Uthanda umlingani wakho kakhulu, kodwa ngezinye izikhathi mhlawumbe ufuna ukumphonsa eweni. Noma kunjalo, ufisa ukwazi: Iyini imfihlo yempumelelo yesikhathi eside? Yebo, udeveli usemininingwaneni, kunjalo. Ngokwabacwaningi, imibhangqwana eshadile ejabulayo ivame ukuba nalezi zimfanelo ezinhlanu.
1. Babeka Imikhuba Emihle Eqhulwini
Nihlale ndawonye isikhathi esingakanani? Yebo kulula ukukhohlwa ukuthi ngicela futhi ubonge uma ucela umlingani wakho ukuthi adlulise usawoti noma abambe umnyango. Kodwa imibhangqwana ebudlelwaneni obuqinile ithi umzamo ohlanganyelwe wokubonga njalo uyinto eyenza umehluko uma kuziwa ekuhlanganiseni okujabulisayo (nesikhathi eside). Eqinisweni, ucwaningo olwanyatheliswa kujenali Ubudlelwano Bomuntu Siqu bathola ukuthi ukubonisa ukwazisa kuyisihluthulelo somshado onempilo nophumelelayo nokuthi isenzo esilula sokuthi ngiyabonga kumngane wakho womshado singaba namandla anele okumelana nomonakalo ngisho nempi yokuqhumisa. (Akukhona ukuthi nixabana kaningi kangakanani, kodwa indlela eniphathana ngayo lapho niphikisana okubalulekile, ababhali bocwaningo bayachaza.)
2. Ababelani ngokweqile ku-inthanethi
Sonke sinakho labo abangani ababhushuzela ku-inthanethi mayelana nayo yonke ingqophamlando yombhangqwana owodwa. Isikhumbuzo sokuqala? Kumnandi. Isikhumbuzo sokuqala sesikhathi lapho uqala ukwabelana ngama-ayisikhilimu ndawonye? Hmm, umsolwa kancane. Ngokuvumelana ne abacwaningi baseHaverford College , lapho othile ezizwa engavikelekile ngobudlelwano bakhe, maningi amathuba okuthi athumele ezinkundleni zokuxhumana mayelana nabo ukuze buqinisekiswe. Kunalokho, imibhangqwana ejabulayo ijabulela kakhulu ukukhumbula izenzakalo ezibalulekile ngasese.
3. Bajatshuliswa Ukuzama Izinto Ezintsha
Indawo yokudlela lapho wonke umuntu azi igama lakho iyingxenye eyamukelekayo yokuqomisana kwenu, kodwa izithandani ezihlala zenza umzamo wokuhlanganisa izinto zijabule ebudlelwaneni, ngokusho izifundo eziningana kuhlanganise eyodwa eyanyatheliswa Rutgers University . Isizathu? Izinto ezintsha ziyasebenza—isenzo sokumane nenze izinto ezintsha ndawonye njengombhangqwana sisiza ukubuyisela izimvemvane futhi sivuse lokho kunyuka kwamakhemikhali esikhungweni semivuzo sobuchopho bakho obekuphakeme ezinsukwini zangaphambili. Futhi, ukunyakazisa izinto akunzima njengoba kuzwakala. Awudingi ukushwiba kusuka kuma-chandeliers. Vele uye engxenyeni entsha yedolobha, uthathe uhambo ezweni noma okungcono, ungenzi izinhlelo futhi ubone ukuthi kwenzekani kuwe, kusho uDkt. Helen E. Fisher waseRutgers I-New York Times .
4. Abanaki I-PDA Encane
Cha, asikhulumi ngocansi njalo ebusuku, kodwa imibhangqwana eshadile ejabulayo yilabo abalungile ngezenzo ezincane zothando lomzimba. Ucwaningo ku Ijenali Yobudlelwano Bomuntu Siqu kanye Nomphakathi ibika ukuthi ukumane uqalise ukuthintana ngokomzimba—ukubambana ngezandla, ukugona esofeni, ukugona—kungabonisa umlingani wakho ukuthi kukhona okungenani isifiso sokuba seduze.
5. Abalokothi Bashiye Izitsha KuSinki
Imibhangqwana eminingi ibeka lokhu njengesilwane esifuywayo esihamba phambili, kodwa imibhangqwana ehlala ndawonye yenza umsebenzi wokudla ndawonye, ngokusho kwe Pew Research poll . Konke kuza emzamweni ohlanganyelwe wokwenza imisebenzi yasekhaya (ebuye isebenze njengokuvuma ukuthi idla isikhathi). Ngakho-ke, lesositsha sokusanhlamvu usishiye ku-sink-side esizothatha imizuzwana emibili ukuwasha? Kwenze nje. Umshado ojabulisayo uwumvuzo wakho.
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