Isikhathi eside, kwakungeyona into embi ukuhambahamba nebhulukwe elikhulu...kuze kube umuntu wanquma ukuthi kwakunjalo. Akukhathalekile ukuthi ngabe othile bekuwena (onqume ukunuka kwakho indle) noma umama nobaba wakho (abanqume ukuthi sebeqedile ukuhlanza ukungcola okungadingekile). Noma ngabe yisiphi isimo, isigaba esesabekayo sokuqeqeshwa kwezindlu zangasese saqala…
Kungani sikhuluma ngomlando wakho ngamanabukeni, bheka le minyaka eminingi edlule? Uzwelo, abantu. Phela, ukuqeqesha ingane encane, njengezici eziningi zokukhulisa umzali, kuthatha isineke esikhulu, ngakho-ke qala ngokungena kumithombo yakho yozwelo. Kodwa futhi kudinga ukukhuthala, amahlaya kanye nohlelo lomdlalo. Qhubeka ufunde ukuze uthole iqoqo lezindlela ezingcono kakhulu namathiphu okuqeqesha amabhodwe-okufingqiwe, ukuze ukwazi ukupheqa phakathi kwawo ngesikhathi esikuthathayo ukuze… eh, noma yini.
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Ingxenye yokuqala yomsebenzi wokuqeqesha amabhodwe iphathelene nokuhlola ukulungela kwengane yakho. Wazi konke mayelana nezigigaba zentuthuko okwamanje...futhi ukulahla amanabukeni kungenye yazo. Njengezinye eziningi eziyingqopha-mlando, lena ngeke ifinyelelwe ngesikhathi esifanayo yiyo yonke ingane (futhi ububanzi bubanzi), kodwa izingane eziningi ziqala inqubo endaweni ethile phakathi kwezinyanga eziyi-18 neminyaka engu-3 ubudala.
Kodwa unganquma kanjani ukuthi sekuyisikhathi sokuba ingane yakho iyenze? Nokho, ngo-1999, iphephabhuku le-American Academy of Pediatrics lashicilela i-a inkomba guide kodokotela abamele indlela egxile enganeni (okuningi kulokho kamuva) futhi belulekwa ukuthi kubhekwe lezi zimpawu ezingezansi zokulungela ngokomzimba, ingqondo kanye nemizwelo ngaphambi kokuqala:
- ukudonsa noma ukukhipha inabukeni elimanzi noma elingcolile
- ukumemezela (ukusho) isidingo sokuchama noma ukuchama ngaphambi kokwenza isenzo
- ukuvuka womile ngemva kokulala, noma ukuhlala womile amahora amabili noma ngaphezulu wokuphaphama
- ezwakalisa ukungakhululeki ngokuba nenabukeni elingcolile nokucela ukushintshwa
- ukucasha/ukufuna indawo yangasese lapho uyochama noma uchame
Kodwa inqwaba yezinye izici ingaba nomthelela ekukulungeleni komntwana ngamunye, futhi ngezinye izikhathi izimpawu azicacisi kangako futhi azicaciswanga ngokucacile, kusho uT. Berry Brazelton, M.D., unjiniyela wendlela yokufundisa eqondiswe ezinganeni nombhali Ukuqeqeshwa Kwendlu Yangasese: Indlela yaseBrazelton . Ngokwe-AAP: Le modeli yokuqeqeshwa kwendlu yangasese ihlanganisa amandla amathathu ahlukile ekukhuleni kwengane: ukuvuthwa komzimba (isb., ikhono lokuhlala, ukuhamba, ukugqoka nokukhumula); impendulo yangaphandle (okungukuthi, uyaqonda futhi uphendule imiyalelo); kanye nempendulo yangaphakathi (isb., ukuzethemba kanye nogqozi, isifiso sokulingisa kanye nokuhlobana nabeluleki, ukuzimisela kanye nokuzimela).
Ukuzizwa ucindezelekile? Ungakwenzi. Uma ubona ezinye zalezo zimpawu ezithile, uthola ukukhanya okuluhlaza. Uma unokungabaza mayelana nokulungela ukukhula kwengane yakho, khuluma nodokotela wakho wezingane kuqala ukuze akuqinisekise. (Futhi khumbula, uma uqala ngokushesha, ungavele ume bese uzama futhi ngemva kwesikhathi. Ayikho into enkulu, inqobo nje uma ungakwenzi.)
Izindlela Ezimbili Zokuqeqesha Ngamabhodwe
Ziningi izindlela zokuqeqesha amabhodwe, kodwa uma ufunda ngazo kakhulu (unecala!) zonke zingaqala ukuzwakala zifana kakhulu ngokuguqulwa okuncane kuphela. Ukuze kube lula, nokho, kuncika kumugqa wakho wesikhathi ohlosiwe. Ngalo mqondo, izindlela ezimbili eziyinhloko yindlela eholwa yingane (egunyazwe yi-AAP) kanye nendlela yokuqeqesha amabhodwe yezinsuku ezintathu (egunyazwe omama emhlabeni wonke abangafuni ukuchitha iminyaka emibili yokuqeqeshwa ngamabhodwe). Zombili izindlela ziyasebenza. Qhubeka ufunde ukuze uthole okwengeziwe ngesu ngalinye.
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Le ndlela yasungulwa okokuqala nguDkt. Brazelton ngeminyaka yawo-1960 futhi isalokhu ingesinye sezikole zomcabango ezihamba phambili emhlabeni wokuqeqeshwa ngamabhodwe. Udokotela wezingane odumile, uDkt. Brazelton wabheka iziguli zakhe futhi waphetha ngokuthi abazali babephusha izingane zabo ezitimeleni zamanzi ngokushesha, futhi ingcindezi ebekwe ezinganeni yayiphikisana nenqubo. Encwadini yakhe edayisa kakhulu, Amaphoyinti wokuthinta , uDkt. Brazelton ukhuthaza ukuthi abazali bayeke kuze kube yilapho ingane yabo ibonisa izimpawu zokulungela (endaweni ethile phakathi nezinyanga ezingu-18) ezihlanganisa ukuthuthukiswa kolimi, ukulingisa, ukuhlanzeka, ukuncipha kokungaboni ngaso linye... Uma lezi zimpawu sezibonakala, ukuqeqeshwa endlini yangasese. inqubo ingaqala— kancane kakhulu futhi kancane kancane. Iyiphi indima yabazali, uyabuza? Kuyinto engenzi lutho kakhulu. UDkt. Brazelton uncoma ukuthi abazali babonise ingane yabo isinyathelo ngasinye senqubo ... futhi yilokho ngakho. Isihluthulelo sale ndlela ukuthi kufanele okungenani wenze sengathi awunasandla kule nqubo lapho ingane yakho ilingisa izinyathelo ombonise yona, futhi kufanele wamukele ukuthi kungase kuthathe isikhathi eside ngaphambi kokuba ibonise intshisekelo yokwenza. ibhizinisi lakhe endaweni efanele.
Izinyathelo Zokuqeqeshwa Kwezindlu Zangasese Eziholwa Yingane:
- Lahla amanabukeni futhi utshele ingane yakho ukuthi wenza kanjalo. Kwenze kube mnandi futhi kube kuhle, kodwa qala inqubo nge- fanfare encane ngangokunokwenzeka ukuze ingane yakho zizwe sengathi ukuqeqeshwa ngebhodwe evamile futhi akuyona into enkulu. U-Glowacki uthi ungagcina amanabukeni ebusuku nangezizathu ezingokoqobo (njengokugibela izimoto ezinde), kodwa uxwayisa ngokuthi lokhu kuzokwenza inqubo ibe yinde njengoba ingane yakho isazocabanga ukuthi iyinketho.
- Ezinsukwini ezintathu zokuqala ungaphumi endlini, awugqoki ibhulukwe noma impahla yangaphansi enganeni yakho futhi ngeke uwasuse amehlo akho kuyo. Lapho nje ubona ezinye zezimpawu zomntwana wakho ngamunye, mshayele ebhodweni (noma ushelele ibhodwe ngaphansi kwakhe) ukuze uyibambe ngokoqobo ichame noma ipipi. Uma wenza udeshi, shesha kodwa ungajahi. Yebo, uketshezi lomzimba luzongena phansi. Kodwa umqondo wukuthi lokhu kuzokwenzeka kancane kancane njengoba eqala ukukhomba imizwa eholela ekumphuthumiseni ebhodweni. Ekugcineni, uma ezwa ukuthi kuyeza, uzoncamela ukuzitholela ebhodweni.
- Phakathi kwamadeshi ebhodweni, yazisa ingane yakho ngezikhathi ezithile futhi uyikhumbuze ukuthi ilalele umzimba wayo. Ungasheshi ngokweqile, ngoba lokho kuyabambezela, futhi ukubelesela kuyacasula. Ncoma ingane yakho nganoma yini egcina isisebhodweni, kodwa ungayeqisi, ngoba ukungena ebhodweni evamile . Uma ukuchama kuwela phansi esikhundleni salokho, ungathukutheli noma uthethise, vele usho okuthile okunjengokuthi, Eshu, ngokuzayo sizofaka lokho ebhodweni esikhundleni salokho.
- Ngemva kwezinsuku ezimbalwa zokujwayela ibhodwe, ungakwazi ukubeka ingane yakho ungqimba olulodwa phansi-ibhulukwe noma izingubo zangaphansi. U-Glowacki uthi kungcono ukungenzi kokubili, ngoba izingane zingaphazamisa ukuzwa kwezendlalelo ezimbili ngokuzwa kokugqoka i-diaper. Ngamanye amazwi, uma ucabanga ukuthi usulungele ukuphuma endlini, qiniseka ukuthi ingane yakho iyahamba.
- Okunye umlando. Amakhono azoqhubeka eqina, futhi ekugcineni ngeke udinge ngisho nokuletha ibhodwe langaphandle emisebenzini yakho.
Ngakho ngokwalezi zinyathelo, indlela eholwa yingane ibonakala iyisibopho esinejubane elifanele lamaviki ayisithupha. Hhayi impela. UDkt. Brazelton uthi buyela emuva kumanabukeni uma ingane yakho inengozi phansi, futhi uma ingane yakho ikhathazeka noma imelana, hlehla ngokushesha futhi ukhohlwe. Kokubili izingozi nokumelana nakho akunakugwenywa, ngakho-ke uzozithola usubuyele esikweleni izikhathi eziningi. Ngakho, indlela eholwa yingane ingathatha isikhathi eside kakhulu futhi ivame ukuhlotshaniswa nokuqeqeshwa sekwephuzile. Okuhle kakhulu, uma unesineke sokuqeqeshwa okuholwa yingane, inqubo imnene futhi igwema zonke izingibe ezivamile zokuqeqeshwa ngamabhodwe, njengalapho ingcindezi yabazali idala izinhlangano ezingezinhle kanye nemibango yamandla yomzali wengane.
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Le ndlela yokuqeqesha amabhodwe omlilo osheshayo ngokuyisisekelo iphambene nendlela kaDkt. Brazelton eholwa yingane futhi yaqala ukuduma ngeminyaka yawo-'70s ngencwadi ka-Nathan Azrin kanye no-Richard Foxx, Ukuqeqeshwa Kwezindlu Zangasese Ngaphansi Kosuku . Kusukela ngaleso sikhathi iye yashintshwa abanye ababhali nochwepheshe abaningi ukuze ivumelane kangcono nezimiso zamanje zobuzali. Ngokombono wethu, incwadi engcono kakhulu yendlela yokuqeqesha amabhodwe yezinsuku ezintathu Oh Crap! Ukuqeqeshwa Kwamabhodwe , ibhalwe ngu Jamie Glowacki , umfundisi oqeqeshelwa izimbiza futhi ozibiza nge-Pied Piper of Poop. Ingqikithi yale ndlela iwukuthi ulahla amanabukeni ngomkhosi, uvimbele isimiso sakho sempelasonto ende futhi unikele ngakho konke ukunaka kwakho ukubuka konke ukunyakaza kwengane yakho encane engenalutho ukuze ifunde izinkomba zayo (futhi imsize afunde eyakhe).
Uqala nini? Ngokungangabazeki, ukuqeqesha amabhodwe kulula kakhulu uma kwenziwa phakathi kweminyaka engu-20 nezinyanga ezingu-30, uGlowacki ubhala, kodwa akudingeki ukhathazeke kakhulu ngokulungela inqobo nje uma ingane yakho isikhulile kunezinyanga ezingu-18, ngoba le nqubo ngokuyisisekelo iqala nge ingane ithola ukulungela kwayo. U-Glowacki uchaza umugqa wesikhathi kanje: Sithatha ukuqwashisa kwengane yakho kukho Awazi ku Ngachama ku Ngiyachama ku Kuzomele Ngiyochama ezinsukwini ezimbalwa.
Izinyathelo Zendlela Yokuqeqesha Ngamabhodwe Yezinsuku Ezi-3
U-Glowacki uchaza inqubo ngamabhulokhi, hhayi izinsuku, kodwa ezinganeni eziningi yonke into yenzeka ngokushesha okukhulu—noma kuphi kusukela ezinsukwini ezintathu kuya emasontweni amabili ukuze ziqeqesheke ngokugcwele ngamabhodwe. I-block yokuqala kuphela idinga ukuqapha okuphelele, ngoba kulesi sigaba ingane yakho ingakaqapheli. Ukuvimba okubili kusadinga iso eliqaphile, kodwa kuleli qophelo ingane yakho izohileleka kakhulu kule nqubo. I-block three imayelana nokuqinisa amakhono, usho kanje.
Isizathu sokuthi le ndlela isebenze ngokushesha yingoba akufanele uhlehle lapho uqala ukuphikiswa. U-Glowacki uchaza ukuthi ibhulokhi ngayinye inedrama yayo eyingqayizivele okufanele ilindelwe ngabomvu, futhi indlela ozosabela ngayo emdlalweni izonquma intuthuko nesimo sengqondo somntanakho ngale nqubo. Ingane yakho izomelana noshintsho futhi ingase ize yesaba. Yenza hhayi yenza imizwa yakhe ingasebenzi, kusho u-Glowacki, kodwa hlala ungashintshi noma uzogcina usungenelisa ukwesaba kwakhe. Uma ubhekene nokucasuka okukhulu ngenxa yokusebenzisa ibhodwe, u-Glowacki utshela amaklayenti akhe ukuthi aqine kodwa abe mnene: Khumbuza bese uyahamba...akukaze kwenzeke ukuthi ingane ibe nokucasuka ekamelweni elingenalutho.
Ngingayikhetha Kanjani Indlela Elungile?
Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ukhetha yiphi indlela, iphrojekthi ukuzethemba. Ochwepheshe kuwo womabili amakamu bayavuma ukuthi ukucindezela kwabazali kuyisitha uma kuziwa ekuqeqesheni amabhodwe okuphumelelayo. Ngempela, leli qiniso liyizindaba ezindala emphakathini wezokwelapha. Odokotela ku-AAP bayaqaphela ukuthi izinkinga eziningi zokuqeqeshwa kwezindlu zangasese ezethula kubasebenzi bezempilo zibonisa imizamo yokuqeqesha engafanele kanye nengcindezi yabazali. UGlowacki uyavuma: Njengoba eseneminyaka engaphezu kweshumi esebenza nemindeni ekuqeqesheni amabhodwe, uzibonele mathupha ukuthi izindlela ezimbili ezivame kakhulu zokucindezela kwabazali—ukuntweza kanye nokushoshozela ngokweqile—ziphumela kanjani emibangweni yamandla ephazamisa inqubo. Ngeke futhi awusoze wawina umzabalazo wamandla wokuqeqesha ngebhodwe nomntwana osacathula.
Ngakho-ke, ngokuyisisekelo, yidlale ipholile noma uzobe uhlanza izingubo zangaphansi ezingcolile isikhathi eside (futhi uchithe usuku owethule ngalo ingane yakho ku-crapper).
YIZIPHI AMATOILET OKUQEQESHA AMADODA AMAHLE?
Konke kuqala ngesihlalo sobhodwe, ngakho qiniseka ukuthi uthola esihle futhi ukhululekile. Bheka lezi zincomo zamabhodwe avunyelwe abazali kanye nalawo asacathula.
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Leli bhodwe liletha ukunethezeka, futhi ingemuva eliphezulu liyisici esihle enganeni esesiteji sokuqeqeshwa kwebhodwe okubandakanya ukuhlala isikhathi eside wonke amathoyizi . Okuhle kunakho konke, kulula kakhulu ukuthulula nokuhlanza.
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Ukududuza kuyisihluthulelo uma kuziwa ekuqinisekiseni ingane ukuthi ihlale ebhodweni, futhi lesi sihlalo sokuqeqesha esivela ku-Jool singenye inketho enhle. Izibambo zisiza izingane ezisacathula ezintengantengayo ukuthi zihlale zizinzile lapho zihlezi futhi zinikeza indawo yokubambelela lapho zifunda ukuphusha indle zihlezi.
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Umkhiqizo omuhle kakhulu wokuphuma ngaphandle kwendlu ngaphandle kwenabukeni. Yivule ebaleni lokudlala, endaweni yokupaka, noma yikuphi! Amalayini alahlwayo enza kube lula ukuhlanzwa, futhi endaweni eyisicaba anamathela kunoma iyiphi indlu yangasese evamile ukuze ingane yakho ikwazi ukuhlala ngokunethezeka endlini yangasese yokudlela.
