Uma ubungavala amehlo akho umzuzu ucabange ngosuku lwakho, yimiphi imishwana oyikhumbulayo uyisho ezinganeni zakho lapho uyiphinda? Amathuba amazwi qaphela! zamenyezwa okungenani kanye noma kabili (mhlawumbe ngaphandle kokushaywa! futhi ubani owenze lokhu?). Kodwa lokho akukubi kangako, akunjalo? Uzama nje ukugcina izingane zakho—kanye nanoma ubani oweqa indlela yazo—ekungalimazini.
Kodwa nansi into: Ukuhlala utshela izingane ukuthi ziqaphele kusho ukuthi ngeke zifunde ukuzifaka engozini noma ukwenza amaphutha. Ngokuyisisekelo igama elilingana namagama amabili elithi helicopter umzali (kanye nomzala wayo, umzali we-snowplow).
Ukuzifaka engozini kusho ukwehluleka kwesinye isikhathi, kubhala uchwepheshe wokukhulisa izingane uJamie Glowacki ku Oh Crap! Nginengane Esacathula . Uma ungalokothi uzibeke engcupheni, uma uyidlala ngokuphepha ngaso sonke isikhathi, uyesaba ukwenza iphutha. Uba nokwesaba ukwehluleka. Umphumela walesi simo sengqondo esiwumongo uthinta abantu kukho konke ukuphila kwabo. Khumbula, ukwehluleka akuyona into embi ngempela—empeleni, ukuphuma endaweni yokunethezeka ngokuvamile kuhambisana nempumelelo. (Buza nje Oprah Winfrey , Bill Gates noma Vera Wang ).
Futhi nakhu okunye okufanele ukucabangele—ukumemeza qaphela ukuthi ingane eshwiba ngenjabulo ezindongeni zezinkawu kuyithumela umlayezo wokuthi awukwethembi ukwahlulela kwayo noma ukuthi kunezingozi ezifihliwe ezingabonwa abantu abadala kuphela. Lawula ukungabaza nokukhathazeka. Empeleni, Ucwaningo olulodwa oluvela esikhungweni se-Emotional Health sase-Macquarie University ithole ukuthi ukungakhuthazi izingane ukuthi zifake ubungozi kungabangela izinkinga zokukhathazeka kamuva.
Kodwa kuthiwani uma ingane yakho ibonakala sengathi isizowa noma ilimaze? Ungase umangale ukuthi yini ingane yakho engayenza, kuphikisa u-Glowacki. Lapho siluma izindebe zethu, sigodla ukuthi ‘qaphela,’ cishe njalo sithola ukuthi izingane zethu zilungile futhi zinekhono kakhulu kunalokho ebesikucabanga. Bangakwazi ukuzulazula engozini yabo kangcono kunalokho esikucabangayo. Nakuba bangase benze amaphutha endleleni, nakanjani bayoba ezinye super cool impumelelo. Ukuhlolwa kwengozi kuyakhula futhi kuyaqhakaza kule ndawo. Qaphela: Kukhona ezinye izimo (ake sithi, endaweni yokupaka ephithizelayo) lapho amagama athi qaphela afaneleka ngokuphelele—futhi ayadingeka.
Bheka, lapho umemeza ingane yakho ukuthi uqaphele! ebaleni lokudlala, kusobala ukuthi awuzami ukuvimbela ukukhula kwabo. Lokho oyikho ngempela ukucela ukuhlolwa kobungozi. Umthandi wemvelo, isihambi kanye nomama wabantwana abane u-Josée Bergeron we BackwoodsMama.com iyasihlephula: esikhundleni sokukhula okungatheni, zama ukusebenzisa lesi sikhathi njengethuba lokugqugquzela ukuqwashisa nokuxazulula izinkinga. Nakhu okunye ukusikisela okuvela kuBergeron (kanye nokumbalwa okuvela kithi) ngendlela yokukhuthaza womabili la makhono abalulekile esikhundleni salokho lokusebenzisa amagama qaphela.
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