Ukulahlekelwa isilwane esifuywayo kuyinto edabukisayo, ehlukumeza amathumbu, ayikho into enhle, embi kakhulu. Izilwane ezifuywayo zisazi kangcono kunabantu abaningi; bangabangane bethu, amalungu omndeni kanye nesethenjwa sethu. Kulo nyaka, abangani bami abathathu abahlukene kwadingeka bakhulule izinja zabo ezigugile, ukukhetha okunzima okungekho muntu ofuna ukukwenza. Ngesikhathi sabo sosizi, isazela sami sasiwukubazwela—ukubazisa ukuthi umkhaya wami futhi kwadingeka sibeke phansi inja nokuthi silahlekelwe ezinye ezimbili ezingozini ezingalindelekile. Nokho, ngifunde ukuthi akukhona lokho okumelwe ukusho kumuntu oshonelwe isilwane esifuywayo. Akukho mayelana nami-noma wena. Kumayelana nabo. Nansi imishwana embalwa okufanele uyigweme lapho othile elahlekelwa isilwane esifuywayo, kanye nezinye izindlela ezimbalwa eziwusizo.
1. Ungasho ukuthi unjani?
Lokhu akucacile kakhulu (futhi usuyayazi impendulo). Akugcini nje ngokubeka umuntu ososizini esimweni esinzima kakhulu sokukukhumbuza ukuthi akaphilile, kodwa futhi kukwenza ubukeke unganakile lapho mhlawumbe unendaba nokuthi baqhuba kanjani. Cabanga ukuthi abalungile futhi esikhundleni salokho ubazise ukudabuka kuyinto evamile futhi kwamukelekile.
2. Ungasho ukuthi ngiyazi ukuthi uzizwa kanjani.
Lokhu kube yindlela yami yokuya, futhi ngiyafunga ukuthi ngizokugwema ukusuka lapha kuye phambili. Inhloso yami ukwazisa umngane ukuthi akayedwa. Okuphumayo empeleni akusizi futhi kunobugovu. Angazi ukuthi omunye umuntu uzizwa kanjani, ngisho noma sobabili silahlekelwe isilwane esifuywayo. Ikhambi elihle ukwethembeka: Angikwazi ukucabanga ukuthi uzizwa kanjani. Le nto inzima kakhulu.
3. Ungasho ukuthi Ngazise uma kukhona okudingayo.
Isexwayiso esingacacile! Uyadabukisa lo muntu bantu. Ungabenzi bakutshele abakudingayo. Nikeza izenzo eziphathekayo. Bameme ukuze uthole ingilazi yewayini. Batshele ukuthi uzofika ngehora lesi-6 nepizza. Sebenzisa okucacisiwe ukuze kungadingeki benze noma yimuphi umsebenzi, futhi ubavumele ukuthi benqabe ukunikezwa kwakho. Futhi, akuphathelene nawe-noma mina.
4. Ungasho Okungenani bekungeyona ingane yakho.
Okokuqala, lokhu kubenza bacabange ngokufa kwengane yabo (okungafanele). Okwesibili, ilulaza ukuxhumana kwabo ngokomzwelo nesilwane sabo. Okwesithathu, noma imuphi umushwana oqala ngokuthi okungenani unobungozi bokuthi pooh-pooh imizwa yabo, ngakho-ke igweme ngazo zonke izindlela. Yebo, kungaba nzima kubantu abangenazo izilwane ezifuywayo ukuqonda ubudlelwano obucebile abakha abanikazi bezilwane nezilwane zabo. Lokho akusona isizathu sokwenza ukukhanya komzuzu omnyama. Uma ungaqondi usizi lwabo (futhi kunzima ukukuqonda noma ubani usizi), vele ugxile eqinisweni lokuthi bayalimaza futhi ubasekele ngezinto ezinjengokuthi ngiyaxolisa futhi ngizodlula ngehora lesi-6 nepizza.
5. Ungasho Manje ungathola isilwane esisha!
Noma iyiphi inguqulo ye-Uwuthola nini umdlwane omusha? noma Ake sikutholele elinye ikati alinambitheki kahle (kanye nesikhathi). Usizi luvamile futhi kudingeka lwenzeke ngaphambi kokuba abantu belaphe ngokwanele ukuze batshale isikhathi sabo, uthando namandla kwesinye isilwane esifuywayo. Lapho abazali bami belahlekelwa yinja yakithi, umama wafunga imidlwane unomphela. Wabe esethi uyadinga ezimbili izinja esikhundleni esisodwa. Ezinyangeni ezimbalwa kamuva, wakhetha Ilebhu ebomvu enhle, wayiqamba ngokuthi uFrannie futhi isaqhubeka nokumosha njalo. Umugqa wesikhathi wawo wonke umuntu uhlukile; ungaphoqi kubo.
6. Ungasho ukuthi Nibe neminyaka eyishumi yobumnandi nindawonye.
Um, yebo. Bayazi. Yingakho lokhu kunzima kakhulu.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, nazi izinto ezine esikukhuthaza ukuba uzisho kumuntu oshonelwe isilwane esifuywayo esithandekayo.
1. Uthi Khumbula nini...?
Enye indlela enhle yokuphakamisa ukuthola isilwane esifuywayo esisha noma ukumane usho nje ukuthi isilwane sasekhaya siphile isikhathi esingakanani kukukhumbuza izinkumbulo ezinhle onazo zaleso silwane. Noma iyiphi i-anecdote ehlekisayo yesilwane sazo esiphuzile ingumdlalo olungile. Uma unesithombe sakho nesilwane sabo esifuywayo, sithumele ngento efana nokuthi Khumbula ngenkathi uRufus ekhotha isoso onyaweni lwami?
2. Isho ukuthi ngilapha ukuze sikhulume noma nini lapho udinga.
Futhi, umugqa wesikhathi wosizi wawo wonke umuntu uhlukile. Abanye abantu badinga ukukhipha yonke imicabango yabo ngosuku, kuyilapho abanye bezozindla buthule ngokwenzeka amasonto ambalwa ngaphambi kokuvula. Tholakele ukuze ubalalele lapho sebelungile, ukhumbula ukuthi kungenzeka usudlulile ngesikhathi befinyelela.
3. Yisho okuthile .
Ukuziba inhlekelele kuyindlela enhle yokwenza umuntu azizwe kabi kakhulu. Akekho onamagama aphelele—ukufa kunzima ngempela!—ngakho ukusho into efifizelayo ukuze nje ubazise ukuthi uyaxolisa ngalokho abhekene nakho kungcono kunokuvala umlomo wakho noma ukukugwema kulesi sikhathi okungenzeka ukuthi bayakudinga ngaso. wena kakhulu.
4. Zifezekise izithembiso.
Uma uthi ngilapha ukuze sikhulume noma nini lapho udinga noma ngizodlula ngehora lesi-6 ngiphethe i-pizza, ungabheki. Izenzo zikhuluma kakhulu kunamazwi, futhi izithembiso eziyize zizokwenza umngane wakho ososizini azizwe eyedwa.
Khumbula, wonke umuntu nabo bonke ubudlelwano buhluke kakhulu. Okusebenza kahle kumuntu oyedwa kungase kube ukudelela omunye. Uma ungabaza, vuma ukuthi isimo sinzima kangakanani bese uhlala uthule ulalele.
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