Kuyini Umsebenzi Wemizwelo?
Igama elithi ukusebenzelana ngokomzwelo laqalwa isazi sezokuhlalisana kwabantu u-Arlie Hochschild encwadini yakhe yango-1983 ngesihloko esithi, Inhliziyo Ephethwe . Incazelo yokuqala kaHochschild ibhekisele emsebenzini wokulawula imizwelo yomuntu siqu eyayidingwa ubungcweti obuthile. Ngokwesibonelo, abalindi basendizeni kulindeleke ukuba bamoyizele futhi babe nobungane ngisho nasezimweni ezicindezelayo. Lokho kuwumsebenzi wemizwa. Kodwa leli gama selisebenza ezindabeni ezingaphandle kwendawo yokusebenza. Ekusetshenzisweni kwamanje, umsebenzi othinta imizwa uvame ukusetshenziswa ukuchaza umsebenzi owenziwa endaweni yasekhaya, futhi okudingekayo ukuze kugcinwe ikhaya lisebenza kahle. Lapho umngane womshado enza owengeziwe walomsebenzi—ukuhlanza indlu, ukuphatha isimiso sezingane, ukuthumela amakhadi eholide ezihlotsheni, ukulethela umzali osekhulile ukudla, nokunye—kunomunye, kungase kubangele kalula ukucasuka nokungezwani.
Lokho akusho ukuthi kusebenza kuyo yonke imisebenzi yasekhaya. Ebuzwa ngu I-Atlantic noma ngabe kuwumsebenzi othinta imizwa ukuba ngumuntu kumbhangqwana ohlale e-RSVP ezimemweni zephathi, futhi uqinisekisa ukuthi ushayela amalungu omndeni wakho ucingo njalo ngokwanele, futhi ukhumbula izinsuku zokuzalwa, waphawula, Hhayi ngokwemvelo. Kungenzeka, uma uzizwa unomthwalo futhi ucasukile futhi ulawula ukucasuka kwakho.
Indlela Yokulinganisa Umsebenzi Wemizwelo Ebudlelwaneni
1. Qonda wena kanye neDynamic Yomlingani Wakho
Isinyathelo sokuqala sokuxazulula inkinga, kungakhathaliseki uhlobo lwenkinga, ukuyichaza. Ebudlelwaneni bobulili obuhlukile, umsebenzi ongokomzwelo uvame ukuwela kwabesifazane, abavame ukufakwa esimweni futhi bahlanganyele ukuze baphile impilo yemizwa yabanye. Kodwa kuthiwani ngemibhangqwana yobulili obufanayo noma imibhangqwana yabantu bobulili obuhlukile lapho ingxenye enkulu yemisebenzi engokomzwelo iwela endodeni? Ukungalingani kokusebenza ngokomzwelo akuhlali kuhambisana nobulili, kodwa ukuchaza amandla akho nomlingani wakho kubalulekile noma kunjalo. Cabanga ngokujulile ngokuthi ubani owenza umsebenzi omningi endlini. Ukuvuma ukungalingani kuyadingeka ukuze ukulungise.
2. Khuluma Ngayo
Ukuze kwenziwe noma yiluphi ushintsho, wena nophathina wakho kufanele nibe sekhasini elilodwa. Kodwa wenza kanjani ngokuba nale ngxoxo engase ibe nzima? Per Erin Wiley, umeluleki wemishado kanye nomqondisi omkhulu we Isikhungo se-Willow , kulapho ukuqalisa okuthambile kufanele kungene khona. Ihlanganiswe yi- I-Gottman Institute , umqondo wokuthi ingxabano iphetha ngendlela efanayo eqala ngayo, ngakho-ke uma ungena kuyo igcwele izinsolo nokungabi nandaba, ngeke iphele kahle. Ngokuyisisekelo, ufuna ukukhononda ngaphandle kokusola, uthi. Gxila emaqinisweni. Ngokwesibonelo, umshini wokuwasha izitsha ungase uthi: ‘Ngizizwa ngiphelelwa amandla lapho ungibheka lapho ngenza lokhu ngoba kungenza ngizizwe ngahlulelwa.’ Lokhu kuphumelela kakhulu kunokuthi, ‘Uma ubheka ngale. kimina futhi, ngeke ngiphinde ngiwulayishe lo mshini wokugeza izitsha.’ Umgomo wakho kufanele kube ukufaka isikhalo kodwa ususe noma yikuphi ukugxeka okusobala noma iphimbo elibi.
Udinga futhi ukuqaphela ukuthi lena akuyona ingxoxo yesikhathi esisodwa, okuyilapho ukungena ngezikhathi kusiza khona. Uma usuqhamuke nendlela enokulingana emsebenzini, hlela ukungena ngokushesha (lokhu kungaba, njengokuthi, imizuzu eyishumi ngesonto noma isonto ngalinye) ukuze ukhulume ngokuthi nobabili nizizwa kahle yini noma cha. ukuhlukaniswa komsebenzi. Ukuthatha izinga lokushisa lomzwelo lakho njalo kuyindlela enhle yokubona nokulungisa izinkinga ezincane ngaphambi kokuba zithole ithuba lokuba izinkinga ezinkulu.
3. Yenza Umsebenzi Ongabonakali Ubonakale
Ihlanganiswe esihlokweni sango-1987 yisazi sezokuhlalisana kwabantu U-Arlene Daniels , umsebenzi ongabonakali ubhekisela emsebenzini ongakhokhelwa ongabonakali, ongaziswa futhi ngaleyo ndlela, ongalawulwa. Ebudlelwaneni bobulili obuhlukile, abesifazane bavame ukunikezwa le misebenzi enganakiwe, okusho ukuthi ubuningi bomsebenzi owenziwayo kungenzeka bungabonwa nangowesilisa osebudlelwaneni. Uma uzwa sengathi umlingani wakho akazi nokuthi wenzani, cabanga ngokuhlala phansi ubhale zonke izinto okufanele zenziwe ukuze ikhaya lakho lihambe kahle, futhi uqaphele ukuthi yimuphi umlingani onesibopho somsebenzi ngamunye. Ukubona uhlu lwezinto ezibonakalayo kungabavula amehlo nobabili: Ungase ujwayele ukwenza yonke into kangangokuthi awuboni ukuthi ungakanani umsebenzi owela emahlombe akho, futhi umlingani wakho angase angaqondi ukuthi ungakanani kuthatha ukuhlela ikhaya lakho nempilo yakho.
4. Gxila Ekuziguquleni
Ezweni elihle, lapho umlingani wakho ebona ukungalingani emsebenzini womzwelo, uzokwamukela lolo lwazi futhi enze umzamo wokulinganisa izinto. Kodwa nansi into: noma ngabe umlingani wakho engakwazi noma engafuni ukuyekethisa kule misebenzi, usengashintsha. UDkt. Candice Hargons, Ph.D., umsizi kaprofesa eNyuvesi yaseKentucky kanye nodokotela wezengqondo onelayisensi, utshele I-New York Times , Ubuhle be-dynamics yombhangqwana ukuthi uma umuntu oyedwa eshintsha, umbhangqwana ushintshile. Uma umuntu osikwa ngokomzwelo eya ekwelapheni komuntu ngamunye futhi efunda ukuyeka omunye umthwalo wemfanelo wokusikwa ngokomzwelo, omunye umlingani unokukhetha ukudlulela komunye umlingani noma aqale ukunakekela izidingo zakhe ezingokomzwelo kanye nezidingo zomndeni ngokuhlukile.
5. Khumbula Ukuthi Umaqondana Wakho Akayena Umuntu Ofunda Ingqondo
Ikakhulukazi uma kuziwa ekusebenzeni okungabonakali, kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuthi umlingani wakho angase anganaki nhlobo inani lomsebenzi owenzayo, okusho ukuthi ukwenqaba kwabo ngokusobala ukusiza kubangelwa ukuntula ulwazi kunenzondo. Ngokusho kwe-neuropsychologist UDkt. Sanam Hafeez , 'Sivame ukuthumela amasiginali kozakwethu ukuthi izenzo zabo azisijabulisi, kodwa amasiginali awacacile, awasho lutho futhi awaphenduli iqiniso lokuthi irada yozakwenu ingase ingafundi ngisho namasignali akho. Ngakho-ke amathuba okuthi lokho kububula okucashile, ukugoba kwamehlo nokuvungama ngaphansi kokuphefumula kwakho kungadida umlingani wakho noma kungabonakali ngokuphelele.
Esikhundleni salokho, u-Hafeez uphakamisa ukuthi ukhiphe eyodwa yale mishwana ukuze uyiphendule ngokuzayo lapho i-S.O yakho. ukunganaki ukusiza:
- Kungenza ngizizwe sengathi anginaye umuntu engithembele kuye ngezinto ezincane.
- Ngifuna ugcine izwi lakho uma uthi kukhona ozokwenza. Kuyamangaza lapho kufanele ngenze izinto eziningi kunalokho okufanele ngenze.
Yingakho le mishwana isebenza: Uveza ngokukhululekile okulindele nokuthi kukwenza uzizwe kanjani uma kungahlangatshezwana nayo. Kuvumeleke ngokuphelele kumlingani wakho ukuthi angabeki phambili izinto ezifanayo ozenzayo, ikakhulukazi imininingwane nemisebenzi yasekhaya, kuchaza u-Hafeez. Kodwa iphuzu lokuba sebudlelwaneni ukufunda ukuyekethisa, ukuqinisekisa kanye nokufaka isandla ekuthuthukiseni izinto ezithinta umlingani wakho.
6. Nikeza Ngempendulo Enhle Yoshintsho Oluhle
Ake sithi umlingani wakho uvulekele ukuthatha umsebenzi omningi ngokomzwelo. Ngisho noma unomuzwa wokuthi ubudlelwano bakho bekufanele ngabe bulingana kudala, kubalulekile ukuqaphela izinguquko ezinhle ezenziwe umlingani wakho. Wonke umuntu uyathanda ukuzizwa ehlonishwa, kodwa ukuba sebudlelwaneni besikhathi eside kungasho ukuthi niqala ukuthathana kalula. Ucwaningo olushicilelwe kujenali Ubudlelwano Bomuntu Siqu bathola ukuthi ukubonga kuyisihluthulelo somshado onempilo nophumelelayo. Eqinisweni, abacwaningi bathola ukuthi isenzo esilula sokusho njalo ukuthi ngiyabonga kumlingani wakho singaba namandla ngokwanele ukuvikela ukuthambekela kwesehlukaniso kombhangqwana.
Umugqa Ophansi
Kubantu abaningi, ukuthatha ingxenye enkulu yomsebenzi ongokomzwelo ekhaya kungabakhandla ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo. Kodwa ngenhlanhla, ukushintsha ukuguquguquka phakathi komsebenzi owenzayo wena nomlingani wakho akunzima kangako. Kusukela ekwamukeleni ukungalingani kuya ekumiseni ukungena ngezikhathi ezithile ukuze uqiniseke ukuthi ugcina isabelo esilinganayo semisebenzi yasekhaya, ukulinganisa umsebenzi ongokomzwelo ebudlelwaneni bakho kuyisinyathelo esidingekayo ukuze uqinisekise kokubili injabulo yakho neyomlingani wakho.
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