Usesitolo segrosa futhi ingane yakho ikubuza ukuthi kungani izaqathi ziwolintshi. Khona-ke, lapho uphuma uya emotweni, ufuna ukwazi ukuthi zingaki izimoto ezikhona emhlabeni wonke. Futhi ekushayeleni kwakho ekhaya, imibuzo eyisigidi (Kulungile, efana nemihlanu) mayelana nokuthi ucabanga ukuthi umngane wakhe uCharlie wenzani njengamanje. Ngenkathi ukuleveli eyodwa, ushayela ihlombe ilukuluku le-mini yakho, kwelinye—kunjalo eqeda amandla (ikakhulukazi uma uzama ukususa amalitha amabili ka-ayisikhilimu bese uqala amanzi e-pasta).
Kodwa nansi into—yize le mibuzo ingase ibonakale ingahleliwe, empeleni ingamathuba okuthola ukuqonda okubalulekile kokuthi kwenzakalani ekhanda lengane yakho. Futhi ngenkathi kulinga ukuphendula ngokushesha engingawazi kuyo yonke imibuzo, u-Rachel Lugo, umeluleki oqeqeshiwe onelayisensi kwa- I-Watson Institute ePittsburgh , inesiphakamiso esingcono. Uyakunxusa ukuthi ulalele imicabango yengane yakho kunalokho uphendule ngokuthi, ucabangani?
Kungase kukhathale ngezinye izikhathi ukuhlale ubuzwa imibuzo, noma kunjalo, kubalulekile ukuthi abazali bahlale bekhumbula ukuthi lapho ingane ibuza umbuzo, kuyinkomba emicabangweni nasemibonweni yabo, kusho uLugo. Ngokuphendula umbuzo, unethuba lokwazi ingane yakho—kanye nokusebenza kwayo kwangaphakathi—kangcono. Ungase umangale!
Isibonelo, mhlawumbe ubenengxabano noCharlie izolo futhi udinga ukukhuluma ngakho. Noma mhlawumbe ukhathazekile ngokuthi uCharlie udlala nomunye umngane esikhundleni sakhe. Khona-ke futhi, mhlawumbe yonke imibuzo kaCharlie iwumphumela nje wokushayela udlula umuzi kaCharlie endleleni ebuya esitolo esikhulu. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi isimo siyini, isithakazelo sakho engxoxweni sibonisa ukuthi umbono wezwe wengane yakho ubalulekile. Ngakho-ke ungakunciphisi.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, uLugo uthi kubalulekile ukuthi abazali basebenzise la mathuba amancane ukwakha ubuhlobo futhi bafundise izingane ukubaluleka kokusebenza ngemibuzo yazo.
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