubuyela ocansini, kodwa futhi kuwukuzivocavoca ekuthuthukiseni ulwazi lwakho mayelana nalokho okwenzayo nongakuthandi ebudlelwaneni, noma ngabe ubuhlobo buhlala njalo. amahora ambalwa kuphela.
Ithiphu yethu yochwepheshe esiyintandokazi, nokho, ayihlangene kangako nomsebenzi wangaphakathi wokwakha inhlonipho. Iphuma ku-matchmaker u-Shaklee, futhi ingeyodwa esingayemukela kalula—ukuthenga. Njengoba ekubeka, Uma wena, njengabaningi bethu, uzuze i-Covid 15 noma 20 opondo, bese [uphuma uyothenga] izingubo ezinhle, ezintsha nezinethezekile kanye nezingubo zangaphansi ezinyakazisa lawo majika amasha.
Phela, ukwelapha okuncane okuthengisayo akukaze kulimaze muntu.
